Unkosikazi uyindoda ecaleni. Ukuba indoda inomfazi, inkosikazi yakhe yowesibini umfazi, kodwa ngubani ongayisebenzisa ixesha lakho kangcono. Abantu abaninzi ngoku bacinga ngocansi. Kwaye kunjalo. Amadoda ayinayo iindidi ezaneleyo, ngoko ke ayifumana. Kwaye into emangalisayo kukuba i-mistresses, ngokubanzi, zizibeka kwisicwangciso somfazi wayo, kwaye, ukuba ngaba, zilungele ukutshintsha indawo yangoku. Kodwa benza konke okulungileyo, kuba ukuba le yangoku ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo, kufuneka kubekho uhlobo oluthile lokutshintshwa. Nantsi indoda iyifumana kwaye ibone.
Ngokomgaqo, kusengumfazi ofanayo, kungekusemthethweni. Unokupheka, uhlambe, uhlambuluke. Yintoni elungileyo malunga nolwalamano? Kwaye inyaniso yokuba indoda ingakwazi ukuphumla encinane, nwabisa. Ibhinqa lifanele liphuphe elincinci, libe ngumfazi womntu. Oku kuyinto engokwemvelo. Ewe, akukho nto iphosakeleyo.
Makhe siqale, mhlawumbi, ngomxholo wethu oyintloko, othi "Indlela yokuziphatha ngayo indoda enkosikazi? ". Lapha iresiphi ilula. Siza kuxubusha ngoku ngakumbi, kodwa ngoku kuphela iinkcukacha eziphambili. Kufuneka unike inkosikazi yakho ixesha elininzi, unike imali, ngokubanzi, ngokubanzi-ukumthanda, kodwa kungeyona ndlela uthanda ngayo umfazi wakho. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba nenkosikazi yakho uza kufumana yonke into efana nayo nomfazi wakho. Uyakuqonda ukuba le nkqubo ayinakuguquka. Umfazi uyayithanda ngokwenene. Kwaye awusoze wamshiya. Inkosikazi - oku kunjalo, izinto ezincinci. Ukuba into ethile ngokukhawuleza ihamba kakuhle, unokukhawuleza ukuyiphonsa, kuba into enjalo-eninzi, kunye nonke, unayo umfazi.
Ngokubanzi, lo mbuzo unomdla kakhulu, akucaci ukuba uyayiphendula njani. Into ebalulekileyo yolu mbandela ayicacile, kuba unokuba nenkosikazi ngeenjongo ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye phantsi kwegama elithi "babe", asizange sithethe oko uqale ucinga.
Lapha, khangela. Ukuba udinga inkosikazi kuphela ulwalamano oluqinileyo, kufuneka uziphatha kakuhle naye. Mnike yonke into ayicelayo. Kodwa khangela, ungaguquli intonga, okanye mhlawumbi unokuqalisa ukukuyala, okwenzeka ngezinye ixesha. Ukuba unayo yonke into kunye naye, mxelele ukuba unomfazi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukumqhawula, ngenxa yokuba uthandana nomnye. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kuya kuxhasa isigqibo sakho.
Enye imeko ukuba unomntwana kwintsapho yakho. Ngokomgaqo, sicinga ukuba wena ngokwakho uza kuqwalasela yonke into ngokuchanekileyo. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukushiya umfazi wakho kunye nomntwana kuya kuba nentsingiselo kunxalenye yakho, ngoko kungcono ukuba ungaphuthumi uze ucinge ngezinto. Ngokuphathelele inkosikazi ... Konke kuxhomekeke kumlingiswa wakhe, iimvakalelo kunye nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo. Ukuba uyayithanda kakhulu abantwana, kungcono ukuba ungathethi naye ukuba unentsapho. Yaye ukuba ufuna, musa ukuthetha ngomntwana. Kodwa ixesha elide awuyi kugcina liyimfihlo. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza unquma ukushiya umkakho, bobabini abafazi bakho baya kufuna ukwazi omnye nomnye. Kwaye ke yonke inyaniso iya kuza. Akukho migaqo yokuziphatha kunye nenkosikazi yakhe ayiyi kunceda. Ukuba unentsapho elungileyo, kungcono ukuba ungamcasuli. Kungcono ukuziphatha kunye nenkosikazi yakho ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Awunakuyenza yonke into kuye. Vula nje. Kuya kuba ngcono.
