Ngokutsho kwezentlalo-ntsapho, kukuncediswa ngamadoda ukuba ibhinqa ligxininise indima yakhe ehlabathini kwaye iyenzela "mna". Utata, umyeni, umhlobo ... Unokuluhlula ixesha elide. Kodwa masithethe ngezinye zazo. Ngubani owona mntu obalulekileyo ebomini bomfazi?
1. Ubawo
Yintoni esiyayazi? Ulwalamano noyise alukhawulelwanga kumnye umntu okhulisayo. Ngokuzimela ngokusesikweni kwiingqondo, amantombazana anamhlanje ayaqonda oku ngokugqibeleleyo. Kule nqwawa yelinen yelinen kunye ne-Elektra, kunye nekamva elihle lenkosana enhle, kunye nolwalamano nehlabathi langaphandle. Wena, mhlawumbi, sele uxolelanisile nelokuba umyeni wakho uya kuba ngenye indlela efana noyihlo. Kuphela apha impembelelo yayo kwixesha lethu elizayo alikhawulelwanga ...
Yintoni esingaziyo? Ngokweengcamango zenzululwazi zaseRashiya, lwethu ulonwabo kunye nempumelelo kwiminyaka engama-35 ngokuthe ngqo kuxhomekeke kwimeko enxulumene ngayo nobawo ngo-15. Ngokwezibalo, iintombi zam zifumana impumelelo enkulu. Bayazi kakuhle ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nesondo esahlukileyo kwaye bancitshisi kakhulu ukuba baqale ukutshaya.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Musa ukugxeka abazali bakho kuzo zonke iingxaki zakho. UMark Dorbich, isazi sezengqondo seentsapho, uthi: "Zonke izinto ezinokuzifundisa oobawo onokuzifundisa azihambelani nokuhlala kunye. Umphefumlo ufudumele ekusebenzelaneni nopapa - oko kubalulekile. Yaye unako ukufumana nangona ubudala obukhulu. Ngaliphi na ixesha ebomini bakho. " Sisiphi isizathu sokuba uzame ukwakha ubudlelwane naye?
2. Intanda ethandekayo
Yintoni esiyayazi? Nangona sithande ngokwenene amaqabane ethu, ukuba siyabuxabisa ngokwenene amadoda ethu - ngamanye amaxesha obomi bethu sifuna ukuwabulala ngokwenene. Kwaye isizathu sokuba "asizange sibe nethamsanqa" ... Kuphela sinokugxeka zonke iingxaki zethu (kubandakanywa namadoda). Kwaye kuphela kule mpendulo.
Yintoni esingaziyo? Ngokwezinzululwazi, isimo sengqondo kwisiqingatha sesinye sincike ekubeni sininzi kangakanani thina. Ukunganeliseki rhoqo kunye namadoda ethu, kunye nothando oluqinileyo kubo, alukho nje ukubonakaliswa kweengxaki zethu zangaphakathi kunye nokulindela. Yingakho kubalulekile ukulibala malunga nesimo "sexhoba elibi" kanye kunye. Umyeni wakho ukhetho lwakho olumkileyo, kwaye ubona kuye kuphela ezo mpazamo onayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunzima kangakanani, kufuneka kuqondwe.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Jonga. Emva kwakho konke, umzimba wakho - ngokuthe ngqo naluphi na i-barometer, uhlobo "lwesilumko se-barometer." Ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ingxabano, uvakalelwa kukuba uxinzelelo lwegazi lwakho lukhuphuka okanye intliziyo yakho iyanda, le sizathu sokuyeka. Cinga ngolu hlobo: umzimba wakho awuthandeki, kwintoni oyekile ukuzithemba?
3. Owamthanda ngaphambili
Yintoni esiyayazi? Kuphela kukuba sinememori emfutshane. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi umthandi wokugqibela wayethandana kakhulu, uyathandeka kwaye unobomi kunomntu wakho okhoyo. Kodwa enye inketho inokwenzeka: xa kususela kwelinye inkulumo yeso sangaphambili siqala ukugubha umsindo.
