Inkxalabo yonyaka wokuqala
Ewe, kwenzeka kwakhona: ukutshata komtshato emva kwexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye umfazi omncinane uqala ukukhangela ngenyameko indoda yakhe kunye ... kunye. Kwaye ubona ntoni? Ukuxakeka ngonaphakade ngemicimbi yenkonzo yomlingane, ulonwabo lwentsapho apho, kubonakala ngathi luquka isidlo esishushu kunye nesitulo esithambileyo yiTV. Kwaye "ngasecaleni" umfazi omncinane ubona abahlobo abangatshatangayo abahlala ngokuzonwabisa kwabo, isidlo sakusondeza nabani na ukushiya ngeveki ngaphandle kwedolophu kunye nabahlobo. Isigaba sokuqala somkhwa womtshato womfazi kuthiwa "Kutheni ndifuna ukutshata?". Ukuba ngeli nqanaba umyeni wakhe akayi kuhamba kwaye enze utshintsho, ngoko yonke into iya kuqhubeka ikhula, oko kukuthi iya kuba yingozi. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ufuna nje ukuphosa izigodo emlilweni otshabalalayo wothando, nokuba yeyiphi na into enokuvakalayo. Ngenxa yokuba uthando, ngokuqinisekileyo, aludluli, kodwa okuncinci ukulungelelanisa umda phakathi komtshato ongatshatanga nomtshato womlingane awuyi kuthintela. Umlingani oqilileyo uya kushiya imicimbi yakhe esemthethweni aze abuyele kumkakhe ukuba uthando kunye nolonwabo, eqinisweni, eyadala umanyano wabo ngexesha. Babenjani? Ukuhamba kunye, uhamba kunye, ukutya. Nye kunye. Kwaye amaninzi amaninzi omthando kunye neentsilelo ezingenanto. Ngokuqhelekileyo iiveki ezimbini zolu hlobo "intambo" ibhinqa elaneleyo ixesha elide. Unyaka ozayo kamva, unako ukubambelela kule "ukumnika", kwaye umyeni wakhe kwakhona ngesazela esicacileyo uya kugxotha emsebenzini kunye nokuzikhangela emisebenzini, uya kuhlala esihlalweni kusihlwa aze adle ngesidlo sakusihlwa. Yazi ukuba inkathazo yobudlelwane bosapho 1 unyaka kakhulu.
Ingxaki yonyaka wesithathu
Unyaka wesithathu wokuhlala ndawonye, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba umfazi akaxhaswanga ngumsebenzi, kwaye intsapho yakhe ibona ukuba uyayigxininisa, ke ngowomnyaka wesithathu womtshato wakhe ukuba uqala "ukuqhwithela" encinane. Ngokulula, uqala ukudinwa ngumyeni wakhe. Uyazi kwangaphambili oko uya kuthetha, uqikelele indlela aziphendulela ngayo kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo. Ngaba kuhle? Kubuhlungu. Yonke imihla iyafana: indoda. Le nqanaba lesibini lomtshato womtshato. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Akasenako ukunyanga ukukhathala kwedwa. I-recipe ayifani ngokupheleleyo - iqela lakho elincinci kufuneka lihlanjululwe. Umyeni onobuqili, ukwenzela ukuba angayisebenzisi le sifo, ukhetha unyango olufanelekileyo. Uya kunye nomfazi kumacandelo amaqumrhu, apho kukho abantu abaninzi, kwaye, ngokuyinxalenye, abangaqhelekanga. Uhamba naye kwinqanawa enenkampani enkulu, apho yena, indoda, inokulahleka. Kodwa oku kubonakala nje: ulapha, usekude kwaye ulindile isiqingatha sakhe, ongayazi ngayo kwaye uyonwabela ukubonakala kwenkululeko. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba indoda enothando ayisoze inika umfazi "ukuba adle" ngamantombazana angatshatanga kunye nabaqhawule umtshato, oya kuba negalelo ekutshatweni kobudlelwane. Isiphumo: emva kwamava amatsha, umfazi ukhathele, kodwa kungekhona kumyeni wakhe, kodwa kwiinkampani, abahlobo abatsha kunye nabadala, bevumba, amazwi kunye namahlaya. Ngelinye ilanga akayi kufuna ukuya naphi na ngokuhlwa, kwaye uya kunika indoda yakhe isidlo sokuthula ndawonye endlwini yakhe. Uloyiso! Ngenxa yokuba kuya kuba ixesha elide lokuphumla emva "kolu hlobo". Embalwa minyaka. Oku akuthethi ukuba, phakathi nale minyaka, indoda ayiyi kuhlawula ingqalelo, hamba naye ukutyelela kwaye ujabule, ayiyi kuhamba olwandle olushushu kunye nokunye. Kodwa isilungiso esincinci-soloko sihlala kunye; abahlobo abangaqhelekanga, abafumana kwiholide, kunye nentombi yesikolo, ethathelwa kwibala lezemidlalo, kunjalo, imibala.
