Ngaba kunjalo? Ngamnye wabo, omncinane okanye "ubudala kaBalzac", omncinci okanye ompushka, umfazi weshishini kunye nomfazi wendlu unesimo esithile seminqweno kunye neemfuno zamadoda. Yaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ibukeka njani kwaye yenza ntoni, eli setha linamaphuzu amaninzi afanayo.
Akukho mzamo wokwanelisa lonke uluhlu lwabafazi "bafuna" nayiphi na indoda. Eyona ndlela, uya kunqoba isiqingatha esikhulu. Kwaye kutheni? Kulula! Iminqweno yabasetyhini ingaba yinto ephikisanayo yokuba yiyo kuphela iindidi eziza kuzalisekisa. Nokuba uqaphela oko, isiqingatha esinyanisekileyo sabantu asiyi kulahleka amaphupha ayo, kodwa sigxeke isiqingatha esinamandla sokungabikho kwengqalelo kunye nothando. Nangona umntu othanda ngeendlebe uya kuzuza yonke iminqweno yonyulwe wakhe, oku akuyi kuhambelana nomntu akhethiweyo. Isithandwa sakhe siya kufumana isizathu sokunganeliseki kwaye siya kuthiwa sinobuthathaka kunye ne-podkabluchnichestve. Umxholo wokungahambelani kwamabhinqa ufanelwe emisebenzini emikhulu kwaye ifanelwe kakhulu yabalobi abadumileyo, kodwa imfihlelo yemiphefumlo yabasetyhini ayengagxilwanga nje kuphela kubayeni, kodwa kubafazi ngokwabo.
Kwakhona umbuzo uvela: "Kutheni?"
Unokuzama ukufumana impendulo kulo mlando. Kwiminyaka emininzi, umfazi akazange azenzele impilo yakhe. Le mi sebenzi ibeka kuqala kubazali bayo, ngoko kunye namadoda. Abazali babengalindelanga naluphi na uncedo kwiintombi zabo ekuguga kwabo kwaye bafuna amaqela ancedo kubo. Iimbopheleleko zokunyamekela abazali asebekhulile zatshintshelwe koonyana. Abasetyhini babengumntu "olwahlukileyo", oncedisa umntu. Khumbula ubuncinane kanye igama elithi "Utshatile." Abazali be-"extradition" intombazana bazama ukukhawuleza intombazana, bamnike umtshato kwaye bafumane ithuba xa umyeni ephethe isabelo esifanelekileyo sobutyebi okanye isikhundla esiphakamileyo kuluntu. Amantombazana alawo maxesha ayengenanto yokuchasene nale ndlela. Ngokhetho olufanelekileyo, bafumana inzuzo ethile yezinto eziphathekayo kunye nentlalo. Kodwa ngaba bafumana uthando? Akuyena wonke umntu onokuqwalasela le ngongoma yobomi bentsapho.
Xa kudlula ixesha, imeko yabasetyhini kunye nosapho kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwabatshatileyo batshintshile. Abafazi, ukufumana ukuzimela kwezentlalo, ithuba lokufumana kakuhle, baqala ukufuna olunye ulwalamano lwentsapho. Babefuna uthando kunye nentlonipho. Le mvakalelo ibe yinto ebalulekileyo xa ukhetha abalingani bomtshato kwaye isabaluleka ngaphezu kwezinye iingxoxo kunye nezizathu zomtshato. Amadoda nabasetyhini bakholelwa oku, kodwa bamphatha ngokuhlukileyo. Abaninzi abasetyhini banomgaqo-nkqubo wasendulo wokungena kwi-subconscious: "Amadoda yindlela ebalulekileyo yokusombulula iingxaki zabasetyhini." Kwaye ngokusoloko bevakala imifanekiso efana "thandekayo, ingabe uyandithanda?" Ewe? Mkhulu! Emva koko yenza / uthenge / uhlele / wakha kwaye ... "Yintoni enye inokuthi ingabuthathaka kwisimo esinamandla?
