Kodwa ebomini, kungekhona onke amabali alandela lo mgca oqhelekileyo wencwadana yabesifazane. Ininzi kuxhomekeke kubalinganiswa bobabini - intombazana enothando nothando kunye nomntu okhohlisayo. Kwaye nangaphezulu - ukusuka kwizinto ezingabonakaliyo kule mifanekiso. Ngamanye amaxesha asicingi ngabo kwaye asiqapheli impembelelo yabo, kodwa oku, njengemithetho ye-physics, ayinakucima izenzo zabo.
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Ngubani ofuna ukuthakazelisa ngokwayo, kodwa ngenxa yezibonelelo ezithile? Kakade, akukho mntu! Ngoko ke, yintoni umphumo wobudlelwane obuqala ngokukhohlisa kule siseko kuyaqondakala. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umkhohlisi (okanye umkhohlisi) ubonakalise izicwangciso ezikhohlakeleyo zokufumana umsebenzi omtsha, isikhundla esiphezulu, okanye baya kucelwa ukuba babuyisele kwakhona igumbi egameni labo, iqabane liyakucinga ngokuqinisekileyo. Sonke asifuni ukusetyenziswa kwaye siphula ulwalamano, sibophelele kumdla wokuzimela ngokukhawuleza.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akukho namnye ongabandakanyi ubambiswano obuzuzisayo. Kule meko akukho kuphela ukunikela nokufumana amaqela. Wonke umntu uncedo ngokubambisana okanye ukutshintshiselana. Ngaphandle komtshato olungeleyo, akukho mnye kuphela (okanye ngamanye amaxesha) ozuza kwizezimali, kodwa kunye nesibini iqabane elibonayo kule nxulumano inzuzo kunye nolonwabo, ukunakekelwa okanye enye into.
Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokwakha iinqaba ezincantwini ("Ndiza kutshata nomninimali!"), Kukufanelekile ukucinga ngokucophelela malunga noko unako ukumnika. Emva kwakho konke, sonke siyakhumbula apho ubuhlobo obuqala ngokukhohlisa bukhokelela, kwaye thina ngokwethu sizama ukuphepha ukuhlaselwa.
Ukukhohlisa kwimilinganiselo yokuziphatha
Apha ungabandakanya amanga amancinci malunga nokuba wayeyithandekayo kwaye uyithandeka, ngubani na othetha naye, kwaye ngakumbi. Xa ulwalamano luqala nje, iqabane ngalinye lizama ukubonakala libhetele kunalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, "i-Twitter" malunga nendlela esiyathanda ukupheka okanye ukuyihlahlela phantsi, ukuba asisilungele "ulonwabo olunzulu lokuba ngumama," luncedo. Le ndoda, ekhululekile kwaye ikhulile kule ngxelo, inokutsala ngomtshato!
Kodwa awukwazi ukuxoka ngaphandle kwemiphumo xa unesiqiniseko sokuba "ukukhaba" encinci, kwaye iqabane liza kuphinda liqwalasele iimbono zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, cinga ngomtshato, bantwana, thabatha yakho (eyahlukileyo kwienkolelo zakhe) ukholo okanye ubukho bomama ogulayo kumxholo. Yaye ukuba uthetha ngelokuba indoda elele ngothando ngaphandle kokujonga emva iya kunceda ngomsebenzi, ukufundisisa, ukugcinwa kweentsapho ezindala okanye ukukhulisa abantwana kumtshato wokuqala - hlala. Kungcono ukumcingela yonke into njengokuba kunjalo nokuba yimbi kakhulu. "Ukuqhayisa", unokukwazi "ukugqiba umdlalo" ngokulula, uchukumisa imicu engathandekiyo yomphefumlo okanye uphinde uphinde uphendule imeko engathandekiyo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho elikhethiweyo sele selitshatile, liyazi ngokucacileyo oko abantwana abakuyo kwaye bangakanani umzamo abawufunayo, kulula ukuba "bavume" ngokukhawuleza kunokufihla nokufihla inyaniso. Emva koko, ubudlelwane obuqalise ngobuqhetseba, sele bevela ekuqaleni, bunobuncwane ", kwaye okokufihlakeleyo okanye izithembiso zento ongenakukunika ngayo ngokukhawuleza.
