"Kufuneka kubekho imfihlelo kumfazi!" - iibongozi zibhala. "... kunye neenkcukacha kunye nenkcazelo" - cacisa amadoda ayenamaxhoba angabonakaliyo kwabasetyhini, alahlekelwe kwi-labyrinth ye-instt okanye i-intragues. Siyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba amadoda, ngenxa yohlobo lwabo "lokuzingela", aphikisana nabasetyhini abafuna ukulungiswa, bafunwa kwaye banqotshwe. Akukho mntu unomdla kwixhoba elilula! Indoda idinga i-adrenaline kunye nolonwabo kwisilingo sokwenza umfazi onzima, ongenamdla kwaye ongenakufikeleleka. Kulo mdlalo ubonakalisa ukunqoba kwakhe, kwaye uzithanda ngokwakhe. Ngoko, uthando kunye nomfazi obangela kuloo mvakalelo. Indoda ingaba njani imfihlelo, ingenakufikeleleka kwaye inqwenelekayo, ingaphenduli ibe iphazili, yintoni eya kuphula yona intloko?
- Hlala wena. Umgaqo wokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba yendalo. Ukuzibethela emfanekisweni nomfanekiselo weenkwenkwezi, umhlobo, umama-uthetha ukuyeka uhlobo lwakho oluyingqayizivele. Kwaye kukho kuyo imfihlakalo enokuyifuna indoda yakho efanelekileyo, okanye eyayithandana nayo ngaphambili. Yaye nangona ezi zinto zibonakala zibi okanye zidala, musa ukuzishiya ukuziyeka. Yenza uphicotho. Mhlawumbi, phakathi kwabo kukho iimeko ezenza unqabileyo kwaye ungafani nabanye abafazi. Amadoda awayithandi "iitemplates" ezithandekayo. Kungcono ukuba ube mnqweno kunoko wonke umntu. Wonke umfazi kufuneka abe "nobuhlanya"!
- Gcina imfihlo. UThixo akazange asinike iindlebe ezimbini kunye nomlomo omnye kuphela. Mamela ngakumbi kwaye uthethe ngaphantsi! Abafazi basoloko kunzima ukujamelana nomnqweno wokuxoxa. Yaye ukuba umntu ebuza kunye nemibuzo, ngoko-ke kufuneka abekwe ityala-makumamele. Ngoko kungekudala kwaye "imfihlelo yempi" yokunikela, kungekhona loo mntu. Ngendlebe nodliwano-ndlebe nendoda (ingakumbi ngosuku lokuqala) thintela ukuthetha ngawe, uphinde ubuyisele imibuzo ngokukhawuleza, shiya ungaphenduliwe okanye uhlekisiwe. Umzekelo: "Mmm ... Nguwuphi umbuzo omhle! Kodwa ngelixa liyimfihlo! Uyazi indlela yokugcina iimfihlelo? Ewe? Oku kuhle ... Nam! "Yiba ngudliwano-ndlebe kumntu. Makhe akuxelele ukuba uthini imfihlelo kumfazi.
- Ingongoma. Gcina umdla woluntu uvuselelwe rhoqo ngoncedo lwentlanzi kunye nokuthotyelwa. Amadoda anengcamango enomdla kakhulu, nangona ahlala eyazi ngaso. Ngoko, umzekelo, ungaphenduli umbuzo "Ngaba ukhululekile kulobu busuku?" Kwaye ngqo. Nika umntu ukutya kwengqondo. Ndixelele ngokumangalisayo: "Andikwazi ukuphendula. Ndinike ukubhalisa malunga nokungabonakali kwalo mfihlelo! "Ngokubanzi, musa ukukhawuleza ukuphendula imibuzo. Gcina ikhefu. Kuyathakazelisa! Nangona, njenge-heroine eyinhloko ye-Somerset inoveli uMoema, uhlakaniphile uJulia Lambert wathi: "Musa ukuyeka ixesha elingenasidingo, kwaye ukuba uyithabathele-uyitsalane kangangoko unako!" Ikhefu elincinci elincinci lingcono kunomzimba ongeyomzimba.
