Enyanisweni, ukucacisa kumhlobo wakhe ukuba le nto ayikho into enhle, akunjalo lula. Okokuqala, masiqonde, yiziphi iimpawu ozigqibayo ukuba umfana akayithandi umhlobo wakho? Enyanisweni, kukho iimeko ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ungeke unqunyulwe kwihlombe. Emva koko, unokuchaza ukuba umfana akayithandi intombazana aze amkholise oku, kodwa ke kuvela ukuba yonke into ayiphutha ngokupheleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, kukho abantu abatsha abanqabile ukuthetha ngothando, baziphathe ngokugqithiseleyo, kodwa ngelo xesha bazama ukwenza yonke into kumntu omthandayo kunye nokubonelela okulungileyo. Ngako oko, kwiimeko ezinjalo akufuneki ukuba zibandakanye ubudlelwane kwaye uzame ukulungisa into ethile. Kule nqaku sithetha ngala maxesha apho intombazana iguqula intombazana, isebenzisa, ikhubekisa kwaye ikhubekise. Kule meko, ngokwenene badinga uncedo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuxwayisa ngokukhawuleza: abaninzi abafazi abanqweneli ukuqonda into, uncedo lubonwa njengento enobundlobongela kwaye lucatshulwa kubantu abafuna ukuwagcina kubundlelwane obubi. Ngoko khumbula oku kwaye uqaphele ukuba uthatha ingozi.
Kodwa ukuba usulungele le nto, makhe sizame ukugqiba indlela yokuchazela abahlobo ukuba abafana abayithandi. Okokuqala, akufanele ukhangele umntu osemncinci, aze abuyele okanye abonise intombi yakho. Khumbula ukuba umfana unokuhlala echaza indlela yokuzilungela yena kunye nomfazi othandana naye uya kukholwa, kwaye uya kuba ngumlenze ozama ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane bawo. Nangona ubona iimeko ezingathandekiyo ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwintombi yomhlobo wakho kwaye uyazi kakhulu ngaye, awudingi ukuyibuyisela kuyo yonke imibala. Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba intombazana ngokwayo ifikelele kwizigqibo kwaye yenza izigqibo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uhlalutye imeko. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukuzama ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye unobtrusively ukuqiqa nayo. Zama ukumxelela amabali avela ebomini afana nalawo okwenzeka kwiintombi zakho.
Ukuba le ntwazana ingathembekanga kwaye ishintshe intombazana, zama ukujonga ingqalelo yendlela yokuziphatha komfana kunye namanye amantombazana. Kodwa musa ukumxelela ukuba lo mntu unetyala. Kulungile, kwimeko xa unenkampani, phawula ukuba intombazana ethile inomdla kumntu wayo osemncinci, kwaye ke unikezele ukuxubusha indlela ephathelele ngayo le nto. Futhi ungagxininisi ukuba uya kudlala. Kunoko, thetha ukuba akayi kusabela, kodwa ngenxa yomdla wokubonelela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ukuba umntu unomdla, uya kuba mncinci kwaye uyanyamekela. Ukongezelela, abafazi banzima ukufihla intloko yabo. Kungekudala okanye umhlobo wakho uya kufumanisa into ethile kwaye akucele icebiso. Kule meko, musa ukukhawuleza ukubiza umnxeba. Kodwa, akukho mzekelo, awudingi ukumqinisekisa kwaye uthi yonke into iya kulungile. Zama ukwenza intombi yakho icinge ingqiqo. Thetha naye malunga nokuba uye waphawula nayiphi na enye into enokuthetha ngayo ngokukopela ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Kananjalo umxelele ukuba umntu othile uthi enye le ndoda inomoya. Into ephambili ayikuze ivakalise iingcamango ezimbi ezivela kuwe kwaye ungamthinteli nantoni na. Unokucebisa nokuqinisekisa, kodwa ungaze uzame ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho. Xa sithanda, siyabakhusela ngisho nabangendawo. Ngoko ke, ukuba unenzondelelo ekukholiseni, ngoko ngokuza kuthi ufumane ukukhawuleza kunye nentukuthelo. Oku kusebenza kuzo zonke iimeko, kungekhona nje kuphela xa le ndoda iguquka.
Ngokomzekelo, kwimeko xa umfana esetyenziswe ngokukhawuleza intombi yakho, naye ungamxeleli ngokuthe rhoqo. Kungcono ukuhlawula ingqalelo ngakumbi ubudlelwane kwezinye iimbini. Mxelele ukuba le ntombazana ihlala ihlawula intombi yakhe, imenza izipho, izama ukumnceda. Inqaku lokuba le nto ibonisa uthando kunye nenkxaso, kunye nolunye ulwalamano aluqhelekanga. Kodwa ngelo xesha, umntu unokuphela ngokuzenzekelayo, ngokungaqhelekanga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha anqamle ulwalamano nentsha yakhe. Ukuba ugoba intonga - intombi iya kukhubeka kwaye izenze izigqibo ezingalunganga ngokupheleleyo. Kanti, nangona kunjalo, musa ukumnika isizathu sokucinga ukuba uyamthanda intombi yakhe. Khumbula ukuba ingqondo, ehluthwe ngothando, ayiyazi indlela yokucinga ngokucokisekileyo kunye nento oyenzela ngayo ngokufanelekileyo ingabonwa kakubi kakhulu.
Icandelo elona lukhuni kunzima kakhulu xa umntu ehlasela intombi yakho. Kule meko, amantombazana aphantse alwamkele oku, ngandlela-thile aphike izinto ezenzekayo kwaye ukhusele abo bathandekayo. Emva koko uya kuzikhethela ukuba ulungele kangakanani ukuhamba. Mhlawumbi kuya kwenzeka ukuba ukulondoloza umhlobo kuya kukhokelela ekupheleni kobuhlobo. Ngoko ke, sigqibo sokuba ulungele ukuthambisa unxibelelwano lwakho, nangona ungaqinisekanga ukuba unempembelelo eyi-100%. Kule meko, kufuneka usebenze ngakumbi ngokucacileyo kwaye uqinisekise ngokuqinisekileyo umhlobo wakho ukuba akuqhelekanga kwaye awukwazi ukuhlala ngaloo ndlela, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, ude uzinikele intsapho yakhe kunye nabahlobo kwiimeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuthatha njengento yokungcatsha, kodwa kamva, xa eqonda yonke into, kwaye uyaqonda into oyenzele yona kunye nezinto ozenzayo, uya kuxolelana kwaye intombazana iya kuba nombulelo kuwe ngenxa yombingelelo onjalo. Kule meko, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu akusiyo isimo sakhe sengqondo kuwe, kungekhona ubuhlobo bakho, kodwa ukhuseleko kunye nempilo yintombi yakho.