Ukunyaniseka kwigama okanye izithembiso ezingenanto

Xa umntu ezenza izithembiso, aze azibale okanye azibandakanye naluphi na ukubaluleka kwinto eshiwo. Watsho waza wamkhohlwa. Kodwa wathembisa. Yintoni - ukunyaniseka kwilizwi okanye izithembiso ezingenanto? Isithembiso sakhe sisindisa ukuzisola? Ulale ngokuthula, bakhohlisi. Yingakho silindele le nto ithembisiwe, njengoko bethetha, iminyaka emithathu?

Ngaba uthanda umqambimanga? "Omnye uthembisa ukubiza ngoMgqibelo, ngeyure enye ntambama. Sekudlulileyo ngeCawa, inxenye emine idlulileyo ... "- intombazana ethandana ne-chevalier yomoya ihlakisiwe. "Unyaka wonke ndithembisa ukumthabatha umntwana kumyuziyam, kodwa kunoko uya naye kunye nemilingo yobuwula!" - lo ngumyeni onelisekile. Wathembisa ... O, kutheni engathembanga! Sitshintsha i-tile kwindawo yokuhlambela, uthenge ithikithi kwibhalti, mema izihlobo kwindawo yokudlela yaseentlanzi, uhlawule ityelelo eMallorca, uhlambe ivuvu yakho kwi-Marit yesibhozo uze uphinde uphinde ufunge kwivili. Yintoni ethembekileyo kwizwi okanye izithembiso ezingenanto? Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ukuba amadoda kuphela enza oko anikezelayo izithembiso ezingenanto. Kuphi ukuthembeka kwabo kwilizwi? Kutheni abo bangamanga? Ewe, ngenxa yokuba thina, xa sasingabantwana, sihlala sifungela kumama ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba asiyi kuphuma ngaphandle kwengubo, sihleka kunye nokuhlafuna umlomo emlonyeni wethu, kwaye ngeveki siya kufaka izinto ngokufanelekileyo kwigumbi lethu. Njengoko bathenjisiwe, benza izithembiso ezingenanto ukuwa emva. Ngoko, bonke abantu bayakhohlisayo ngokwemvelo?


Ukuzolalisa isazela sethu esasisondele ngokukhawuleza kunye nawe, okanye mhlawumbi ukusindisa umntu omthandayo kwiindlobongela, siya kukhankanya inyaniso elandelayo yenzululwazi. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafumanisa ukuba ukunyaniseka kwethu kwigama (okanye umkhwa wokulibala ngokuzonwabisa) kudibaniswa nokuzithemba. Kodwa ... kungekhona ngokuthe ngqo njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Oko akusiyo into yokuba ukuba umntu uyazihlonela, uya kuba negazi ephupheni azalisekise zonke izithembiso zakhe. Ukuxhatshazwa okunjalo kubonakala kubantu abanokungakhuselekanga kakhulu. Ukwandisa kwikhekhe elicwengekileyo ukuze kugcinwe igama, bazaliswe ngokuzithemba, abayilahlekanga, bengacingi, kodwa ukuba konke oku kuyimfuneko kumntu. Ngendlela, loo "maqhawe" athatha kakubi kakhulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zokungagunyazisiyo. Nangona ibinzana elithi "Siza kubiza ngandlela-thile ngeveki" uthe ngentlonipho kungabangela umntu ukuba ahlole imini nobusuku ukuba kukho na iifowuni ezingekhoyo kwi-mobile. Kwaye ke, ukuqinisekisa ukuba awubonakali, uya kukhubeka kakhulu ... Ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka sigcine ilizwi kunye nezithembiso, kuba silindele ukuba sizalisekise, amazwi emoyeni, zama ukuhamba. Kufuneka ukhethe ukunyaniseka kwegama okanye izithembiso ezingenanto. Kunzima kunzima ngamanye amaxesha ukujika ukuba unganikeli izithembiso ezingenanto ...


Ukusuka entlokweni ye-flew ... Kungenxa yokuba imemori ilahlekile! Kwakhona, ndathembisa ummelwane wam ukuba azise idiski yokuzifundisa kwi-hatha yoga. Akayidingi, awuyi kubandakanyeka, kodwa ummelwane wakho ungumlutha. Ihlazo kuwe? Ewe, kwaye akukho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izithembiso kufuneka zizaliseke, kwelinye - uyalilibala ngokupheleleyo ... "Ukulibaleka akusoloko kudibaniswa neempawu ezinjalo ezigwenxa njengokungabi namdla okanye ukungahloneli abantu." - Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungaphumeleli okunjalo kuchazwa ngumsebenzi weendlela ezithile zokukhusela ngengqondo, oko kukuthi, ukufuduka. Sekunjalo uSigmund Freud waphawula ukuba ngoncedo lokufuduka kwethu i-psyche iyazikhusela kwimvakalelo engathandekiyo. Kwinqanaba elingaziwayo, asikwazi ukunxulumanisa naluphi na uhlobo olubalulekileyo kwiziganeko ezithile, kodwa i-subconscious iyilungisa konke oku, ukususa kwimemori into esiyifunayo ngokwenene. "

Ukuba uhlala ulibala malunga nezicelo zomntu, kufuneka uqikelele ukuba kutheni unayo "ingxaki yokukhumbula"? Mhlawumbi intombi icela izipho ezingapheliyo, ingapheli nantoni na, kwaye uyacaphukiswa ngumntu wabathengi. Kwaye masithi, umkhwekazi wakho othandekayo, ohlala 'esidla ukutya kwasekuseni', unqabile kakhulu kwiminqweno yakho. Ngoko usebenza kuyo umgaqo omdala wokhuselo lokukhusela umkhosi-ulinde ukuwukhupha, ukuwukhansela! Okanye uvele unike umntu isithembiso, awukwazi ukubamba. Kule meko, ukwenzela ukuba ubambe igama, umntu makabonakaliswe kumntu ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ... xolela abaxokisi bamadoda. Ngokwalungiselelo lwengqondo, ahluke kuthi, ngokunyaniseka!