Mhlawumbi ukhumbule ukuba kwinqanaba leecawa elithi "Ubundlobongela kunye nesiXeko" omnye wabalinganiswa abakhulu, uCharlotte, wayefuna kumthandi wakhe konke ayekufunayo, ukuba wayevakala eso sicelo, wathinta ngesandla isandla sakhe ngaphezu kwendonga. Ukwamukelwa kwakunempumelelo kangangokuthi nangomnikelo wakhe wokutshata, waphendula wathi "Uvuyayo!", Nangona akazange azimisele ukuya kwisikratshi.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwifilimu le meko iyancitshiswa, kodwa ke ukwamkelwa ngombono akuveli kwindawo yembono. Le ngenye yeentlobo, ezibizwa ngokuba yi-anchors-izakhi ze-NLP. Kwaye iingqondo zentsapho zikholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba indlela yezikhonkwane ziza kuvumela izibini zizisombulule iingxaki ezininzi kulwalamano. Makhe sibone oko kukuthi, indlela abasebenza ngayo kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, siya kuzama ngoncedo lwabo ukwenza ubudlelwane bobubele bube bhetele.
Yintoni ihange?
Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, i-anchor yinto evuselela imeko eyenziwa ngumzimba okanye ngokomzwelo, kwaye ngoko ke ukuziphatha okuthile. Kwaye le nto ingaba yinto: umfanekiso, isandi, isandi, ukunambitha okanye ukuphosa. Cinga ukuba usebenzisa i-Chanel inombolo yesi-5 kuphela ngeeholide, kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla, ukhetha iifumba ezilula. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga wawufuna ukusebenzisa iChanel ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ngenxa yokucoceka, wabuya uvakalelwa yinto encinci, iimoya yaphucula. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndafumana lonke uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezibonakala ngathi ngathi silindele ieholide. Yaye qaphela, ngendlela efanayo le ntengiso iya kuchaphazela nomyeni wakho naye, ngenxa yokuba iphunga likaKhanel no-5 lidibene nexesha lokuzonwabisa elihle.
Kodwa ukuthetha ngeengqungquthela zengqondo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba abagcini nje kuphela, njengento yangaphambili, kodwa nangona kunjalo. Ngokomzekelo, indoda, emi ngasemva kwayo, iyithululela indebe yeeyi. Kwaye ufuna ukumbamba. Uhamba, uyifungqa ngezandla zakho, kwaye umyeni wakhe uphenduka ngokukhawuleza. Kutheni, kuba yonke into ilungile nawe? Khumbula, kodwa iintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo kwakwenzeka imeko efanayo: umyeni weza evela emsebenzini kunye nento ephazamisayo, ufuna ukumthuthuzela uze ummbambe ngasemva. Emva koko wagqiba ekubeni unako ukususa loo mqathango, kwaye umyeni wakho unamathele ngokumkeleka kwakho kwiimvakalelo eziphazamisekile eziye zavezwa ngaloo mzuzu. Yaye xa wena, ngaphandle kokuqonda, wabuyisela le nsimbi, umyeni waphinde wavutha. Ungakuphepha njani imeko ezayo? Xa umntu omthandayo ekhulile, zama ukumshiya yedwa ubuncinane kwisiqingatha seyure. Kwaye ukuba akunakwenzeka, musa ukukuchaphazela.
Kwaye isandi nokuvumba
Iingcali ze-NLP zithi ubomi bethu buzaliswe ngama-anchors emotion. Kwaye kunjalo! Njengomthetho, inkqubo "yokumisa" iyenzeka ngokungabikho ebomini bethu. Masithi uyazi ukuba umntu othandayo uya kuhlala exhasayo kwaye enqabile, ngoko akumangalisi ukuba kwiimeko ezinkulu zamandla ufuna kuqala ukuba usondele kuye! Oku akusoloko kunokwenzeka, ngoko uqala ukucinga indlela umyeni wakho anokukukhuthaza ngayo, nantoni na amazwi othethayo, kwaye uhlalise. Kwaye kunakho amanqaku amaninzi: umculo ovela kuAida, iifoto zendodana okanye intombi encinci, iphunga lokubhaka kwamama, ifilimu ethi "Spring on Zarechnaya Street", njalo njalo.
Ukuba le nto isebenza ngokufanelekileyo, kutheni ungazami ukulawula inkqubo yokwakha ikhonkco kwaye uyisebenzise ukuzisa ubudlelwane kumgangatho ofanelekileyo.
Okokuqala, makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi iihange eziza kukunceda ubize intanda yakho ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zesithandane: Ezibonakalayo. Umzekelo, ukubeka ingubo egqibeleleyo, buza ukuba kuya kuwe (ngokuqhelekileyo, yenza oko ukuze akhumbule). Yaye xa ephendula ukuba ewe, ndiyathanda, naye, ndimncoma ngokubonakala kwakhe. Kwaye naliphi na ukugqoka kule "zixhobo ezifihlakeleyo", udumise intanda yakho, udibanise, uwanga. Uyakubona, ekugqokeni kwixesha elizayo kule ngubo, unokumvuselela.
Hlela umhlobo wakho ngokukhanyisa ikhandlela uze uvule uhlobo oluthile lomculo wothando. Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba lo mculo okanye ingoma ibe "yakho". Emva koko, ekuva oko, umthandayo uya kucinga ngawe, khumbula ukuba udibene njani. Ukuthinteka kwakho "okhethekileyo" okanye ukubanga ngexesha xa wena kunye nabathandekayo bakho bekunceda kakhulu ukuba usondele ngakumbi kuye.
Ngaphambi kokuba uthande uthando, uhlambuluke ngokukhawuleza kunye nefriji efanayo okanye amanzi angasese. Emva kwexesha elithile, isiqhumiso salo siyakumisela indoda ukuba idibanise ngokudlala.
Kwaye makhe sizame ukumisa intandane ngokuncedisa i-anchor - kinesthetic. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ndinqwenele ukukuxwayisa: musa ukucinga ukuba ngokwenza ezi zihlandlo eziliqela, ulapha, uya kubona iziphumo. Emva kwakho konke, iqabane lakho aliyiyo inja kaPavlov. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwimizuzu emininzi oyenzayo, ubuninzi bendoda engqondweni kwaye ingaba le nyathelo iya kumbamba.
Ngoko, linda umzuzwana xa intanda yakho inomdla. Ngethuba, thintela ngokukhawuleza kwiindawo eziliqela ngokucacileyo. Kwaye ukuba kubonakala kuwe ukuba indoda ayinakuyinyamekela ngokwaneleyo, phinda "umnxeba" wakho. Namela iingongoma ezimbini. Okokuqala, i-anchor iya kusebenza ngakumbi xa "ubeka" ingabonwa. Okwesibini, i-anchor enjalo ikulungele ukubeka "indawo efikelelekayo": ingalo, ingxangxuma, umva.
Ngokutsho kweengcali ze-NLP, amadoda angaphantsi kwee-anchors ezibonakalayo nezibonisini. Ngoko ke, hlawula ingqalelo imbonakalo yakho kwaye udla ngokuthintela umthandayo.
Musa ukuyidlula! Izikhonkwane zengqondo zinokuba luncedo kakhulu kumano onothando. Into ephela, akufanele ubenzise njengendlela yokuxhaphaza. Kuba, okokuqala, kungekudala kamva umyeni uya kuguqula indlela owenza ngayo, kwaye ke, qiniseka, uya kubulela andiyi kuthetha. Kwaye okwesibini, izazi zeengqondo zithi ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kweendlela ze-NLP kuphulaphula imbono yethu yomzwelo. Vumelana, ukuba uchitha yonke imvakalelo yomntu othandekayo, njengokungathi kwi-shelf, ubomi buba buhlungu kakhulu.