Akunakwenzeka ukulungiselela ukufa kwangaphambili, kwaye nangona umntu ekhulile okanye egule ixesha elide, iindaba zokufa kwakhe ziza kuba buhlungu kubathandekayo bakhe. Emva kweendaba ezibuhlungu, zamkelekile ukuvakalisa izibilini kwizihlobo, abahlobo, oogxa kunye nawo wonke umntu owaziyo oshonile. Indlela yokwenza ngayo - ukukhetha komntu wonke. Abanye bathanda ukuvelana ngomlomo, abanye - ukubhala ileta, yesithathu - ukwabelana nentlungu kwindinyana, i-condoles yesine ngezenzo.
Indlela yokuvakalisa induduzo kwiprose?
Ngamazwi alula kwaye aqondakalayo kufanelekile ukubonisa intlungu yakho kokubili kwifowuni, nangomntu, nangencwadi okanye kwimiyalezo yesicatshulwa. Into ephambili kukuba ulandele imigaqo ejwayelekile kwaye wenze ngexesha, kuba kusemzuzwana xa ukuvalwa komntu oshonile kungona buhlungu, uvelwano luya kuba lufanelekileyo. Zama ukusho malunga nomfi:
- ngokunyanisekileyo nangenhliziyo yonke;
- ngokungaqhelekanga, engafundanga;
- Cinga ngalo mntu, mkhumbule, kwaye ngoko amazwi aya kuba yintliziyo;
- khumbula izihlandlo zokukhanya ezidibene nayo, zama ukuwenza ukummotheka okukrakrayo kwimemori yokufa engafanelekanga.
Ukunyaniseka kwakho kuya kuboniswa ngokunikezelwa ngoncedo olwenziweyo (kunye nombutho wemingcwabo, ukubhaliswa kwamaphepha, ukuthengwa kwempahla). Mhlawumbi abalusiya baya kukwenqaba okanye bangawuthobeli isiphakamiso sakho, kwaye akusikho isizathu sokuba nomsindo, kuba umntu ngamnye uveliswa yintlungu ngendlela yakhe. Ukwamkela, ukuchukumisa kunye neenyembezi ezinyanisekileyo kuya kuthiwa awunandaba nomntu oshonile kunye nezihlobo zakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinjalo kukunceda ukuphoxisa iimvakalelo ezinzima, kwaye izihlobo zomntu ofileyo ziba lula. Nangona kunjalo, intetho iyakuchaza into engayi kuba yimpawu. Ngomlomo okanye ngokubhaliweyo - musa ukwenza amazwi okuvelisa entetho ende. Izivakalisi ezimbini okanye ezintathu zanele ukubonisa uvelwano. Umzekelo:
- Wayethetha kakhulu kuwe nakwam. Ndabelana nosizi lwakho, kwaye andiyi kukulibala ukuba ungubani kum. Ndiza kumthandazela.
- Wasinika imfudumalo kunye nothando, wafundiswa kakhulu ... Ndilila kunye nawe, kwaye ukuba ndiyakunceda, yithetha njalo.
- Andiyi kukulibala, njengoko wathi kum: "...".
- Andizange ndimbone, kodwa uthetha ngaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba kubonakala ngathi ndiyamazi. Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu. Gcina! Ndikunye.
- Nceda wamkele iinduduzo zam. Ukuba ndiyakwenza okuthile kuwe, ndiya kuvuya kakhulu.
Ewe, le mizekelo ayikho iimodeli zokuzisa uvelwano ngokufa, kodwa, mhlawumbi, ziya kunceda ufumane amagama afanelekileyo entliziyweni.
Ndiyidlulisela njani ukufa komama noyise?
Ulwalamano lwentsapho luhlukile, kodwa phantse phantse abazali bezona zininzi abantu basekhaya. Ukulilahleka kunzima kakhulu, kwaye intlungu ayinakuphela. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa uvelwano ukuxelela abanye imizwa enzima, ukuthatha inxalenye yalo mthwalo ongenakubekezeleka. Zama ukuyeka ukudibanisa, amagama ahlambulukileyo anjengawe "kufuneka ubambelele", "Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe," "ixesha lokuphilisa," "ngamanye amaxesha ukufa kuyisihluthulelo." Ukuba oku kuyinyaniso, onke la magama sele evele engqondweni yomntu olila, kwaye uya kudala ingcamango yokungakhathaleli, njengokungathi bawenza umsebenzi wabo ngokuqhelekileyo. Tshela loo mntu ukuba abazali bakhe babe ngabantu abalungileyo. Nangona ungabazi, kufuneka uvile ngazo. Ngokukodwa ukususela ekubeni uthetha nomnye abakhulayo. Buza umhlobo ngexesha eliqaqambileyo ukususela ebuntwaneni, edibaniswa nomama kunye neenkumbulo zikayise, kunceda ukuphazamiseka kancinci, ukunyamezela intlungu yokulahleka.
Ngawaphi amagama abonisa ukuncoma?
Zama ukuphepha ukuthambekela kwefestile ukufumana induduzo kwindinyana okanye ukuthumela umgca wenceba kwiSMS. Ukuba ubhala umyalezo omfutshane, ngoko ifowuni isesandleni sakho, kutheni ungafowuni? Ukuzama ukwenza uxolo olunemiqathango kunokudala umsila ongathandekiyo, njengokungathi uhlambalaza okanye usebenzise intetho xa kufuneka ukufudumala komntu. Akukho imfuneko ukufaka isicelo semiboniso ephakamileyo-nabo baya kususwa ngokubanzi. Ndixelele ngovelwano lwakho kumntu okanye ngefowuni, kwaye ukuba awukwazi - bhala ileta ephepheni okanye nge-imeyile. Ngoko awugxeki umzuzu, kodwa, mhlawumbi, uncedo ekunciphiseni umthwalo wentlungu.