Ukuxhalabisa kunzima kwaye kuholele kwiingcinga ezidandathekileyo. Ufuna ukuthetha nomntu kangakanani, xubusha ishishini lakho, iingxaki, okanye wabelane ngolonwabo lwakho. Ngaloo nto, kulo mzuzwana akukho mntu ujikelezayo. Kwaye unesizungu sisongela kwi-whiski nombuzo ongathandabuzekiyo: "Kutheni ndingenabo abahlobo?". Makhe sizame ukufumana ukuba ngabahlobo bani, kunye nendlela yokwenza ukuba bavele.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu ucinga ukuba akayidingi mntu. Kukho inani elithile le nyaniso kule nto. Enyanisweni, ngamnye wethu ufuna kuphela, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uya kusinceda ngathi. Abazali okanye izihlobo, nangona kunjalo akunjalo. Kwaye kuya kuthathwa njani ibinzana kunye nebhanali, kodwa empeleni ubomi bethu bubekwe ezandleni zethu kuphela. Abaninzi bafuna iingcebiso ezivela kwizengqondo zengqondo, "andinabangane" - ibinzana elinokuthi lisoloko lisizwe kuluntu. Ziziphi izihlobo? Ukuze ungabi nolu lonwabo, ukunika umntu uthando lwabo, ukuze bavuyiswe kunye nokulwa kwabo kwaye bakhale xa kunqotshwa. Ngaba oku akuqinisekisile ukuziphatha kwethu kobugovu? Isidingo sobuhlobo luyinxalenye yokukhathalela kwethu. Kodwa ukuze ube nomhlobo, kufuneka ulungele ubungane ngokwakho.
Ngubani umhlobo?
Ungumntu osondelelene naye odibene naye kunye nolwalamano olushushu, othembekileyo, uyamthanda, unomdla oqhelekileyo. Zama ukukhangela, ukhangele abantu abajikelezile, ngakwelinye icala. Ngaba akukho ngokwenene umntu ongenalo mdla kunye nawe? Iingcali zengqondo zithi enye impazamo eqhelekileyo yabantu abangabodwa kukuba abaqapheli abantu ababajikelezile. Abanye abayithandi ukubonakala kwangaphandle, ezinye zibonakala zikhohlakeleyo, kwaye enye ingenakulungele ukufumana isikhundla "somhlobo wam." Kwaye umntu onesizungu uhlezi, elindele into ebalulekileyo yeso somhlobo ococekileyo ukusuka kwimeko ethile, ngokuqinisekileyo evelele kwilizwe lakhe kwaye azixolise. Ngoko akunakwenzeka ukufumana abahlobo.
Umfanekiso wehlabathi.
Ukuze ufumane ubushushu, kufuneka ufunde ukunika. Ufuna ubuhlobo, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uqale udibanise ubungane bakho besikhathi esizayo. Ukuze kwenzeke oku, kufuneka uguqule umbono wakho wehlabathi. Akunzima njengoko kubonakala ngathi ekuqaleni. Makhe sicinge ukuba umhlaba ngumfanekiso omkhulu ongenakwenzeka ukubamba ngokukhangela konke kanye. Futhi ususa amehlo akho kwinto enye okanye enye kwenye. Imvula, ithambile, ibanda kwaye ibuhlungu. Kodwa ngaphesheya kwemvula - umlobo. Emva koonyana bakhe bahleka baze badlale, bebetha iingubo ezingaphantsi kwiimvula ezifudumele. Kancinci - ilanga elifudumeleyo, ulwandle nolwandle, apho kuluvuyisa ukuphumla, kukhanya. Ngaba ufumene inkolelo? Isimo sethu sengqondo nesimo sengqondo sitshintshe kuxhomekeke kuyo nayiphi inxalenye yomfanekiso wehlabathi esibujongayo. Nangona kunjalo, umfanekiso wonke awuguquki. Siye sigxininise ingqalelo kwizo zifundo ezithandekayo kuthi, ngelixa sitshintsha indlela esivakalelwa ngayo. Le ndlela elula, ngokusekelwe kwikhono lokujonga imicimbi evela kwindawo eyahlukileyo yokujonga, inegama elinzima lokurhoxisa. Umsebenzi omncinci - kwaye uya kubona ukuba indlela yakho yokujonga ihlabathi elijikelezayo ilula. Kwaye kulula ukufumana abantu abajikelezileyo ithuba eliza kubangela ubungqina obutsha.