Yintoni esingaziyo? Iingcali zengqondo zenze into ephawulekayo: kuvela kubathandekayo bexesha elifanayo sifuna into efanayo - ukunqwenela ngonaphakade. Kwaye le nto isabela ngokuqhelekileyo. Into ephambili kukuba le ngcamango ayikuthathi ixesha elifutshane.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuqaphela ukuba abathandi bexesha elide banomxholo omkhulu "wokukopela" ukuzithemba kwethu. Indlela eya ngqo kwiinkomfa kukunyaniseka nokuzisola. Yingakho kukulungele ukuxolela yakho yangaphambili kwaye "umvumele ukuba aye". Cinga ngawe: ungakanani utshintshile ekubeni usuqhekeza nomthandi wakho odluleyo. Uye wahluke, kwaye akufanele utyhule kwizinto zakho ezidlulileyo "I" kwixesha lakho elizayo.
4. Inkosi
Yintoni esiyayazi? Udibaniso olukhulu nakweliphi na iqela ngumphathi omhle. Ngendlela, ngokweengqungquthela zama-sociologists aseDatshi, umsebenzi wabasebenzi besetyhini ukwanda ngama-40% kwi-ofisi kunye nomphathi omhle. Akuyonto encinci, akunjalo?
Yintoni esingaziyo? Lo mgaqo usebenza kuphela uze uvumele ukuwela umgca kwaye ungagxininisi umcimbi kunye nomphathi. Ngokwezibalo, kubomi bowesifazane, owathi wavuma ukudibana nomphathi wakhe, kungekudala iingxaki zivela. Ulahlekelwa ngumdla ekusebenzeni kwaye uqale ukusebenza ngakumbi. Ubudlelwane nomphathi bophazamisayo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha badibana noxinzelelo olunzulu.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Zama ukuthanda abaphathi babo kungekhona ukukhutshwa kombane, kodwa kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo zokusebenza. Ndikholelwe, iofisi ayiyona indawo enothando kakhulu! Kukho iindawo ezininzi ezifanelekileyo kwimisebenzi yentliziyo.
5. Mzalwana
Yintoni esiyayazi? Amantombazana anamazalwana asele akhulileyo athambekele ekuzithembekeni ngakumbi kwabasetyhini. Inyaniso nje yokuba umzalwana omdala uya kuhlala emela udade unika umfazi ozayo ithuba lokuzikhusela. Kwaye umntakwabo omncinci ungumhlobo "wesibonelelo" sokudlala kwintombi yintombi kunoma yiphina inqanaba lokukhulelwa. Kwakhona kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni intombazana, umfazi ongumama ozayo.
Yintoni esingaziyo? Ingqondo yomntakwenu yinto efanelekileyo yedoda yokufunda kunye nokuvavanywa kwe-litmus ukwenzela ukuba ufumane i-phobias yakho kunye neengcamango ezingalunganga. Unethuba elikhethekileyo lokuphakamisa kuye umntu oyintloko oyintloko, nokuba awuyiyo. Ngendlela, izazinzulu zaseMelika ziye zafumanisa ukuba abazalwana abadala nabancinane abanabodade kwixesha elizayo banelungelo elingakumbi kwimpilo yabo kubomi, ngokomzekelo, abantwana abodwa kwintsapho. Ngoko umzalwana nodade banceda kakhulu omnye nomnye.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuqonda ngomzekelo ophilayo ukuba ubuchopho bethu buhlelwe ngokuhlukileyo, kunye nokuvavanya ubuninzi bokunyamezela kwabo kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokubonakaliswa kwindoda (njengama-socks atyashiyelweyo asele kwi-tap tap kunye nothando kwimidlalo yekhomputha) kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuzibandakanya nabo. Ngaphandle koko, umntakwenu mhlawumbi ngumntu ophela emhlabeni onokukuxelela inyaniso malunga nendlela obukeka ngayo okanye uziphathe ngayo. Le yodwa yabiza kakhulu.
6. Umhlobo omhle
Yintoni esiyayazi? Ingaba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi okanye kungekhona - umntu unokuthetha ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, engazange eze nasiphi na isigqibo. Kodwa sele usayazi ukuba wena noKolya-Yura-Dima banobungane obuhle kakhulu, emva koko akukho mxholo ongasondelanga. Okanye kusekhona na?
Yintoni esingaziyo? UMark Dorbich, isazi sengqondo senzululwazi, uthi: "Ubuhlobo nomntu kubantu abaninzi abasetyhini akuyona nto yindlela engenanto yokutshintsha kumyeni wakhe. Yaye ukhuselekileyo. " Ukongezelela, ama-60% abantu baseYurophu abavotyiweyo bayavuma ukuba baya kuvuyela ukukholisa abo bahlobo babo. kwaye aze enze ubuhlobo nabo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Akuyimfuneko ukuchukumisa ukunyanzela uthando kumanyanisekileyo. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nento ethile, jonganisa zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba uyingozi.
