Uvakalelo olugqithiseleyo kumagama okanye kwizenzo lunokuba nomphumo ongeyingozi kumntu. Kwezinye iimeko, unokuwela phantsi okanye ugule. Ukuthatha isondele kakhulu entliziyweni, unokufumana ukungabikho kwengqondo, ukunyuka kwengcinezelo yegazi, ukunciphisa intlanzi kuze kufike ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuze ugcine isimo esihle sempilo, zama ukulahla indawo engakuchaphazeli kakubi okanye usebenze ngokwakho.
Ungayithatha njani intliziyo?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uthatha intliziyo eninzi ngenxa yokusola. Enyanisweni, akukho nto kwaye akukho mntu umfuna okubi, kodwa kukho ukunyaniseka okungekho buxoki. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu onjalo uqala ukufundisisa ngokuthe ngcembe umxhumanisi, intetho yakhe, ubuso obusweni kwaye akafumanise iimpawu zesimo sengqondo esibi. Isisombululo kuphela ukuzama ukuqonda ngokucacileyo abantu kunye neemeko. Ungacingi kwaye uvelise into engekho.
- Yivule ukuthetha kunye nencoko eyakhayo. Esi siqinisekiso sokuthi uza kukwazi ukuvavanya imeko leyo kwaye uzive sengqondo sengqondo yomntu onxibelelana naye. Ukuba ubona ukungathobeli, unokuhlala ucela ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Musa ukucaphuka uze ushiye, kusebenza ngakumbi ukwenza ukwakha umgangatho wokuziphatha, uzuze ngokwakho.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba abantu abacaphukisa abanye kwaye bayonwabele bahlala benesidima esincinane. Khumbula oku kwaye ungalokothi uthabathe amazwi angamnandi. Musa ukuvumela iimfuno zomntu ezingonakaliyo zonakalisa ubomi bakho.
Awuyi kuthatha uxinzelelo emsebenzini?
Umsebenzi, nokuba ngaba uyintanda, ngamanye amaxesha awuvelisi nje uvuyo. Ngeemeko ezixinzelelekileyo, abantu abajikelezayo basabela ngendlela eyahlukeneyo kwaye abahlala bekrazula ngokubhekiselele ekusebenzeni ngokungathandekiyo komsebenzi kufuneka bathathwe njengokuba bengayithobeli ubuntu bomntu. Ukuze wenze ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo neqela, akufanele uqaphele naziphi na izenzo zabo ezihambelana nomsebenzi wokusebenza njengomnqweno wokukhubekisa. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele uvumele amanzi agijime.
Ukuphatha ezininzi iimeko ngeentloni, iyakusindisa kwaye ingagqithisi ukubaluleka kwemeko engalunganga. Musa ukucinga kakubi ngabantu, akuyiyo into yokuba bathi iingcamango zenzeke ngokoqobo. Ukuba ucinga ngezinto zonke ngendlela engafanelekanga, kuya kuthi, ngoko masicinge ngethemba kwaye kuza kuba nabantu abanomdla kunye nabanomdla.
Funda indlela yokujongana noxinzelelo ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuba ufunda ukungena kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo emsebenzini, awuyi kuzingenisa entliziyweni. Khumbula ukuba ekusebenzeni kwakho ukukwazi ukuqonda ngokucacileyo nakwizinto ezinengqiqo kwiimeko apho ujongwa ngokukhethekileyo, ngoko uzama ukuphatha naluphi na wabo njengengcali.
Musa ukudabuka ngeze kwaye ungabacaphukisi abanye. Yiba ngokwemeko kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ebomini bakho ubuninzi bokungabi nantoni buya kunciphisa kakhulu kwaye akukho nto iya kuyenza, ngaphandle kokuba kukho uvuyo kunye nezihlandlo ezimnandi.