Okokuqala, fumana apho ootyhuna bavela khona. Zonke iingxaki zethu kunye neziinkathazo zivela ebuntwaneni. Indoda yayingekazalwa izalwe ngendalo kunye neendlela ezifikelelekayo kumntwana (ama-hysterics, whims) ukuba bafumane abazali ababuthaka ukuba bafezekise iminqweno yabo. Ngomntu omdala, yena, ekulondolozeni indlela yokuziphatha, uya kuphumelela ekulawuleni kwakhe ngezinye iindlela, ekuqhubela phambili uxinzelelo lokuziphatha okanye ukusetyenziswa kobundlobongela. Ukwahlula okwesibini kwintsebenziswano yamadoda okuxhomekeka kwintlanzi, ukuba wakhulela kwintsapho ekhohlisayo, akazi enye imodeli yokuziphatha kwaye iziphatha ngendlela eyaziwayo yedwa.
Ngoko, safumanisa izizathu, sishiye kwi sazela sabazali. Umfazi angayifunda njani ukuqonda abadumi bangempela kumadoda? Ukuqwalasela okukhethiweyo. Uzama ukunyanzelisa intando yakhe kuwe, uyaqiniseka ukuba uluvo lwakhe alupheliyo, ulawula iindleko zakho, nini na ngubani oza kutyelela, kwaye uyigqoba ntoni, uzimisele kuphela ukuba uya kuphi iholide, indlela yokuchitha iveki - uluvo lwakho alukho ithathwa ingqalelo.
Ngaphambi kwakho uhlobo oluthile lomtyholi. Kodwa ungazibona njani kuye ezi zici zobunjani? Enoba unothando kakhulu, ulungele ukhetho lwakho, abazange bathambekele ekuboneni iimpawu ezimbi kuye, okanye wayeziguqula ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yakhe. Kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa ukutyekela kwizinto ezingenanto kukubonakaliswa kumadoda kuphela ekunxibelelana nawe, kodwa kuluntu luhle, luhloniphekile kwaye lubekezela.
Utshela wakho umhlobo malunga nobuqili basekhaya, kwaye uyamangala ngokumangaliswa: "Ewe, uhle kakhulu, unethamsanqa!" Musa ukuxabisa ukuba unokumfundisa kwakhona-ubuntu bakhe sele bume, ngoko ke ukuba ungenayo i-masochism kwimbonakalo yakhe embi, inxalenye yayo. Musa ukucinga ukuba kuphela ootshali bezandla baya kuba inkxaso nenkxaso yakho ebomini. Ungesabi ukuhlala wedwa - ungumntu ozimeleyo, ngaba ufuna ngokwenene zonke iinkolelo zakho kunye nenkosi yeengcamango?
Iingcali zengqondo zentsapho zincoma iindlela ezininzi ezinokukunceda uqaphele umntu onobungqina bendoda: musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uye kwiofisi ye-registry ngokukhawuleza, njengoko ufuna ukufumana isimo esinqwenelekayo somfazi osemthethweni. Hlalani ndawonye, nifunde. Susa iilazi ezikhawulezileyo zeglasi kwaye uzama ukuhlola ngokwaneleyo izenzo zamadoda. Mgcine (ukuba kunokwenzeka ngokuthe ngcembe) kwiindawo zesevisi: iivenkile, ukuhlamba imoto, abalungisi bezinwele.
Uyakhalaza ngabaqeshwa, uyaziphosa ngeyona nto? Cinga ngako, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uya kuba yinto elandelayo yokunyanzelwa kwakhe. Masihlalutye enye imeko. Uhlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi, umyeni wakho uphumelele ukuphakanyiswa kwinkonzo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza waqala ukwakha umgangatho wemisebenzi ekhaya, ukukukhokela. Ngamadoda, ngezinye iinkcukacha ukugxeka ukutshutshisa, kunokwenzeka ukuba udlala nje umphathi, uyilungise ngendlela epholileyo, uchaze kuye ukuba akudingeki ukuba uphazamise umntu kunye negosa. Indlu nentsapho yakho isiqhamo seminyaka emininzi yomsebenzi, engafanele ibe yindawo yokuvavanya ukulawula izigqibo.