Sonke sifuna ukubalekela sisulu, sidibana nesiqingatha sethu, sivuyiswe ekugqibeleni. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sizama kangakanani, imibutho iyahlukana, iintsapho ziyahlukana, abantu balahlekelwa. Kutheni? Oku kunokuphetshwa njani? Unokuqiniseka njani ukuba ubudlelwane abuya ekupheleni kokufa, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, kwaveliswa ngokuvisisana kwaye kwavuyisa kuphela? Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa yinyani! Kwaye akunzima nakhona. Kuvela ukuba kukho iimfihlo ezili-10 zobudlelwane obude kunye nokungenakulungiswa. Umgudu omncinci - kunye nolonwabo lwakho kunye nomntu omthandayo ixesha elide liba yinyani.
1. Yenza into oyithandayo kunye!
Oku kungathi ngathi i-cliche, kodwa idibanisa. Beka ukubheja kwakho kumgangatho wexesha elichithwe ndawonye, kungekhona ubungakanani balo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Emva koko, kungenjalo uya kuphazamisana. Cinga nje, yintoni onokuthanda ukuyenza kunye? Umzekelo, uthanda ukuhamba, ufunde ngezinto ezintsha malunga namazwe ahlukeneyo-thabathe umbono odibeneyo wesiteshi seSizwe. Ngaba uthanda ukudlala imidlalo? Unendlela engqalileyo ukuya echibini okanye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca. Into ephambili kukuba wenze izinto ezintle kunye. Funda ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo! Yeka i-hobby ibe yinto eqhelekileyo! Ukuba abayikho, kuya kufuneka baqulunqwe. Ndikholelwe, wena ngokwakho uya kumangaliswa ukuba abantu abasondeleyo kubangelwa njani.
2. Nika esinye isikhala!
Ukuchitha ixesha kunye kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqinisekise ukuba awufumani phantsi kweenyawo zakho lonke ixesha! Nonke nidinga indawo yokuhlala ngokuthula ndawonye. Kwabaluleke ngaphezu kwegolide kukuqonda okuxabisekileyo, xa omnye umntu efuna nje ukuba yedwa. Le nxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane bakho. Kwaye kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukuzinqanda, kungekhona ukucaphukisa, ukuba ungagxininisi, ungafune ukuba unakekele njalo. Xoxa nomnye ngokuthe ngqo xa ufuna nje ukuba wedwa, kwaye uncede iqabane lakho liqonde ukuba oku kubalulekile kuwe.
3. Ulwabelana ngesondo!
Oku kuyaqondakala, kunzima ukuphikisana nale nto. Nangona kunjalo, umgangatho apha awubalulekanga ngakumbi kunani. Uthetha ntoni? Musa ukwenza isondo ngokuqhelekileyo! Kusemandleni akho! Njalo uncedise inzala kuwe, inzondo, ukudlala ngothando, ukudlala. Ngokomzekelo, ukuphumla kunye neqabane lakho, iglasi lewayini, ngendlela, mxelele into enokuthanda ukuyenza naye embhedeni. Mxelele into othanda ngayo ngaye, kunye noko ufuna ukuba akwenze nawe. Inokuvuselela umdla wakhe ngokukhethekileyo kunye nesondo ngokubanzi.
4. Hlaka!
Umbhangqwana ohleka ndawonye uhlala kunye! Ingqiqo yeyona nto isiseko solwalamano lwakho kwaye, ngokukratshi, oko kukukhanga omnye komnye kuqala! Akusoloko kulula - ukubona uhlangothi oluhle lwezinto, ukuze ukwazi ukuhleka iingxaki okanye iindlela zabo. Kodwa ukuba nonke nenza umzamo wokuhleka kunye, ukuhleka kuza kuvela ngokwemvelo. Khumbulani omnye umdlalo wamabali amnandi kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, jonga ubomi kunye namanye amehlo. Uya kumangaliswa ukuba oku kuya kutshintsha njani ulwalamano lwakho. Kwaye, kuphela ukuphucula.
5. Hlonipha izinto ndawonye!
Le nyaniso, sonke sidinga izinto ezinjalo kwaye sijonge phambili kubo. Kulula kakhulu-ukuba uhlaselwe kwiinkxalabo kunye neengcinezelo zobomi bemihla ngemihla. Vumela uzincinci. Iipiknik, ukuloba, ukudlala ukufihla nokufuna nabantwana - konke oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ubalekele iingxaki ngexesha elide. Ngaloo mizila elula njengoko uhamba ngokujikeleza okanye ushiya imilenze, ukugqithisa kwi-rollers okanye ukuvuthela iqela leebhola ezinemibala kunokuqinisa ubuhlobo bakho. Kwaye kunika amandla kunye nengqiqo yokuzaliswa kobomi. Yiba ngumntwana omncinci, ungabambeli xa ufuna ukungafihli. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu - ngaba ezi ntlondi ezilungileyo zihlangene.
