Kodwa ukuba usondela kule meko ngombono ohlukileyo, awukwazi ukwazi yonke into kwaye akukho mntu wakunike ilungelo lokunciphisa isimo sengqondo semzini. Mhlawumbi, intombazana isele iqikelele ngokukhwabanisa ixesha elide, kodwa lithe cwaka. Kufuneka ukuba, xa kunjalo intombi intombi ayisoli ukuba ukhetho lwakhe "luya ngakwesobunxele"? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ungatsho nto kwaye uzenza nje ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo, umhlobo unokufumana ngokuqonda kwakho ngokunyaniseka kwaye ubuhlobo buphela kuphela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba unesibindi uze unqume ukubeka kuye yonke into oyaziyo okanye eyibonile, unokuwa kuwe kwaye uphantse ulawule zonke izono zokufa. Kodwa nangona oko kwenzeka, musa ukugweba ngokuthe ngqo umhlobo wakho othandekayo, kwaye ngakumbi ukhathazeke nguye, kuba ukuba ngamnye sinikela le ndaba, impendulo ayinakwenzeka.
Iingcali eziye zafunda i-psychology kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane kwiminyaka emininzi, ziyacetyiswa ukuba zixelele umhlobo emva kwakho konke ukuba ubonile okanye ufunde into ethile, kodwa oku kuphela kwimeko yokuba ulwazi luyinyani kwaye luyinyani kwaye wonke umntu uye wakubona okanye weva ngokwayo. Ukuba ukwabelana ngeentlobo kunye nokuhleba, unokutshabalalisa intsapho okanye isibini. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uxhomekeke kuphela kwiinyani eziyinyaniso ozibonele ngaphakathi. Yaye xa uthe wachaza imfihlelo, esanda kufundiswa, lungele u-hysteria kunye nokubonakaliswa kwezinto ezingabonakaliyo - ukungcatsha kunye nokungcatsha okungafanekiyo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uxele yonke into njengoko kunjalo, kufuneka uqwalasele into.
- Okokuqala, kufuneka umise umhlobo ngomyalezo ongeyena mhle, zama ukumxwayisa ukuba kuya kuba bubuhlungu kwaye buhlungu. Yilungiselele.
- Tshela umhlobo ukuba uyathandeka kuwe kwaye uyaluxabisa kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho, kunzima ukuba uthethe inyaniso, kodwa uyakwenza kuphela ngenxa yokuba ufuna into engcono.
- Emva koko kulungele ukuqala ukujongana nale mbandela. Mbuze ukuba imicimbi yekwenkwenkwe yintoni, nokuba ingadibana na ixesha elide kwaye ingaba liyakuthetha nonke. Mhlawumbi sele esazi ngokuphathelele uhlanga kwaye sele behlukanisiwe. Ukuze ungaboni ubuwula, kungcono ukubonelela konke.
- Ukuba akayikrokreli nantoni na i-uni ilungile, xelela konke owaziyo, kodwa akufanele umlimaze nge tone okanye isimo sakho sengqondo. Udinga ukuthetha ngokuzithelekileyo nangokuzithemba.
- Emva kokuba uxelele yonke inyaniso, intombazana kufuneka iqinisekiswe, kukulungele ukuya naye kwi-cafe (kodwa ungamvumeli ukuba aye etywala, kungenjalo kuya kupheliswa kakubi), kodwa bhetele le movie. Zama ukumphazamisa, kwaye ukuba akafuni ukushiya indlu kungcono ukuba ungashiyi intombi yakho yedwa. Hlala, ubukele ibhayisikobho okanye uthethe ubusuku bonke.
Kubaluleke kakhulu kwiintsuku ezilandelayo ukuba ube yiqela. Ngaloo ndlela, uyamxhasa umntu, kuba awukwazi ukuhlala ubelana nabanye ngeendaba zokungcatsha komntu othandekayo. Ukongeza, xa usondele kumzuzu onzima, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuqiniswa ngakumbi kwaye uza kuba ngabahlobo abakhulu. Ncedisa intombi ehamba ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo kwivenkile, ungamvumeli ukuba akhumbule elidlulileyo, kuya kuba mnandi ukuba uyamazi kunye nomhlobo wakho, umzekelo, mhlawumbi uya kumnceda omnye umntu kwaye kulula. Khumbula ukuba sonke singabantu, kwaye kwimeko enjalo, ngamnye wethu unokuba ngumnye. Nithandane kwaye nixabise abahlobo bakho.