Kwesihlandlo sesibini umntu ongaziqhelanga ngokukhawuleza waba ngumhlobo kunye nolwazi. Akukhathazeki ukuba oku akulona uhlobo lwenu: ukubonakala okanye ukuziphatha kudlala indima ekhethekileyo ...
Ukukholwa kwothando ekuqaleni kwimbambano ephikisanayo. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba kumasekhondi ambalwa okuqala kunomdla kuphela kunye nomtsalane, kwaye uthando - umqondo onzulu, ovavanywa ngexesha. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kwavela, akukho baninzi abantu abanokuzithemba. Ngokwenzululwazi eyenziwe yi-All-Russian Center for Study Study of Public Opinion, ama-59% aseRussia akholelwa ekubeni kukho uthando ekuqaleni, kwaye i-45% ithandana okwangoku. Uninzi lwazo zonke izidalwa zothando phakathi kwabaselula nabatshatileyo, ngokugqithiseleyo, abantu abaneminyaka engama-45 ukuya ku-59 ubudala. Abantu abaninzi bathambekele ekukholweni ukuba uthando luyinto into abafazi abasoloko becinga ngayo. Kuyavuma, zonke iifilimu, ii-serials, ezikhethwa ngamabhinqa afanelekileyo, zisekelwe kwiimbali zothando. Kodwa, njengoko kubonakala, amadoda ethu anonya ahlala esithandweni, kwaye ngaphezu kwesigamu sabasetyhini (52%) bathi bangayiva le ntliziyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukukholwa kwothando ekuqaleni kwimbonakalo kubonwa inani elilinganayo labasetyhini kunye namadoda.
Le yethu. Kwaye bacinga ntoni kule ngxaki kwamanye amazwe? Eyaziwayo ngenxa yokuqina nokuzinqanda kwabo, abaseBrithani, abadla ngokukholelwa ukuba abafazi kunye neentloko azifanelekanga ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zabo, ngokuqinisekileyo, bayaqiniseka ukuba uthando ekuqaleni alukho. Baphanda abangaphezu kwe-100 imibhangqwana yaseBritani kwaye bavakalisa ngokuxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwiintlanganiso zokuqala kwintlanganiso kukho uvelwano okanye ukunyamekela. Ngokombono wabo, uthando luyindlela yokuvavanya kwaye ivela kuphela xa abafazi besazi kakuhle. Oku kufuneka kuthathe ubuncinane ngonyaka. Kodwa iiNgesi nazo ziqinisekile ukuba amadoda anako ukuthanda ngakumbi nangakumbi kunabesifazane.
I-American "dream factory" ihlala ivuyiswa ngamafilimu apho ulonwabo lwentsapho lubhiyozelwa kwaye "iparadesi kwindlu". Kubonakala ngathi akukho luhlanga oluthile noluthando. Kodwa, akukho mfihlelo yokuba ihlabathi le-cinema kunye nehlabathi lokwenene ayifanelekanga. Nangona kunjalo amaMerika ngabantu abathandekayo, kwaye ama-51% abo aqinisekile ukuba akukho uthando ekuqaleni. Kukholelwa ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, i-47%, kwaye wafumana le ntliziyo kuphela 28%. IWashington Post yabika ukuba amadoda aseMerika, njengathi, athambekele ekucingeni ukuba uthando olunjalo lukhona, ingakumbi isizukulwana esidala - ukususela kwiminyaka engama-45 ukuya kuma-54. Ewe, abantu abatsha bancinci bonke bakholelwa kwiimeko ezikhawulezayo zoluvo olunzulu. Kodwa izazinzulu kweli lizwe ziye zakwazi ukubonisa ubungqina bokuthi uthando lukhona ngokwenene ekuqaleni. Abaphandi baseChicago baqiniseke ukuba imizuzwana embalwa yanele ukuba indoda ithande kakhulu. Yaye le mvakalelo ayiyiyo yonke into, kwaye nangona yazalwa ngexesha elifutshane, inokuhlala iminyaka emininzi.
Ngokuvisisanayo, uthando ngumncinci unesibophelelo sokwenza ingcamango. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba imitshato iyenziwa ezulwini. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba abantu kwiminyaka bazibonele bona kunye nabanye ukuba uthando luyinto evukisayo, ukuveliswa kwezindlukazi ezibuhlungu. Kodwa, ngelinye ilanga balahlekelwa iintloko zabo, kwaye abanakuphika ukuhlala kwabo. Uthando ekuqalekeni kuyisipho esivela ezulwini, kungekhona abantu abaninzi abanokukufumana. Ngoko ke, ukubamba amehlo kumntu, musa ukukhawuleza uhambe kwaye ufihle. Mhlawumbi nguyena oye wafuna, lowo uzimisele ukumchitha ubomi bakho bonke. Mhlawumbi, uthando luyinto ngaphandle kokuba umntu akakwazi ukuhlala. Kungenjalo, kutheni ezininzi iincwadi neengoma zibhalwa ngazo, kutheni zonke iifilimu zixelela ngothando, kwaye abaninzi abafazi bazizwa benesizungu xa kungekho mntu onothando noqondayo. Inyaniso yokuba uthando lukhona ngokwenene lokuqala lunikeza ilungelo lokuba nethemba ngelinye ilanga akuyi kuba nomntu oyedwa, emva kwakho konke, ukuze ufumane umphefumlo wakho, ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha okwesibini.