6. Ukuzinikela kwiingcamango!
Kunzima ukulahla inkolelo yokuba ukuhlala ubuhlobo besikhathi eside kuthetha "yonke into iyafana neyokuqala". Enyanisweni, ukuba nobudlelwane obungapheli kuthetha ukuba ukhululekile ukuzama nokuzonwabisa. Unokwenza konke njengoko uthanda nomlingane othanda wena kwaye ufuna ukukukholisa! Ngoko "vumela" kwiingcamango zakho zasendle. Yenza ubusuku obusondelene kunye, kwaye vumela inkolelo enkulu kakhulu enayo (kwimida efanelekileyo, eqinisweni) yenzeka. Bhala iifomasi yakho ephepheni, kwaye ngoko, xa uthe walala ngesondo, yenza into yokuba omnye nomnye ayenze. Yaye ungabi neentloni, kuyafaneleka!
7. Gwema ukuxabana!
Oku kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, nokuba, ekuqalekeni, akunakwenzeka. Nangona kunqabile ukuhlangabezana nezibini ezingenomdla kwiindlela zokuphepha iingxabano nokukhusela ukunyuka kwawo. Kubalulekile ukwamkela ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ngabantu abahlukeneyo, wonke umntu unobuntu bakhe, umdla wakhe nombono wehlabathi. Jonga oku ukuze uncede ujamelane nayo nayiphi na ingxabano. Zama ukuqhuba iingxabano ezingenangqondo okanye ukungavumelani. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, unganqikazi ukucela uncedo lobuchwepheshe - oku kunokunceda ukufumana ingcebiso yomntu ongaphandle.
8. Yongeza ulwalamano "lokuqhuba"!
Ingxaki ebalulekileyo ekhokelela ekuphuleni ubudlelwane yiyo i-monotony. Zama ukuphepha oku, ingakumbi kuba kungenzima kakhulu. Yenza into entsha kwibudlelwane, zizungeze ngezinto ezintsha, utshintshe imo, imo. Yenza izinto ezingenanto. Ixesha elithile lingaqhelekanga. Ukwahlukana. Makube neenkcubeko zenu ezincinane: isidlo sasekuseni embhedeni, umzekelo. Oku kwenza ulwalamano luxabiseke ngakumbi. Kufuneka uziva omnye nomnye ngexesha. Yazi ukuba ukhona. Ungavumeli ulwalamano lwakho "rust."
9. Yenza ikamelo lakho libe yindlala yothando!
Ukugcina uthando omnye nomnye ngandlela-thile, qiniseka ukuba igumbi lakho lokulala liyisiphephelo soxolo nothando, kungekhona ukulahlwa kweebhulukhwe ezingcolileyo kunye neesokisi! Ukuba neendawo ezilungileyo zokuzonwabisa kunye nomlingane wakho, uyomeleza ulwalamano lwakho. Awuyi kukholwa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani oku! Yenza ukulungiswa kwezonyamelo ekamelweni lakho lokulala, ungabi livila ukwenza ukucoca kuyo rhoqo. Le ndawo ingcwele. Kufuneka ibe yindawo epholileyo, ecocekileyo kunye ehambelanayo endlwini. Ukuba unqwenela, faka izixhobo ezifana nekhandlela okanye iipayipi zokuhlobisa. Okanye nantoni na into ongathanda ukuyibona kwigumbi lokulala. Qinisekisa ukuba igumbi lakho lokulala yindawo apho bobabini uya kuziva ukhululekile, kwaye apho kuya kuba kuhle ukuchitha ixesha kunye.
10. Soloko ufumana ixesha lokuthetha!
Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ucinga ukuba uthetha udonga lwezitena? Kuye ngaphandle kokuthetha ukuba incoko evulekile kwintsebenziswano ibaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube nencoko engqongqo ngexesha lonke, xa kungabi buvila. Ibhanti engenamdla ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye iya kunceda ekuphuculeni izinto phakathi kwakho. Kubonakala kubonakala, kodwa ngaba wabuzana imibuzo? Yenza iingxoxo rhoqo "intliziyo intliziyo". Fumana into eyenzekayo kwindawo yakhe yokusebenzela, kunye nabahlobo, kunye nabahlobo bamhlobo kwaye uzama ukufunda ezintsha malunga nomnye. Hlaziya ngesiselo sakho esisithandayo xa kunceda ukuvula. Oku, mhlawumbi, yintloko yeemfihlo ezili-10 zobudlelwane obude kunye nokungenakulungiswa.