Inkathazo yeminyaka esixhenxe
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, isigaba sesithathu somtshato womtshato, into engathandekiyo, inokwenzeka. Ngenxa yokuba amava omtshato sele sele ekhululekile, kwaye indoda, ngokukrakra ngokwaneleyo, iphinde ibuhlungu. Kodwa wayengekho nje ukukrakra, njengakwixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa wayenentlungu yokuzicingela kwegama. Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Iqabane eliza kutshata emva koko, kwaye libonelelwa (izinto eziphathekayo) kakhulu. Ummelwane wanikela ummelwane wakhe uPorsche entsha kunye neengcongolo ezincinci, nangona ummelwane engowona mfazi ontle, mhlawumbi, omnye unokuthi, ngokuchaseneyo. Kwaye njalo. Esi sigaba sesithathu sisona sinobungozi kakhulu kumtshato, kuba ukuba indoda ingenayo ixesha lokuthatha ixesha, izinto azipheli nakwiimveli zothando, ezathi, ngendlela, umfazi akazange nje afunde kodwa kungokwemvelo, kuba uyayilahlwa ngokutya kwemini yasemini. - isidlo. Ukupheka kucatshulwe.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Okokuqala, akufanele ukwenze. Musa ukugubungela kwindlebe yentsilelo. Musa ukuthembisa iintaba zegolide. Kwakhona, ungazami ukubuyisela indawo yomfazi ngebhedi. Zonke ezi ngasentla - umendo ukuya kumlambo, oko kukuthi, ukunqoba. Okokuqala, indoda enothando iya kuba yithuba elithile, ilinde isigxina esitshintshileyo, ngokungazami ukuseka ubudlelwane okanye ukufumanisa isizathu sesimo sakhe esibi. Emva koko, engalindelekanga kuye, uya kubuya ekhaya kungekhona nje ngeentyatyambo, kodwa ngeentlobo zeentyatyambo ezintle. Emva koko uthengela ityelelo, kodwa kungekhona eTurkey, kodwa kwezinye iziqithi ezingaqhelekanga, ogama lakhe alijonga kuyo enye incwadi ngothando olushiywe ngumfazi ngobusuku bokulala. Isixhobo esihle kule meko - izipho ezibizayo, kodwa nguwuphi na kwaye imali evunyelwe. Ngaphezu koko, ukuze singakhuthuzi amadoda angabutyebi, siya kwazisa ukuba abafazi babo abaqhelekanga kwizinto zokunethezeka, ngoko ... Kubalulekile ukuba banike into abayisebenzisayo, kwimeko yobomi babo bentsapho, nasemaphupheni abo. Iphupha labesifazane abathobekileyo nabangenalwazi banokuthobeka. Emva kwalesi sipho isipho kumyeni wakhe unganciphisa umncinane uze udlale umfazi wentsha. Usuke engacatshukiswayo uya kuqonda kwaye abe nesisa kwindlebe, aze afunde izibongo. Uya kubuyela kumyeni wakhe ngaphandle kokushiya emzimbeni. Ngamanye amazwi, yonke into iya kuba njengaphambili, ngaphambi kwesi sigaba sesithathu sokupholisa. Emva kokufumana umlingane, umyeni onobuqili uyazama ukwenza ngendlela ehambelana nayo. Emva koko, wayeseyinto engcono kuye? Kwaye wayevuya naye, kwaye akazange afune uvelwano kubahlobo bakhe, kwaye akazange afunde amanoveli enothando ... Kukho amadoda ambalwa angathanda kwaye angatshintsha. Kodwa ukuzikhumbula wena osemncinci kwaye ubuya ngeli xesha kulungile. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, kukufanelekile: ulonwabo ebomini bakho abuzange luchithe umntu.