Xa kuphakama umbuzo: indlela yokuxelela abazali ngokukhulelwa, iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo ziya kuba luncedo kakhulu. Emva koko, amantombazana akalindela kwi-psychologist inkcazo ecacileyo kunye nemiyalelo yesinyathelo-ngeyinyathelo, banethemba lokuba oyingcali iza kusombulula zonke iingxaki zabo ngesifo esisodwa se-wand magic kwaye sichaze indlela engcono ngayo yokusebenza kule meko, kwaye baya kuphulaphula isiluleko baze balandele. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo, kwaye isazi senzululwazi yinto yokuqala umntu onokukunceda ukuba uyayiqonda, uya kukushukumisela kwisigqibo. Kuye kuwe ukugqiba indlela ofanele uyenze ngayo le meko.
Ngoko ke, okokuqala, emva kokufunda malunga nokukhulelwa, yibala. Fumana indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo, nokuba ulungele ukuba ngumama, okanye ukuba unako ukukhupha isisu, nokuba ngaba iqabane lakho nabazali bakho balungele ukukhulelwa kwakho, zama ukuqikelela ukuphendula kwabo. Ukucinga malunga nendlela oya kuqhuba ngayo, kuya kwenzeka ntoni kwizifundo zakho okanye emsebenzini, ngubani oya kumnyamekela umntwana kwaye ulungele ukumfundisa. Hlaziya zonke iinkalo zokukhulelwa kwakho, vavanya imeko kwaye wenze isicwangciso esicacileyo, esilinganiselweyo sezenzo zakho, qiniseka ngabo. Kungcono xa uqhuba intetho nabazali bakho, ube nesicwangciso esicacileyo sokusebenza kunye nesimo, kunokuba xa usweleka phambi kwabo okanye uvume ukuba awunalwazi ngento ekulindelwe yona. Ukuba ufumanisa nzima ukuba uziqonde ngokwakho, unokujika kwi-psychologist, okanye, ukuba akukho nto inokwenzeka, kumntu omdala onokumthemba kakhulu.
Ukuba ukukhulelwa kwakho akusiwe ongenakucwangciswa, wena kunye naloo mlingane unobuso obuhle, ngamnye ufuna umntwana kwaye ulungele ukumphakamisa, kunye nokunyamekela intsapho ezayo, kodwa abazali abakulungele ukukhulelwa kwakho, uthetha nabo abayi msebenzi o khe Ukuba awufuni ukubacaphukisa, musa ukuziphosakela - eli lizayo lakho kunye nokukhetha kwakho, ukuba ulungele oku kwaye unethemba lokukhetha kwakho, kufuneka bakuxhase. Okanye ufuna ukulinda iminyaka emithandathu okanye yesixhenxe, xa izalamane zakho zivuthiwe kule nyathelo? Ukukhokelwa ngokukhetha kwakho, xelela ngezicwangciso zakho kunye neminqweno. Bavele banokungabaza ukukwazi kwakho ukuxhasa intsapho, okanye ukulungele ukuba utshintsho olunjalo. Chaza imeko kubo, faka iinyani zinyani ukuba yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, kwaye ukuba utshintsho luya kuhamba phambili, luchaze malunga neemeko zezimo, iimfuno zakho. Khumbula ukuba abazali abayiintshaba zakho, bahlala ubomi babo, bakuqonda kwaye bahlala bexhasa ngenkqubela.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ukukhulelwa kungenakulungiswa? Kuthekani ukuba ubungakulungele oku? Njengoko kuthethwe ngaphambili, baqonda kakuhle izenzo zabo ezilandelayo baze benze isicwangciso sabo. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukugcina ukhulelwe waza wakhulisa umntwana wakho, qiniseka kwisigqibo sakho, cwangcisa indlela oyifumana ngayo imfundo, ngubani oya kumnakekela umntwana. Ungadlulisela kwifom yefowuni yokufunda, kwaye ufunde ekhaya - kwaye uphumelele ngempumelelo iyunivesithi. Abazali banokukunceda uqaphele umntwana, umfundise indlela yokufundisa, into ephambili ngumnqweno wakho, ukuzithiba nokuqonda.
Ungesabi ukuxelela abazali bakho ngokukhulelwa, ngaba ngabahlobo bakho abakhulu kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Akukho mntu unjengoko abanakukunceda kwiimeko kunye nomntwana. Iindaba zakho zinokubethusa ngenxa yezizathu zokuba zixhalabile ngawe kunye nekamva lakho, kwaye zinoyika inguqu ebomini bakho, ikusasa lakho nekamva lomntwana wakho. Xoxa nabo ngokukhawuleza, ukhethe umzuzu ofanelekileyo, intetho yakho iyathemba kwaye iyakha, inokuqonda. Ukubikezela ukwesaba kwabo kunye nokuhlambalaza, zama ukucacisa kwangaphambili indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima ezijongene nazo, ubonelele ngokupheleleyo nokuhlonela. Yilungele ukwenza impendulo engalunganga, kodwa zama uzame abazali bakho, zibeke endaweni yazo.
Mamela ngokucophelela iingcebiso zabo, zama ukubamba ingxoxo nabo, nisombulule kunye zonke iingxaki, fumana indlela engcono yokuphuma kule meko. Khumbula, abazali bakho bangabambisene nabo, kungekhona iintshaba, kwaye akufanele ukwesaba ngabo kunye nokuphendula kwabo, zama ukuyiqonda nokubanceda baqonde. Ukuba awuvumelani nabo ngemibuzo ethile-baxelele ukuba kutheni ucinga ukuba kunjalo, ukuba, ngoluvo lwakho, kuya kuba ngcono, kunokuba uphumule nje ngoluvo lwakho. Qalisa ukuzimisela, uxanduva kunye nesibindi, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, soloko uhlala ngokuvisisana nawe.
Indlela yokuxelela abazali malunga nokukhulelwa kwabo, ziziphi iingcebiso eziphambili zengqondo? Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu apha ungathethi kwaye uthembeke nabo. Musa ukucinga ngeziphi ezinye izizathu zesiphumo seemeko, kutheni kwenzeke, sitsho njengoko kunjalo. Ukuba ukwesaba into ethile, ungazazi iinkcukacha ezithile, awuqinisekanga ngeengxaki ezithile - ungesabi ukubuza imibuzo, kunye nokunika iimpendulo kwizinto ezithandana nabo. Kumele uthembele kubazali bakho kwaye ubacele ukuba bathembele. Bonisa ukuba uthembele kubo kwaye uxoxe nabo, ukuba, okokuqala, uyabahlonela ukhetho lwabo. Into ephambili - ungesabi nantoni na kwaye uqiniseke ngesigqibo sakho, ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ithemba kwizinto ezilungileyo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba nakweyiphi na imeko unokufumana indlela yokuphuma.