Izizathu.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana efumana amabakala amabi, njani ukuyiqonda le meko? Umsebenzi obalaseleyo kukubona isizathu sokuba umntwana anikezelwe ngamabanga angabonakaliyo. Zininzi kakhulu, zivela kwiingxaki zengqondo kwintsapho, kwaye ziphela iingxaki zobudlelwane esikolweni. Ukukwazi ukufumana izinto ezintsha, kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, umgangatho wamanqaku athatywayo, uthintela impilo yengane, ulawulo lwakhe, isimo sengqondo kunye nokukwazi nje oku oku okanye kwesi sifundo. Omnye umntwana unokukwazi ukusombulula iingxaki zeemathematika, kwaye abanye babhale iingoma ngokuzonwabisa. Sitshintshela ukuxhomekeka kwolu hlobo okanye olo hlobo lomsebenzi alukhangeki, umsebenzi wabazali kuphela ukuvavanya kakuhle ubuchule bomntwana kunye nenkxaso yakhe yonke, ukudala inkuthazo yokufunda.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona kukho ukuqonda okukhoyo, umntwana kunye nabazali ngokwabo bayavavanya ukuvavanya. Kwimeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukufunda ngokwakho kwaye ufundise umntwana ukuba aqonde ngokwaneleyo iimvavanyo aze athathe izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Ukuvavanya okwaneleyo kukubi okanye kukuhle.
Okokuqala, injongo yokufunda yiphumo lokugqibela. Ukuvavanya kule ngqiqo kuyisigaba esiphakathi kwingcamango yolwazi olutsha kwaye aluncedo. Uqeqesho luyinkqubo ende kakhulu kwaye kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomgudu wokufumana iziphumo.
Okwesibini, ikhono lomntwana wokwakha ubudlelwane kunye nootitshala nabafundi luqhagamshelana olubalulekileyo kwinkqubo yokufunda. Oku kuququzelelwa yinkqubo yovavanyo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacileyo amazwi, iimpazamo ezichanekileyo, kwaye uqhubeke nokwenza imizamo yokuthintela iimeko ezingaqinisekiyo. Ukugxeka ukuhlolwa akufanele kube yisizathu sokuyeka isikolo. Ulwazi lomntwana kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukuqhagamshelana, kubaluleke kakhulu kuye, kwaye kuphela ke banomdla wokotitshala kunye nabalingana nabo. Ukongezelela, kuyafaneleka ukuchazela umntwana ukuba uvavanyo lwolwazi lunokuba lukhulu kakhulu, luba lubi okanye lube ngamabakala amahle - uyamthanda, kwaye akusoloko ixhomekeke kwizakhono zakhe kunye neetalente. Abantu abaninzi bafumana impumelelo ebalulekileyo ebomini babo, nangona esikolweni amabanga abo ashiyekile.
Musa ukunyelisa umntwana.
Ungesabisi umntwana ngamanqaku ambi. Kufuneka ukuba ulungelelanise kwimiphumo emihle, kwaye xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli - "ngexesha elizayo uzakuzama, kwaye yonke into iya kuvela". Ukuba uhlala ugxeka umntwana ngenxa yamabanga angabonakaliyo, ekugqibeleni kuya kukhokelela ekubeni uloyiko lweempendulo zokuphendula kunye nokungafuni ukuba khona kwiimviwo. Oku kuya kuqhubeka kwandisa imeko. Uya kukhathazeka esikolweni, abe neentloni, eziza kunciphisa kakhulu amandla akhe okuqonda ulwazi olutsha. Umntwana angavala, qalisa ukuqonda yonke into ngokubhekiselele kwinto ethi "yonke into iyatshitshiswa", "yonke into imbi" kwaye ayiyi kuzama nayiphi na indlela ukulungisa imeko. Ukuba unethamsanqa, utitshala ontle uya kuphawula le meko kwaye kuya kwenzeka ukuba uhlangabezane nalo. Kwaye ukuba oko kungenzeki, isangqa esichukumisayo samanqaku ambi siya kuvala ixesha elide.
