Nsuku zonke , into enomdla iyenzeka kwindawo yokudlala. Apha umlingani uzalwa. Kwindawo yokudlala: isikolo soqhagamshelwano, abantwana bafunda ukuba ngabahlobo, bawine, bawunike, kwaye, xa belahlekelwa, kuxabiseke.
Sixazulula iingxabano. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho "imvume" yomntwana ukuba aziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko enzima okanye engathandekiyo, kufuneka ugcine inkcubeko yokunxibelelana. Ngaba umntwana wakho wayenomdlalo wokudlala? Okanye ngaba le karapuz engabonakaliyo yonke into eguqayo kwaye iguqula ngokuguquka, ingafuni ukunika abanye, kwaye unina akabonakali ukuba uyayibona?
Iimbangela zeengxabano zingafani kakhulu. Kwaye ixesha elininzi abantwana benza iingqondo zabo kwaye ngokukhawuleza bayalibala umthetho, kodwa abadala abakwazi ukuzibamba kwaye bangena kwiintshutshiso banokuhlala ixesha elide. Ewe, kulungile ukuba ingxabano ayithintelwe, kwaye ayilindeli. Ndabona ukuba abantwana bafuna ukuxabana - batshintshe ingqalelo kwinto enomdla. Kwibala lokudlala: isikolo soqhagamshelwano siya kulunge, ukuba bonke oomama okanye bonke abapapa bafunde ukulandela abantwana babo, baya kuqwalasela iimfuno zabanye kwaye babe noxanduva lwezenzo nezenzo zabo. Abantwana abancinci abanalo izakhono zokuphuma kwimimandla engqubanayo, abaqondi ukuba abatsha kufuneka banikele. Bayazi igama elithi "Ndiyifunayo" kwaye ngexesha lokuxabana nabantwana kunzima kakhulu ukuzama ukuchaza into ethile. Indlela elula kakhulu ukuphazamisa abantwana nangaphambi kokuba baqale ukuxabana kwaye ingxabano ayifakali. Ngenxa yoko, umzekelo, unokuphazamisa ithoyiji egcinwe ngaphambili okanye umnikelo wokudlala umdlalo onomdla kakhulu.
Nantoni na eyenzekayo , umele ukhumbule ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho (ukuphakamisa isandla sakho, ingakumbi) kumntwana, bobabini bezinye iintlanga kunye nawe, nangona kunjalo, akakho. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuba uthathe ingxabano yomntwana wakho kwaye uzame ukumnciphisa, ngexesha elifanayo ubiza lo mama nomama wesibini. Ukuba umntwana uphule enye into yokudlala, umama kufuneka anikele okuthile ngokubuyisela okanye abonise ukulungele ukulungisa (ukuhlawulwa kwemali) ukuphazamiseka. Awunakho ukukratshi xa uphakamisa isandla kwabanye. Nangona imeko ibukeka ingenangqondo. Ngokomzekelo, usongela umntwana ongaphezulu. Ingane inokukhumbula ukuphendula kwakho kwaye uzame "ukukholisa" ngaphezulu kweyodwa. Ngomncinane, abantwana "banelungelo" lokuzingca. Kunzima ukuba baqonde ukuba kutheni umntu akakwazi ukuguqula ixesha elide kwi-swing kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, kutheni umntu akakwazi ukuchukumisa umntu ongafuni ukukhulula le nto. Ngoko ke, umntu omdala kufuneka abe khona, kunokuba ahambe kwindawo yokudlala ngokwahlukileyo, kunye namanye oomama. Zama ukuchazela umntwana ukuba amathoyizi afanele ukwabelwana kwaye ukuba kuhle ukuba abanye abantwana baya kubaphawuleza, bafundise ukuba batshintshe. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthanda ukuxelisa, ngokukodwa ukuziphatha kakubi kwabanye abantwana, zama ukukhetha inkampani kuye. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakwenzi ngendlela oyithandayo, kufuneka ukhawuleze ubonise ukungathandeki kwakho.
Senza amabango . Xa kwenzeka kwimeko yokudlala yabantwana: isikolo soqhagamshelwano lweemeko ezichaphazelekayo kufuneka sikhulume nabantwana-babo kunye nabanye-kunye nabazali babo ngokuhlonipha nangokuzithoba. Umntwana wakho kufuneka abone ukuba awuhambisani nayo yonke into ephosakeleyo kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, musa ukumgxeka nje ngokuba ungumntwana wakho, kwaye awukwazi ukugxeka omnye. Kufuneka uhlale wenza ngokufanelekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani, ngoko unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho uzakuzama ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo.