Umtshato opheleleyo. Isitya somyeni? Ngangaphi na thina, bafazi, sidibene nekhethiweyo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, izidalwa ezintle kwaye ezincinane ngaphambili ziqala ukucaphukisa. Andizange ndihlangane nomsebenzi, ndiyinqumle iinqumlezo zangoojoko ... kwaye ubudlelwane sele sele beqala ukuwa. Ngokwezibalo, ngaphezulu kwe-50% yemitshato iyahlukana kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala. Ngoko, namhlanje imiyalelo yomfazi omuhle: umfazi othandekayo, unina, umhlobo, umhlobo.
Zingaphi ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane kwimitshato "yobuntu", engabandakanywa kuyo nayiphina idatha esemthethweni. Amadoda atyholwa ngabafazi abahlulekayo, kwaye abafazi bafana namadoda. Ngubani oza kubeka ityala? Mhlawumbi thina, njengoScarlett O'Hara, "Sihamba Nomoya" uMargaret Mitchell, kusengaphambili sizama kwiinqwelo zethu zegolide ezakhethiweyo kunye nantoni na esingayifuni ukuyibona phantsi komntu wangempela. Ngokungahambi kakuhle kuya kudideka. Ngaphezu koko, lo mvakalelo uhambela iinqanaba kunye nomyeni omtsha uyazibuza: "Yaye yintoni na loo mfazi onobuhle enditshatileyo naye?" Mhlawumbi kulungele ukuba ngumlingane onokuzikhethela kwaye ungalahlekelwa nguwe "mna"?
Amadoda afuna yonke into kanye, ngokuqhelekileyo ezi zinto ziphikisana ngokupheleleyo, ngoko kuya kuba lula ukuzama. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqonde uhlobo lunikazi lomyeni wakho ofuna ukukubona.
Umgcini wendlu
Amadoda amaninzi ayifunayo ngecala. Kwiminyaka emininzi isondo esiqinileyo asikhohliwe indlela yokuthanda ukutya okumnandi. AmaJamani avelisa ifom efanelekileyo "yomgcini" - iKirche, Kinder, Kuchen (icawa, abantwana kunye nekhitshi). Ngamaxesha onke isidlo esitsha esilungiswa ekhaya, imfundo engabonakaliyo yabantwana abafanelekileyo kunye nokuthula ngexesha lomdlalo webhola yeqela lakhe elithandayo. Ingaba uyilo elisondeleyo kulo mfanekiso? Yiya phambili! Musa nje ukuwudlulela, mhlawumbi umyeni wendlu uya kudla kuphela aze aphumule, kunye nezinye izivulo ziya kwindawo eyahluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ngomthandi wokholo
Eli liphupha eliyimfihlo yindoda nganye, kuba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukubonakala kwesohlwayo kulwalamano, akukho mntu ukhansele. I-borrowdom yenza umntu akhangele umntu onobungakanani kunye noomtsha, uvakalelo, uvakalelo. Iindwendwe ukuya ngasekhohlo ziba rhoqo, kwaye umbhede womtshato unyakala. Kuthekani ukuba udlala umdlali? Unokucinga, umzekelo, ukuba lo akuyena umyeni, kodwa umfo ongaqondakali uza kuza emva komsebenzi, aze ahlangane nesigxina sakhe sesibini kwisambatho esithakazelisayo kwaye ahlele i-candlelight dinner. Ngoku awuyena umfazi kunye nomfazi onomsindo, kodwa umthandi othandekayo nonomdla ongenomdla kwiintlobo zekhaya. Mhlawumbi ukumangaliswa kwakhe ngokuhlwa kuya kutshintshwa kungekhona nje ngentshisekelo, kodwa nangomdla. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo loo mdlalo uza kunceda ukuvula omnye nomnye.
Umama oKhathalelayo
Ukungabikho kokuzimela kwabantu kunye nesifiso sazo sokunakekelwa kunye nokukhuselwa, njengokuba ubuntwaneni, kukhokelela ekufuneni olo khethiweyo. Isikhumbuzo sendawo apho ihembe lakhe lihlala khona kunye nesigqibo seengxaki zonke zekhaya, kuya kunceda ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye nomyeni onjalo. Ngelo xesha, umntu kufuneka ahlale eqhagamshelana naye kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo avumelane nazo naziphi na izigqibo. Oku kuya kumnika ingqiqo yakhe. Kodwa sele usuqumile yonke into, kunjalo? Into ephambili kukuba akavakalelwa kukuba uluvo lwakhe alunyanzelwanga.
Okwenene "mna"
Le nxaxheba ibona nzima kakhulu, kuba apha awudlala, kodwa hlala uqobo. Zibonise ukuba indawo engqongekileyo ayiyinto elula njengoko ibonakala ekuqaleni. Kule meko, ubomi bentsapho kuya kufuneka baqonde into efunwa ngokwenene kwaye ikhokelwe yile miqweno. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi ufuna indoda yakho izame ukukwenza uzive kakuhle kwaye uthathe indima yomthandi wamaphupha akho? Into ephambili ukuba ube nguwe. Kuthe kuthiwa kuzo zonke ezi zinto ziya kuvela, ubomi bakho obudibeneyo buya kuthatha isigqibo. Njengomthetho, ukuba yinyani omnye nomnye - oku kulwalamano oluhambelana kakhulu, kuba akudingeki uzenzele kwaye uzame kwabanye abantu.