Qonda izizathu zokungaphumeleli kunye.
Qinisekisa ukuba uzama kunye nomntwana ukuqonda isizathu sokuvavanya. Mhlawumbi akaqeqeshelwanga. Mhlawumbi wayengaziva kakuhle. Mhlawumbi andifumananga nootitshala okanye abafundi kwaye ndandingafuni ukubonisa ulwazi lwam. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ebusheni. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abaziqondi ukuba kungani le nto yenzeka. Kubalulekile ukukunceda ukuqonda, ukuqonda imeko kunye nokulungiselela amava omntwana. Kwiimeko ezinzima, kuya kufuneka ukuba kudibaniswane nengcali yengqondo. Ungesabi oku. Emva koko, nayiphi na ingxaki ilula ukuyixazulula ekuqaleni kunokuba idibanise ingxube yeengxaki ezihlanganiswe ngexesha elide.
Ukuxhasa umntwana.
Umntwana kufuneka azame ukuchaza isizathu sokuba kuyimfuneko ukufumana ulwazi nonke. Dlala umdlalo, bonisa indlela umntu ongazifundela angaziva ngayo phakathi kwabantu abafundiswe. Abantwana abaselula bahlala bengayiqondi isizathu sokuba baya esikolweni kwaye banokufumana imfundo abayifumana kamva.
Kubalulekile ukuxhasa umntwana wakho kwaye ufundise kuye ukuzithemba kokufikelela kweenjongo zemfundo. Kumele aqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uya kuphumelela, nakuba engabathandi abanye, kuba bonke abantu bahluke. Ebonisa ngokucacileyo imiphumo, kufuneka enze yonke imizamo yokusebenzisa amaninzi amathuba akhe ngexesha loqeqesho.
Xoxa kunye neengxaki zamanqaku amabi kwaye uzame ukwenza isicwangciso sokwenza amanyathelo angaphezulu. Qinisekisa indlela yokwenza njalo kwikamva ukuphucula imeko kwaye uphephe ukuphindaphinda kwengxaki. Xoxa kusengaphambili umvuzo wokufunda kakuhle nokuhlawulwa ngenxa yokungabikho kweziphumo. Nangona kunjalo, ukusebenzisa amanyathelo anjalo, kubalulekile ukufuna ukuhambelana nokukhuthaza okanye ukujeziswa kwisenzo ngokwalo. Awukwazi ukumbeka umntwana kwindawo apho engayiqondi into enoxanduva lwakhe.
Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uphawu olubi alukho naso sonke isibonakaliso solwazi lomntwana wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo umphumo uthonywe ngokuthotyelwa komsebenzi womfundi kunye neemfuno ezithile (ukuchithwa, ukuchaneka kwenkcazo yemeko yomsebenzi, njl.), Okanye ulwalamano phakathi kootitshala kunye nomfundi. Thina sonke ngabantu, le mithetho iyenziwa kwaye ihlolwe ngabantu abafanayo, kunye neemfanelo zabo kunye nezidumbu. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa kumntwana ukuba iimvavanyo ziya kuzingqongileyo ebomini, kwaye azihlali zilungele. Ukuba le meko iyenzeka kumntwana wakho, zama ukumfundisa indlela yokuyicombulula ingxaki yakhe. Mhlawumbi kulungele ukukhawuleza ukunyamekela iimfuno okanye ukuthetha notitshala - makabe uchaze imigaqo yokubeka uphawu kunye nokulindela kulo msebenzi owenziwa ngabafundi.
Khumbula ukuba umsebenzi oyintloko wabazali kukunceda umntwana kwaye uncede ngokunyanisekileyo kuye inomdla ekufumaneni ulwazi olutsha. Ngomnye, le ngxaki ixazululwa kuphela. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, uvavanyo alufanele lube sisikhubekiso kubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana.