Enyanisweni, kubalulekile ukwazi konke. Kwaye isizathu sinye, kodwa siyasebenza: ukuba awuqondi ukuba yintoni eyakhokelela ngokuwa kwebini, kunzima kwixesha elizayo ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha ngempumelelo.
Abantu abangayihoyi ukuhlalutya okanye ukuthetha nomnye umntu owayeseqabane naye bahlala behamba ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngenxa yoko, kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuba bafumane ukuphuka kwezobudlelwane. Ngoko esikhundleni sothando olutsha oluthandabuzayo baqala ukukhetha ubunyulu bodwa okanye baxhomekeke kwi-career. Leyo ayiyona indlela eya kulonwabo kunye nokuvisisana, kuba ngaphandle kwesiqingatha sesibini kunzima ukusinda kwihlabathi lethu elikhohlakeleyo. Kuhlala kumnandi xa ibhuloho phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi isungulwe ngxu lumano oluthile olunika amandla kunye namandla kuwo ngamnye. Ukuze wenze ulwalamano olutsha lunokwenzeka, kulungele ukuba nenxalenye yakho yangaphambili. Kule nqaku, siza kuqwalasela kuphela iziphakamiso ezifutshane malunga nesi sihloko.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde kakuhle i-i. Ukuba unquma ukwenza inxenye, kufuneka uhambe ngexesha. Musa ukubiza umntu wangaphambili okanye owake waphila kwaye uphefumle kwi-tube, ungakhangeli iintlanganiso kwaye wakha amabhuloho. Ukuba ulwalamano luye lwaphuka, udinga isibindi sokuvuma ngexesha. Kwezinye iimeko, umgama wendawo usiza ukusinda ukulwa kobudlelwane. Kwiimeko apho uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukuzilawula, ukhangeleka kumendo endala, ukuya kwiindlela zangaphambili zothando, uzama ukufumana iintlanganiso kunye nabokuqala kwimibutho eqhelekileyo kunye nabahlobo bobudlelwane, jolise umgama wakho ngendlela eyiyo yegama. Endaweni yomgama wengqondo, yakha enye impahla. Tshintsha inamba yefowuni, ukuba kunokwenzeka, uhlala kwenye indawo, fumana umsebenzi oya kuwukhansela imfuneko yokubona okokuqala ukuba kukho iiprojekthi eziqhelekileyo. Kuya kuba nzima kuphela iintsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa. Emva koko uza kuqala "ukuyeka", kwaye wena ngokwakho awuyi kubona ukuba kunokuba njani ukubonakalisa umonakalo kwiqabane lomntu ohamba naye, cingisisa ngezinye, izinto ezingaphandle.
Okwesibini, emva kokuhlukana, khumbula zonke izinto ozizonwabisayo. Sivame ukuhlasela le ngoma emqaleni ngenxa yemfuno yesigamu sesibini. Ukwahlukana okanye ukwahlukana kuyindlela yokuvuselela amaxesha amadala, kwaye ungabuyi "kuwe uVasya", kodwa uzenzele wena. Ukongezelela, ukuthabatha imicimbi enomdla, oye wanyanzelelwa kuyo, kukukhumbuza ngokucinga malunga nendlela yokusinda isithuba phakathi komfazi kunye nendoda.
Okwesithathu, oko kubalulekile ukwazi emva kokuhlukana, kukuba ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kukuphendula okwaneleyo ekulahlekelweni komntu othandekayo. Nangona kunjalo, musa "ukuxhoma" ngesihloko sokubhenela. Oku kuyafana kumadoda nakwabaseTyhini, kodwa abafazi "bayaziqhayisa" emva kokuphela kweeveli zengaphumeli kakhulu. Kungathatha ixesha lokufumana ubuhlobo obude, abanye bathatha iminyaka ukwenza oku. Ngoko loo nto ayichithekanga, kufuneka ufunde ukukholelwa ngesini esahlukileyo kwakhona. Enye yeendlela ezilula ukuguqula isangqa sabangani. Kukho abahlobo abangabomini okanye iminyaka. Kwaye kukho isangqa samaqela - abahlobo, esiya nabo kwivenkile yokutyela okanye i-movie, siya kwiholide. Ngaba nabahlobo kunzima kakhulu, kodwa abahlobo bafanele bahlaziywe kwiingxaki zabo. Ukuba phakathi kwabo kukho abo bazibhokoxa ngeendleko zenu, bekuncwitshisa ngotshani, bebahlekisa ngamaqela okanye bawahlazisa nje kwingxoxo ecacileyo, kubalulekile ukuluhluza. Ukuba lo ungumhlobo wenene, ixesha liya kufaka yonke indawo kwindawo yalo. Kwaye ukuba umhlobo nje ngama-hangout, akusoloko ufanele ukuzisola ngokulahlekelwa kobudlelwane obunayo indima "ye-scapegoat."
Abantu abaninzi emva kokuhlukana ukucinga malunga nokuba baqhubeke bebahlobo babo. Akukho mpendulo engacacile kulo mbuzo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuxhomekeke kubuhlobo obuqhelekileyo, ubukho babantwana kunye nezoshishino jikelele, kwiinkcubeko zelizwe okanye indawo apho umntu ehlala khona. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho imingcipheko eqhelekileyo kubo bonke abatshatileyo-abahlala bebathandana nabo ngaphambili, ngelixa behlala bengabangane, abanakuziqhelanisa ngokwabo. Baqhubeka befuthe ubomi bomnye nomnye, baphazamise kwiziganeko ezibalulekileyo, banokuba nomona okanye bazise inkathazo kumthandi omtsha. Mhlawumbi, kulo mbandela kuyimfuneko ukuthembela kumntu, ukuhlalutya imeko, kwaye emva kokulinganisa yonke into, yenza isigqibo. Kodwa nangona usuzimisele ukuhlala ungumhlobo, ixesha elide lokunxibelelana ekuqaleni kwasekupheleni kwekhefu liyakunceda ukujamelana nesiphepho sengqondo kwaye ufike ngokukhawuleza.