- Ungacaciseki. Njengokuba amadoda ayengacinekanga, engayiqondi inkcazo yeengcamango zabasetyhini kunye neengcinga zezenzo, iinqwenela zabo zihlala zivuswa ngabasetyhini abanzima ukuqikelela. Musa ukuqikelela! Umzekelo:
- Incoko yokuthululela ingqungquthela, engabonakali nayiphi na into emangalisa, iphazamise ngokukhawuleza kwaye ithi into efana nale: "Khangela ezi zithandwa. Bahle kakhulu! ". Kwaye kungathi akukho nto yenzekile, qhubeka nencoko yakho yexilongo.
- Ukugqiba kwentlanganiso ngokukhawuleza ngokwakho, ngokukhawuleza nangaphambili kunokuba kulindelwe. Musa ukuphandwa ngemibuzo kwaye ungavumelani nokukholisa. Shiya ngaphandle kwengcaciso, kodwa ushiye ithemba elithembekileyo kwintlanganiso elandelayo.
- Ukuphazamiseka ngokungalindelekanga ekuphakameni kwentlanganiso, ushiye inqaku kwi-napkin ngesicatshulwa esithi "Ukushiya ukulondoloza iplanethi ukusuka ekufudumeni kwehlabathi!" Uze udwebe ubuso obummi.
- Ukuba mnandi kakhulu. Enye yeemfihlelo eziphambili kwintombi kufuneka ihlale yinkqubo leyo ezisa ngayo ubuhle bayo: ukuthungulwa, ukuguqulwa kwamanzi, ukulungiswa kwamehlo, ukulungiswa kwemilenze, njl njl. Mye aqhubeke ehlala engqondweni, ukuba ngokuhlwa " I-Butterfly, "yayingu" isibungu "ekuseni. Kwaye makaqhubeke ecinga ukuba uzalwe ngeenkontila, izinwele, imilenze eboyiweyo kunye neengubo zangaphantsi zentsimbi, xa ebiza kwaye echaza ngokuvuyisa: "Lungisani! Kwimizuzu elishumi ndiya kuyenza! "
- Yiba ngumdlali. Bonke abesifazana abadlali, kodwa ubuchule bokwenene ukuhlala uqobo, ukuba lihlale lihluke, liyimfihlelo kwaye lingaqondakali. Umdlalo ongenamandla, ukungaqiniseki kunye nokuxhaphaza umntu uya kuziva kwangoko. Cinga ukuba ubomi bakho buyi-movie, ungumntu oyintloko kulo. Dlala, uzenza njengo-Oscar! Futhi udlale, uzibonge, iingcamango zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nezenzo. Cinga ngendlela yokuziphatha ngayo kule nto okanye loo meko, ukwenzela ukuba ukuba uyayibheka ngaphandle, uyazibonga. Hlalani nendima yowesifazane oyintombazana yefilimu ye-chic. Yikholelwa wena, kwaye indoda yakho iya kukujonga ngamehlo akho anothando.
- Funda kwizithixo. Kunzima ukuhlakulela umkhwa wokuhlala ungummangaliso kumntu, ukuba le nto ingekho egazini, kwaye kwintsapho bonke abesifazana abangekho umzekelo obalaseleyo wokuhamba kwiqhinga lobuqili okanye ukukopisha umzekelo wokuziphatha owenziweyo. Intliziyo yeengcinga kunye neengcebiso ziya kuba iincwadi, iifilimu, umabonwakude. Abasetyhini abaqinileyo, kwiinyawo apho kwakukho umkhosi wonke wabantu, babelana ngeemfihlelo zabo kwizityhilelo zemihlaba, iincwadi kunye namafilimu. Kwimiba yabo yempumelelo, kunokuhlala kukho into yokufunda nokufumana iimpendulo zemibuzo malunga nomfazi ongaqondakaliyo kwaye ongaqondakaliyo. Into ephambili kulo mzekelo, khumbula umgaqo-nombolo 1 - ukuphucula, kodwa ukuhlala uqobo.
- Musa ukuzifihlawula ngokunyaniseka. Musa ukuqonda ngokufihlakeleyo ngeemfihlelo, imigqabha kunye nokungenafinyeleleki, ukwenzela ukuba asebenze, njengokuba uhlekisayo:
- Kwimfazi apho kufuneka ibe nemfesane ...
- Ngaba uthetha ukuba akukho mingcipheko kum?
- Enye imfihlakalo, kungekhona iqoqo leengxaki kwi-physum ye-physics!