7. Udade oyindoda / intombi
Yintoni esiyayazi? Amadoda abalingani abasondeleyo okanye odade, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kufuneka abe "abafihlakele" bakho. Ngubani omnye ngaphandle kwakho oya kubatshela ibhanti yakho enqwenelekayo yentombazana yakho, akukhumbuze usuku lokuzalwa komama wakho okanye uncede ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxabano yosapho?
Yintoni esingaziyo? Ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, ukuziphatha kwakho kunye noodade bakho abathandekayo kuyisilathisi sokuzithemba kwakho. Ufuna ngokukhawuleza ukulungisa into kuwe, ukuba ufuna ukuyithanda. Ziqiniseke: kukho amadoda amaninzi ehlabathini anomdla kuwe, ngoko ke akufanele uvumele ingcamango yokutshabalalisa intsapho yomntu osondele kuwe. Kwimeko apho uqaphele nayiphi na imiqondiso engabonakaliyo yenkalo yakhe, yenza umzamo ngokwakho kwaye ungawaqwalasela kwaye ungamxeleli udade wakho ngawo. Ukunyanyiswa kwexeshana kwendoda yakhe kuya kudlula, kwaye uya kulibala malunga nalo. Impazamo eyalandelayo yodade onothando (oko kukuthi, wena) unentshiseko enkulu ekuxazululeni iingxaki zeentsapho zabanye. Wena, ke, ungumntu obalulekileyo kwaye mhlawumbi uyazi kakuhle ukuba umhlobo wakho ufuna ntoni, kodwa kufuneka uvumele abo bafazi ukuba bakhe ubomi babo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Qonda ukuba uphawu oluphambili lokudideka kwengqondo kwabasetyhini kukuzama ukubonisa ubungqina babo kwaye kubalulekile kubantu. Ngomyeni woodade kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumhlobo, ngaphezu koko, kufuneka ancede. Kodwa yenza kuphela xa ecela.
8. Inyana
Yintoni esiyayazi? Ukuba uyindoda ebalulekileyo ebomini bobomi. Ukuba yethu yinkwenkwe yinto ephambili kwihlabathi, kwaye sinokuqonda kuphela into ayifunayo ukuba ayigqoke, apho eya khona kunye nabani ukuthetha naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uthando olunzulu ngunyana, sihlawulela ubuhlobo obuhlukileyo kunye namadoda. Abasetyhini bahlala (nangona bengenangqiqo) baqonda umntwana okhulileyo njengomlingani opheleleyo kunye "nendoda" yabo.
Yintoni esingaziyo? Ngokwezibalo, i-70% "yabantwana abancinci" abancinciweyo ngothando lwabazali abakwazi ukuphumelela kwimisebenzi yabo kwaye abanqabile ngokwenene kubomi babo bentsapho. Ngaba ufuna ikamva elinjalo kumfana wakho othandekayo?
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Khupha indoda yangempela. Ngendlela, "izakhono zomnumzana", kunye nokuzimela kunye nokukwazi ukwenza izigqibo, zifunyaniswa kuphela ebuntwaneni. Kufuneka uncede umntwana wakho akhululekileyo kweli hlabathi, amnike inkululeko ngakumbi kwaye ayeke ukudlala "umama osisulu" okanye "intombi kamama". Ngaphandle koko, ubunzima be-Oedipus buya kuba nzima kakhulu ubomi bomntwana wakho omdala. Umsebenzi wakho -kuba ngumama, onothando, onothando, ngexesha elifanelekileyo lokuqinileyo kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, ubulungisa.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba ...
♦ Akubona bonke abafazi abakhumbulayo ngokuthuthumela kwabo indoda yokuqala. Ngaloo ndlela, ama-40% amabhinqa aseMerika avuma ukuba alahlekelwe ngamabomu ubuntombi babo abangaqhelekanga kwaye bengenanto kubo.
♦ Ngokuqhelekileyo sikhetha abantu abafana nothando lwethu lokuqala. Iingcali zengqondo zichaza oku ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba sizama ukuphindezela ukulwa nabo. Ukuphela kokuba usebenze le meko (yodwa okanye kunye kunye neengcali), unokushiya isicangca esichukumisayo kwaye uqaphele umntu ohlukileyo.
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