Ewe, ukudala intsapho. Khumbula ngenjongo yokuqala yowesifazane? Kulungile, umfazi ungumgcini wekhaya elihle. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangaphi abafazi bathetha ngobudlelwane obukhululekile kunye nemitshato yomtshato, abaninzi babo baphupha intsapho, yomyeni onothando nabantwana. Xa kuziwa kwintsapho nabantwana, okulandelayo kuya kuba yimpilo yabantwana, amalungu entsapho kunye nezihlobo. Emva koko, akukho ntlungu ngakumbi kunezifo okanye ukufa kwabantu basekuhlaleni. Akumangalisi bathi: "Kuya kuba yimpilo, yonke into ingathengwa."
Yintoni intombazana efuna kumntu ngaphandle kwothando, ukuba sele sele enentsapho eyonwabileyo, indoda enothando kunye nabantwana abaphilileyo? Kakade ke, akukho mfazi oyedwa oza kuzikhawulela kule setethi. Umnqweno olandelayo uphumelele. Abasetyhini bafuna ubutyebi! Inyaniso kulomnqweno, ngamnye wabo ubeka iimfuno zabo. Omnye uya kufuna indlu yesikhombiso ngombono wolwandle, imoto ebiza kwigalaji, igolide kunye nedayimane, enye iya kukwanela umsebenzi ozithandayo nomnandi, indlu encinci epholileyo, induduzo, isitya esifanelekileyo seengubo kwikhefu kunye nezixhobo ekhitshini. Iimfuno kunye neminqweno eyahlukeneyo inokudibaniswa nokuqulunqa okuqhelekileyo - akukho nto kwaye ungaze uziphikise. Akukho nanye, nokuba ngowona mfazi ophumeleleyo akayi kuyeka ukuchuma kwezinto ezibonakalayo kwindoda ethandekayo, nokuba akayi kuvuma ngokuzwakalayo.
Umnqweno olandelayo ukuba onke amabhinqa afihle kuyo ngokwakhe ukwaziswa ngabantu abathandekayo bakhe. Yaye yintoni ephosakeleyo naleyo? Umtsalane wawunomdla kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye uya kuvuzwa kwixesha elizayo. Ngexesha elifanelekileyo lamathuba okuba ubuhle kakhulu kunaphambili. Kwinqanaba ngalinye kwakukhona iilons zokunyusa iinwele, i-salon zobuhle kunye neekliniki zokuhlinzwa zeplastiki. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuzibamba ngekhanda elimthandayo, ukuzenzela, ukuphelisa ama-wrinkles kunye namafutha amaninzi, ke makumthintele abanye ukuba bangenzi.
Kubonakala ngathi, yintoni enye iminqweno enokwenza umfazi onempilo kunye nomhle, umfazi nonina? Ngoko ayikho. Kukho abatsha abafuna ukuba inxaxheba yamadoda. Inkosikazi yanamhlanje ifuna ukuzimela nokuzimela. Ngoko ufuna ukuba nomsebenzi othakazelisayo nomthandayo kunye nokuqatshelwa kuwo. Ngako-ke, kukho enye into enomntu onothando-ukunceda intombi yentliziyo yakhe ukuba ikwazi ukuzibona, ukufezekisa iinjongo ezibekwe kunye nokuzithemba ngekamva.
Musa ukuhlala kunye nabahlali kunye nomnqweno oqhelekileyo: ukufumana iintyatyambo kunye nezipho, ukuva iintlawulelo kunye nokuxhaswa kwidilesi zabo, ukuba babe buthathaka kunye neqabane eliqinileyo, nesithandane kunye nothando. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngabafazi abazimeleyo kunye nabazimeleyo, basoloko banelungelo lokuva ukunakekelwa kwamadoda athando.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafazi banokufuna iimfuno ezizigidi, kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu kubo yindoda enothando, kwaye ngokunye uya kudala ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye engakhethi (mhlawumbi ukuba wenzayo ngezandla zesilisa) ...