Amandla kunye nokukwazi ukuphulaphula.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ufunde indlela yokuba ngumhlobo olungileyo. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba kulo mbandela - amandla kunye nokukwazi ukuphulaphula. Ewe, sifuna ukubonisa yonke into esiyinyamekelayo, ukwabelana ngesifo sethu. Abahlobo bethu bafuna le nto. Ukuba uphosa zonke iingxaki zakho kumhlobo wakho omtsha, unciphisa umphefumlo wakho kwaye uye ekhaya, ke lo mntu akanakwenzeka ukuba afune ukudibana nawe kwakhona. Emva koko, ngokuqinisekileyo wayekulindela kuwe isifiso esifanele sokuziphulaphula. Qaphela indlela oziphatha ngayo xa uphulaphule umnxibelelwano. Udiniwe ukukhwela, ukhangele kwicala, uphazamise, ubonakalise ukuba ungalunganga njani, uxolise kwaye ushiye, ngokubhekiselele kwishishini? Ngoko awukwazi ukugcina umhlobo. Ubuhlobo bubonisa ukuba sinomdla kwimicimbi kunye neengxaki. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuphulaphula umntu ekugqibeleni, umnike ithuba lokuchaza, kwaye abaninzi bazama ukuqonda nokubanceda. Ngoko ufanelwe ukuthembela, uya kuxabiswa kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kufakwa kwiluhlu lwabahlobo abalungileyo. Qala ngokuqwalasela indlela oziphatha ngayo ngelixa lomnye umntu. Ngaba ucaphukile, ngaba uzama ukukhawuleza ungene kwimpikiswano uze umqinisekise ngombono wakho? Zama ukuhlalisa, ukunyamezela nokunyamekela umnxibelelwano.
Ukuzithoba.
Mhlawumbi ukuvela kobuhlobo kubangelwa ukuzithoba. Ewe, ukuhlaziya kuya kukunceda kule nto. Wonke umntu uhle? Wonke umntu unokufumana zombini iimpawu ezimbi nezilungileyo. Sifanele samkele abantu kunye nathi njengathi. Yenza umsebenzi wokukhangela iingenelo, ziyafumaneka nanini na. Musa ukuzifihla. Mhlawumbi, isidima sakho kunye neminqweno eya kuba yinqanaba eliza kutsalela abahlobo kuwe.
Musa ukuvala!
Musa ukuvala umxhesho wangaphandle. Ngaphambi kokuba ubhalise umntu oluhlu lwabahlobo bakho, mhlawumbi ufuna ukwazi umntu olungcono, ukuba wazi kakuhle isimo sakhe sengqondo. Oku kulindeleke kuwe. Musa ukufihla kwinqabileyo yakho, maye abahlobo bexesha elizayo baqonde wena, amacandelo akho amabi nefanelekileyo, ubone ubuso bakho boqobo. Ubuhlobo bubonisa ukuba ulwalamano oluthembayo, ukuba awulungele oko, qwalasela indlela oziphatha ngayo.
Njani kwaye kuphi ukufumana abahlobo?
Yaye ingxaki yokugqibela yindawo kwaye njani. Ukuhlala ekhaya esihlalweni, awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nabani na. Ngoko ke, zama ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiindawo ezahlukileyo, kwimibutho yasemanzini, imiboniso, iziganeko zokusebenza, apho unokuhlangana nabantu abaneengqondo. Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kubantu abakhoyo, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiintetho kuya kutsalela kuwe abantu abambalwa abaza kuba ngabahlobo bakho. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo unokucela icebiso kubahlobo, kuba awuyi kuba ngumntu onesizungu! Vumela ukungaphumeleli akukukhathazi, kuba unxibelelana olunjalo uqokelela amava akho, funda. Hlaziya iimpazamo zakho, jonga ihlabathi ukusuka kwinqanaba elithile kwaye uhambe ngesibindi ukuya phambili.
Ukuba ezi ziphulo zengqondo zengqondo azizange zikuncede, mhlawumbi ungumthwalo wengxaki yengqondo ejulile. Kwimeko apho, ungathandabuzeki ukudibanisa nengcali yengqondo. Abantu abaninzi banokufumana uxolo kwaye balahla iingcamango ezinzulu. Siyathemba ukuba uya kuzuza kwiingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo, kwaye uya kuba nabahlobo abaninzi!