Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ayanyamalala ukusuka ekugqibeleni, ngokungathi abafuni ukuhlala nathi ngonaphakade izolo. Kwaye sihlala sicinga, ngenxa yoko kwenzeka, ukuphazamiseka ukujonga ... Kunokwenzeka ukuba iimpazamo ezininzi zabesifazane zenziwa ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
Ikhonkco # 1. Ukhuphiswano kunye nokhethiweyo .
Nabani na umntu uyaqiniseka ukuba ufanele ukudibana nentombazana enhle kakhulu. Enhle kakhulu, ehlakaniphile, ezoqoqosho, ezifashiniweyo, ezinobugcisa - olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ixesha elide. Ewe kunjalo, kunjalo, kodwa ngeyona nto "kodwa".
Okhethiweyo kufuneka abe ngcono kunamanye amantombazana, kodwa akakwazi ukuphumelela ngokuthelekisana nendoda yakhe. Ngoko akudingeki ukuba uziqhayisa ngokuphumelela kwezobugcisa, uzuze kwisithsaba sixhenxe ngokulandelana, ugijime ngokukhawuleza, uqhubeke, unjani uhlobo lomsebenzi oxabisekileyo, njl njl. Musa ukuyixabisa! Kungcono ukumxelela indlela yokutshisa ukunqoba kwakhe kunye nempumelelo. Ngaphandle koko, indoda ingacinga ukuba ayibukeli kakuhle imvelaphi yakho kwaye uyayicinezela. Khawucinge ukuba iimpawu zakho zobunkokeli ungaziqonda kwintsapho.
Ikhonkco # 2. Yonke into ayisigqibo.
Unokugqiba ixesha elide apho ufuna ukuchitha i-honeymoon, yiyiphi intsimbi kufuneka ibe yintoni, izahlobo zini ozozibiza emtshatweni. Igatya elilodwa - uphupha kuphela kwiingcamango zakho! Oku unokuqiniseka ukuba yonke into idlulileyo, kwaye umntu ufuna ukuba "khetho olukhethiweyo". Oku akuthethi ukuba baya kuyisebenzisa. Kodwa inyaniso yokuba nenkunkuma inokufudumala umphefumlo womntu.
Musa ukusebenzisa amabinzana afana ne "kwaye apha kuya kuba mnandi ukujonga isikhala somntwana." Ngaba ulungele ukuhambisa iimveliso zakho zokonkcenkceshela kwi-shelf ngo-15 cm ukuze ulungele i-cologne kunye neeros apho? Amadoda ayithandi xa umntu efuna ukudibanisa kwintsimi yakhe, enze izigqibo kubo.
Ikhonkco # 3. Ixesha elidlulileyo lidlulileyo.
Amadoda ayithandi xa ezama ukuthelekisa nomntu. Eyona nto ingathandekiyo, ukuba ungenise yonke into ukuze intombi yangaphambili ibhetele kangcono kunomlingane wakho okhoyo. Bite ulwimi, ukuba intanda iqala ukubuza, ngubani owayephambi kwakhe. Ngaba ucinga ukuba ufuna ukuva inyaniso? Akukho! Ufuna nje udumo lwakho nobungqina bokuba ungumthandi kakhulu. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, awukwazi ukuthelekisa "isondo" zakhe zesini kunye nezokwakho.
Ungazami ukummangalela loo mntu ukuba bakhe abakhethiweyo bangaphambili babebi kakhulu kunakho. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umzamo wokunyuka kwiindleko zomnye uza kusebenza. Skoreevsego, okhethiweyo wakho uya kwenza isigqibo esicacileyo ngokupheleleyo sokuba ucingela, umntu ongakwazi ukwenza okulungileyo.
Ikhonkco # 4. Imibuzo ngaphandle
"Ndiyabonakala ngileyo?" Kucacile ukuba amantombazana ayavuya ukuphulaphula iincoma zakhe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Indoda iya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba: a) unenkinga yememori, b) awukholelwa kwiimvakalelo zakhe, c) uqhube izihloko zentetho. Ngemibuzo enjalo, kunokwenzeka ukugxilisa ingqondo engathandabuzekiyo. Yaye ngokwenene, - ucinga, - ndimthanda ngempela? Isiphumo somsebenzi wakhe wokucinga mhlawumbi sisithuba sakho sokuphuka.
Ikhonkco # 5. Ukunyaniseka kuqala
Amadoda ayithandi xa "aboniswa" kwabanye ukuba adumise. Ngaba uzive ukhululekile ukuzibonakalisa njengomboniso kwimyuziyam apho isibonakaliso "singathinteli ngesandla" sixhomeke? Indoda ngokwemvelo ngumzingeli, kungeyi-trophy.
Ikhonkco # 6. Izicwangciso - akukho
"Namhlanje siya kwi-cinema, kusasa ngepikiniki, nangomso emva komso siya kukuvakashela" - ucinga ukuba uyayithanda xa ulawula ixesha lakhe, ungashiyi indawo yokuzimela? Akunabo bonke abantu abathanda ukuhamba ngentambo, bazenza njengopopi.
Ikhonkco # 7. Uthande ngendlela ayenayo
Ungazami ukuziqhelanisa nemikhwa emibi ngoncedo lwetoni ehlelekile. Ukukhumbuza indoda ekhulile ngumsebenzi ongathokozisiyo. Kuyo unako ukuchitha amandla amaninzi, kwaye ufumane umphumo wentukuthelo nokucaphuka.