Abathandi abancinci nabanomdla bakuthola kunzima ukwamukelwa ukuba abazali bayaphikisana nomanyano wabo. Kodwa eli bali ibali kunye neendwangu zibetha zobumba ezidlalwa kwiintsapho ezininzi, ngokukhawuleza ukuba intombi izisa "uthando lobomi bakhe" endlwini.
Ukuphendula komama kuyahluke, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi kusengalunganga. Unobulumko kunye nobulumko uyathula, uzama ukunqoba iimvakalelo kwaye unganikeli iimvakalelo zangempela. Abanye, abazali abangaphezu kwemvakalelo, balungele ukwenza yonke into ukuze bahlule abantu abatsha kwaye bakhethe ngokukhethekileyo umonde wokuthanda umntwana wabo othandekayo.Okumangalisa kukuba, banamandla ngakumbi, bebanesisa ngakumbi emehlweni abo, bejongene nomnye, unamandla ngakumbi umama-mkhwenkwe onamandla. Kulo khosi kwaye kungenakucaceka kwintsholongwane yesikhungu, kunye neengxoxo nentliziyo entliziyweni, apho kubonakala khona ukutshatyalaliswa ngengozi kwintsilelo yomntu onobuhlungu. Kukho ukukhanyela ngokukhawuleza ngesiphumo esiyingozi.
Kubonakala ngathi amacebo amancinane angabonakali. Uhlukaniswe ngamandla, utywekwe ngodaka, abathandi bayokwelula kuphela. Izithintelo ezongezelelweyo ziza kuphosa iinkuni ezitshisayo emlilweni wothando lwabo olutsha. Emva kwakho konke, kwanokuba ngabahlakaniphileyo abaphumelele ekufundeni bodwa, bakhule. Kwaye akukho mama ozithandayo onokumisa oku.
Iinjongo zikaMama
Njengoko uyazi, oomama abangabodwa bayabambelela ngakumbi kubantwana babo, nangona sele sele beneminyaka engama-30 ubudala kwaye lixesha eliphakamileyo lokuqalisa intsapho yabo. Isizathu apha apha sincinane, umfazi osekhulile sele esitya ukwesaba:- ukwesaba ukungabi nesizungu,
- ukwesaba ukuguga,
- ukoyika ukufa,
- ukwesaba ubomi bakho kunye nenhlalakahle.
Ewe, kunzima ukuphulaphula izimvo ezinetyhefu malunga nesiqingatha sakho sesibini kwaye uhlale ungenamdla. Kwaye ngokwenene uyaqonda ukuba akukho konke kuyo, into nje eyenzekayo kumama, onobumnandi nomusa, ngokukhawuleza waba ngumsindo. Kwaye kukho ukuphosa komntwana, njengokungathi umama akayiyo yonina umama, njengokungathi uye wayeka ukuthanda kwaye ufuna ukuba ungendawo.
Oku akunjalo, uMama usenjalo kwaye akayithandi ncinane, uyesaba nje. Ihlabathi lakho elincinci litshintshile, kwaye uyitshintshile, ngaloo ndlela unqanda umzali onomdla kakhulu kwiqhinga aye wajwayele ukususela ekuzalweni kwakho. Ukuqaphela oku, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uphile ngexesha lokuxhatshazwa.
Izindlela zokulwa:
Ikhetho lokuqala liyakunyanzeliswa. Ukuba intombi iqhubeka iziphatha kunye nonina njengothando nangenyameko njengaphambili, ayifumelani nokuhlaselwa kwayo, kwaye iyaqhubeka idibana nentanda yakhe, ngokukhawuleza intliziyo yomzali iyancipha. Nangona kunjalo, ekusebenziseni le ndlela ayisoloko isebenza.
Inketho yesibini kukusebenza, kwaye kude. Usukhulile, kwaye lixesha lobomi bakho, intsapho yakho kunye nokhetho lwakho. Kukunzima ukuyenza ngaphakathi kweendonga zekhaya. Ibanga elifanelekileyo liza kukunika umvuzo wena nomama wakho. Uya kuba nexesha lokucinga nokuwamkela. Ekugqibeleni, akafuni ukulahlekelwa yintombi yakhe.
Ukuhlala ekhaya, ukuvumela ukukholisa, ukunyamezela umntu osondeleyo, awuyikutshintsha nje ukungaziphathi kwakho, uphelise ubomi bakho. Ungathandabuzeki: ikhonkethi, eyaphumelela ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakho, iya kuba yinani lesithsaba. Ukongeza, umama uya kuba nexesha elongezelelweyo lokufumana amaphuzu angaphezulu.
Cinga ukuba yonke imihla, indlela kunye nomusa kukukhumbuza ukuba ufanelekele ngakumbi. Kancinci kancinci, kwaye wena ngokwakho uza kuqala ukukhangela ngendoda yakho. Olu hlobo ligunya elingenamkhawulo lizwi lomama, ukuba kungengenxa yethu ininzi, ngoko ke kuninzi.
Kukho udidi lwesithathu lokuphuhliswa kweemeko-ukuphosa umthandi ngethemba lokuba emva kwexesha, ukuba uphendule abaninzi abafakizicelo, umama uya kuza kwiintliziyo zakhe aze agubuzele ngokuzisola ngomntu wokuqala kunye nomntu kuphela oye waxoshwa ebomini bakho ngezandla zakhe. Kwaye kuya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kuwe.
Ngenxa yokuba "ukubuyisela njani umthandi" -esihloko kwinqaku ehlukile.