Ngoku makhe sithethe malunga neempawu zokuziphatha, kodwa xa iinjongo onayo ziqinileyo. Mthande kakhulu kunomfazi wakho. Thetha, unomdla kuzo zonke iingxaki zakhe. Ukuba ucela imali, mnike. Hamba naye ukuthenga. Lungiselela ukutya kwakhe okumnandi. Oku kuya kunceda ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bube namandla ngakumbi. Into ephambili - musa ukummisela kwindawo apho uyazi kakuhle, njengoko ulwazi luza kufumana umfazi wakhe, kwaye uya kuhamba phambili kunokuba ulindele. Nangona, mhlawumbi iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Yisebenzise kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwixesha lakho elixabisekileyo, oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ube nobuhlobo naye.
Kodwa kwakhona, buyela ekuqaleni. Kutheni ufuna? Cinga ngenyameko malunga nento yonke, kuba ukuba wenza isigqibo esingafanelekanga, yonke into iyajika ibe yinto engcono kakhulu kuwe, kholwa.
Isizathu esivame kakhulu sokufumana "inkosikazi" isondo. Ngoko kufuneka sifumane ukuba ngubani inkosikazi. Qonda, oku akukhenyukazi. Lo ngumntu olungele ukukuxhasa ngexesha elinzima, ngokuqinisekileyo, ulindela okufanayo kuwe. Oku kuqhelekileyo. Awunamhlawuleli kwiintlanganiso. Uhlala nje ngobubele noxolo. Ewe, kunzima ukusho, kodwa kunjalo.
Abanye abaqondi kakuhle intsingiselo yelizwi elithi "Mfundisi", bacinga ukuba lo uhenyukazi omnye, kodwa akayidingi ukuhlawula. Ukuba ungumntu onjalo, awuyiqondi indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nenkosikazi yakho. Kufuneka ukhumbule kwakhona ukuba umntu ade atshele intombazana ukuba akayedwa, uya kucinga ukuba yonke into ibaluleke kakhulu. Oko kukuthi, yena, engazi, waba ngunkosikazi.
Kukho, kunjalo, amantombazana ababa yimpumelelo yabo yokuzikhethela. Kodwa akukho zininzi, kwaye zenza ngenxa yemali. Nanku sele kusenokwenzeka ukuthetha ukuba intombazana enjalo ayiyinkosikazi. Hayi, kungekhona inongogo, kuba yenza imisebenzi eyahlukileyo, kuba ... Kungcono ukuba ungangeni kwizandla ezinjalo, inokutshabalalisa umtshato wakho, "yidla" imali, kwaye emva koko konke - shiya. Awudingi, akunjalo? Ngoko ke, sikunike isiluleko esinjalo, kufuneka kukuncede.
Kodwa ukuba sikuxelela ngokunyanisekileyo, kungcono ukuba ungatshintshi umfazi wakho, ukuba akayi kutshintsha. Ukuba akayikubuza ukuba uyayitshintsha, ngoko akayi kutshintsha. Kuba, ngubani obuza imibuzo enjalo, yena ngokwakhe akanalo isono-kwaye ngokusemgangathweni, lo mgaqo usebenza. Kutheni? Umntu uqalisa ukuqonda ukuba ukuba wenza njalo ngokwakhe, ngoko unako. Ngoko ubuza imibuzo enobudenge. Oku kuya kuba yiluleko ekupheleni. Musa ukubuza umbuzo onjalo "oyisiphukuphuku" kumfazi / intombazana yakho, kwaye ke uya kuba nemathuba amaninzi okuhlala ungaboni.
Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso zethu ziyakunceda. Landela yonke imithetho ephambili kunye eyintloko kwaye uphile ngokuzonwabisa.