Kodwa nantoni na indlela intsha okanye ingayintombazana iphazamiseke ngayo umbuzo othi: "Uhlobo luni lomyeni olungeleyo?" - akunjalo nje ... Kusuka kumntu okhethayo ukuba ube ngumlingane wobomi, intsapho yakho kunye nolonwabo lwakho luxhomekeke. Kwaye nangona kukho iminyaka yobuchwepheshe obuphezulu kunye nokulingana ngokwesini kwinqanaba, akukho mntu uyamangalisa xa ibhinqa liqhuba inkampani enkulu kwaye ikhula ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa, njengeminyaka eyikhulu edlulileyo, kuwo onke amabhinqa eyona nto ibalulekileyo inoyolo yintsapho: indoda, abantwana ... kakuhle, mhlawumbi inja.
Ngesihloko sokukhetha indoda efanelekileyo indoda, ibhala inani elikhulu leencwadi, amaphephancwadi, zonke iifom zowesifazane zizele iingcamango kunye nezimvo kule ngxaki evuthayo. Kodwa, makhe siphendule lo mbuzo ngakumbi, okanye, makhe sizame ukuphendula umbuzo oyintloko: uluhlobo luni lomyeni ofanelekileyo?
1. Njengoko bethetha: "sidibana neengubo, siyazibona engqondweni". Kwaye, ngokwemvelo, xa ukhetha indoda ephuphayo , uyayiqwalasela ukubonakala komviwa. Umyeni ngumntu oza kuhlala naye iminyaka emininzi. Ndicinga ukuba eli xesha liya kuba mnandi ngakumbi xa ukhethiweyo wakho ubuncinci kuncinci kuneyona nto.
2. Ngokomntu, mna, indoda iyakhangalisa ingqondo yakhe. Kwaye, ndifuna ukuqaphela ukuba andisodwa. Ngomntu onobuqili uhlala ehle kwaye unomdla wokuchitha ixesha. Indoda ehlakaniphile isoloko iyayazi into ekufuneka yenziwe kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Ukuba ndaphendule umbuzo, "Uhlobo luni lomyeni olungeleyo?", Impendulo yam iya kuba yinto ethi: "Cungile!".
3. Indoda efanelekileyo yindoda ehlala eyazi into ayifunayo. Uceba kwaye ufezekise iinjongo zakhe. Kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kwizicwangciso zakhe ngekamva kukho indawo enokuhlala kuyo-intanda kunye nomfazi kuphela.
4. Ukuze umyeni ahlale efanelekileyo kuwe, kufuneka ukuba uhlale unesidumbu esibi okanye imfihlelo kuyo, ngamanye amagama. Emva kwakho konke, indlela enhle ngayo, xa umyeni othandekayo engapheli ukumangalisa ngexesha lobomi bomtshato.
5. Ukuqhubeka nokuphendula umbuzo othi: "Uyintoni indoda efanelekileyo?", Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akuyona into ebalulekileyo! Ngenxa yakho, indoda ikulungele ukutshintsha. Ngokwemvelo, kube ngcono. Kwiintombazana nganye kuyinto ekhethekileyo ukuzama ukutshintshisa wakhe okhethiweyo, kodwa, amadoda anganikeli ukuqeqeshwa - kuboniswa ngabaososayensi. Kwaye, kuphela ukuba uyakuthanda ngayo yonke intliziyo yakhe nomphefumlo wakhe, yena ngokwakhe uya kufuna ukutshintsha aze enze izenzo ezingenangqondo.
6. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni enhle kwaye ilungile indoda yakho ukuba ayikufanelanga ngesondo, ngoko ayiyi kubakho uvuyo olupheleleyo. Indoda efanelekileyo ngumntu wenyama owaziyo oko umfazi wakhe akufunayo kwaye uyakuvuyela into yokukholisa.
Enyanisweni, ukuxubusha ngesihloko esithi: "Yintoni umyeni ofanelekileyo" inokuhlala ixesha elide. Emva koko, ngamnye wethu unemibono yethu malunga neyona ndlela, ngamnye wethu unezicelo zethu. Kwaye, ndicinga, asimele sikhohlwe ukuba abantu abagqibeleleyo abakhona.
Unokutshitshiswa, kodwa ngala mazwi inyaniso kunye nendlela yokonwaba iyafihlakeleyo: "Thandanani, khusela, zama ukuqonda kwaye wamukele umphefumlo wakho umlingane njengoko kunjalo. Kwaye, ke, indoda yakho iya kuba yona nto ibalulekileyo. Kwaye kwintloko yakho enhle akuyi kuphinda iphakame umbuzo: "Luhlobo luni lomyeni ococekileyo?". Khangela emva, uhleli eceleni kwakho embhedeni, ubamba isandla sakho - lo ngumyeni wakho!