Ukhohlisa nini na?
Ukuqala ngesimo sengqondo esikhohlisayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, sibi. Kodwa kukho iinkalo ezininzi zobomi apho kungabi yingozi kuphela, kodwa kunokuba luncedo ukukhohlisa iqabane elizayo, umntu odibana naye okanye othetha naye.
Okokuqala, isondo. Kwaye abantu banokuzonda kakhulu xa bexelwa kalula (kwaye ngakumbi nakakhulu - ngokubanzi) malunga nabayeni abadlulileyo, abathandi, ukuxhamla. Isikhundla salo mfazi kuleso sizathu siyacaca: nokuba ude ngaphezu kwemashumi amathathu, kwakukho amadoda ambalwa kuphela. Iminwe yesandla esinye sinelisekile, kunye nomgama ukubala! Kwaye, ewe, ulwalamano lwalo lude kwaye lunzulu, kodwa ... kwaye ke kungcono ukuyeka nokububula, ngoko akufanele uxelele iinkcukacha.
Ngokulandelayo - ukunyamekela. Akukho mntu unengqondo yakhe elungileyo "pozaritsya" ngumfazi onqabileyo. Ngako oko, nangona u tyelela u-psychotherapist okanye ulawule ngokucokisekileyo ngesondo, kulula ukudlala "kangcono, kodwa bhetele", kunye nesithembiso esibalulekileyo (amacebiso) kwinto ethile yeengqondo kunye neengqondo.
Kwaye, ke, umamazala kamva. Ngokutsho kwakhe, amadoda esizayo kunye nabaviwa kwiinkwenkwezi bavavanya amathuba ethu. Kodwa ukuba ujika ube ngumpheki okanye uhlambulukile, umzekelo okanye ibhola ye-ballerina inokwenzeka, ngoko awuyi kukwazi ukutshintsha unyoko. Ngako oko, "mondle" ulwazi olunyoko umama wakho oluhle, oluyinkathalo kuphela kunokuba ungathanda. Kwimeko apho, awuyi kuxoka, kwaye awuyi kuthusa umneneli.
Yintoni engcono ukuyithetha kusengaphambili, kunokuba uphume kwiimeko ezimbi?
- malunga nezingane,
- indoda engaphambili,
- izifo ezigulayo okanye ezihlwempu,
- izifo ezinzima,
- unqulo,
- Izicwangciso zobomi (ngubani kuni amadoda - intsingiselo yobomi, ama-comrades-in-arms okanye ezithandwayo zesikhashana).
Yintoni ongayithetha ngokubhekiselele kwintlungu okanye engaphantsi, kodwa ngengqondo?
Inyaniso yokuba
- usanda kuqhekeza, kodwa 'akakunqunqanga amanxeba'
- udinga uncedo, kwaye kubudlelwane obulindele ukuba iingxaki zixazululwe,
- udibana namadoda amaninzi ngokufanayo kwaye ungakagqiba isigqibo kwikhethiweyo,
- ukuya kwintlanganiso yebhizinisi kunye nendoda (kule ntsimi, amaninzi amakhwenkwe ayenabo, amaxesha angenakunqwenelekayo)
- usandul 'isifo esivela kwangoko, kodwa sele sele ufumene,
- unengxaki zezempilo zesikhashana,
- akukho ndawo yokuhlala kuyo, kwaye uceba ukuhambisa kuyo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni
Ukuba ukhohlisa umntu, khumbula nje oko kukukhokelela ekuthandeni kwaqala ngokukhohlisa, kodwa nokuba nawe, unokuthi ube yintlanzi. U-Alfonso kunye nezicwangciso zokuzixazulula ezinye zeengxaki kwi-akhawunti yomnye umntu ayenzeki, ngoko gcina iindlebe zakho zivule!