Wonke umntu ufuna ulonwabo ngobuncinane, ubomi obude kunye kunye nokugubha umtshato othabisayo nomhle.
Enyanisweni, lo bomi kanye kunye akunakude. Ngamanye amaxesha ukwahlukana kuya kwenzeka emva komtshato. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye buhlungu, kodwa kwenzeka. Ungazama nje ukuqonda izizathu, kodwa zingafani kakhulu.
Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abancinci babezazi ixesha elifutshane.
Kwaye emva komtshato kuza ixesha lokwenyaniseka, oku kuthetha ukuba amaqabane awahambelani ngokupheleleyo kwaye aphikisana nje ukuba abe kunye kwigumbi elinye. Umntu - into enzima, kwaye inqaku elithi "alizange lihlangabezane nabalinganiswa" akulona nje ukuthetha, kodwa inyaniso yinyani.
Ukwahlukana kwangoko emva kokuba umtshato ungabangelwa kukuba isibini esitshatileyo sibhekene nengxaki yasekhaya, abangayilungele ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso. Emva koko ukufudumala kunye nezikhalazo ezincinci zikhula zingathandeki kwaye umnqweno awukude kunye, kwaye ngokukhawuleza umtshato uqhaqha. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abaselula bajamelana neengxaki zendlu, ezingenako ukuzixazulula ngokwabo. Ukungakwazi ukuba nekona lakho, njengommiselo, ukuxinezeleka kakhulu kunye neziqabane ezingabonakaliyo zinganqoba ezi ngxaki kwaye zihlale kunye.
Ukongezelela, indima ebalulekileyo kwiintsebenziswano emva komtshato idlalwa zizizalwane kwihlangothi zonke. Kwaye ukuba ngaba abazali bomfazi okanye umyeni abavumelani nokukhethwa kwenzalo yabo, kodwa banokwakheka kobuthixo kunye nokuzimela, "baya kufaka iintonga kwivili" ngawo onke amandla abo, ukuze abo basanda kutshata baxabane baze babaleke. Kuthiwani ngothando? - buza, mhlawumbi nawe. Uthando ... oko. Into ephambili akuyikuyidonsa nge-hobby elula kwaye ungayithobeli kwimpembelelo yokuqala yengqondo, ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ibalulekile.
"Xa ubuhlwempu bufika endlwini, thandana ngokuya kwi window" - la mazwi anesilumko, athetha ixesha elide, alahlekanga ukufaneleka kwawo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umtshato emva komtshato uvela ngokuzalwa komntwana, kuba esi siganeko esonwabileyo nesonwabileyo siphelela ubusuku obungalali, ukuhlamba okungapheliyo, ukutshiza kwaye kubonakala ngathi lo mjikelo awuyikuphela. Umfazi emva kokubeletha ucaphukile, unentshiseko nangasiphi na isizathu kunye nomyeni ngenxa yoko, uphendukela kumntu ofuna amahora ambalwa ukulala. Ukuqala ukuthukuthela, ukuhlambalaza kunye, ngenxa yoko, umtshato. Oku kwenzekayo xa abantu abaselula bengakhange bashiye ubuntwana kwaye abazange bafunde ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Kubonakala kubo ukuba uthando luye kwaye indlela yodwa yokuphuma ukuphula ngokukhawuleza.
Ukwahlukana kwangoko emva komtshato kuya kuba ngumphumo wobudala obukhulu phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Umfazi usemncinci kwaye akaqondi ukuba le ndoda enommangaliso, ukubetha ingcamango yakhe, inomdla oqokelelwe ebomini, imikhwa, mhlawumbi, abantwana kunye nomfazi wokuqala. Kubonakala kuye ukuba uthando luya kusinda konke ukuba "uthando" kuphela lusondele. Uthando luyakwazi ukunyamezela - intombazana efuna ukuvuya ngobomi bayo, ikhule ngokwaneleyo nangokomoya, ayikwazi ukumelana nayo, ngelixa izimpukane zakhe ezindala sele zenze konke oku kudala kwaye zinganikeli ukuziphatha kwayo yonke imisebenzi yakhe.
Njengoko ubona izizathu zomtshato emva komtshato - abaninzi kunye nabangabonwanga. Enyanisweni, akunjalo. Kungcono ukubuyela emva kwangoko kunokuba ndihlupheke kwiimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yonke yobomi bam. Ukwahlukana kwezahlukaniso kwaye abanye bafumana ithuba lokufumana ulonwabo.