Iyintoni ingxaki yobuhlobo banamhlanje? Ubuhlobo asisabalulekanga kubantu. Abaninzi bakhetha ukunciphisa ubudlelwane obudlulayo obunamandla obunamandla ukuya kwesikweni: amagumbi okuxoxa, iiforam, intanethi. Kwaye kukho: ukuvakalisa iifoto kunye neirekhodi, i-smileys, i-winks enobubele kunye nexesha eliphumayo kwiinkcukacha ezithandayo. Ubuhlobo bokwenene, ngenhlanhla, alukwazi ukufikelela kwiifom ezikufutshane.
Iyintoni isizathu sale nto? Ewe, kukho umsebenzi oqhelekileyo kunye nesigqithiso esinomdla wobomi. Kodwa kunye nokutshintshwa kokubaluleka kweziganeko kunye neziganeko ezivela ebomini boqobo ukuya kuqobo. Yonke into enomdla ngoku ngoku kuthiwa yenzeke kwinethiwekhi, kwiindawo zeendaba, kwi-LJ nakwezinye iifom zentlalo-boltologic. Ubomi bentetho ye-intanethi buguqula ukuziphatha ngokubanzi komntu, kwaye ngoku sele eboshwe ngewebhu labangani kwiingcingo ezingama-229. Apha ke, kukho enye intlukwano ebalulekileyo phakathi kobuhlobo bokwenene kunye nobungqina: ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuhlobo obunjalo budla ixesha lomsebenzisi njengensimbi enqabileyo. Ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ngamagqabaza kunye nezinye izenzo ezisemthethweni, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buphazamisa "umqeshi" wakhe, "ukumncoma" kwisihlalo kunye nokubeka iliso. Oku kunxibelelwano olungenanto, akukho nto inika umntu. Enye into ubuhlobo bokwenene. Ininzi kwaye ihlukeneyo, idinga kwaye sincede kwaye sabelo sabelo sabelo, ukunyaniseka nokuzinikela. Awukwazi ukucima umngani wakho kude kube ngomso, awuyi ku "gxotha" ngokulula, kungekho sizathu.
Umgaqo wobuhlobo.
Okanye, ngesiRashiya, indlela yokufumana abahlobo (kwimeko yethu ehlabathini lenene). Abahlobo ngobomi bokwenene bayimfuneko. Aba bangabancedisi bethu kuphela, abaduduzi kunye namaqabane. Ubuhlobo businceda sikwazi ukuzithetha, kusinika ithuba lokunyaniseka ngokwenene, ukuqonda ubungakanani buntu. Ukuvakalelwa kobomoya, ukunyamekela ummelwane, uvelwano olungathandekiyo kumntu obonakalisa umntu. Akumangalisi ukuba ubuhlobo buxabiseke ngamaxesha onke naphakathi kwabantu bonke.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ufune abahlobo, ziphendule ngombuzo owodwa: Ngaba ufuna ngokwenene? Gqiba yonke into efanelekileyo kunye neengxaki, kuba akuyi kubakho indlela yokubuya.
Inyathelo elilodwa.
Yeka ukuzifakazela ukuba umsebenzi nomzabalazo wokusinda zidla lonke ixesha lakho namandla. Oku akunjalo kwiimeko ezininzi. Uya kuqonda ukukhohlisa xa uzijonga nje ngemini. Uchitha ixesha elingakanani kwi-Intanethi? Yonke imihla ngaphezulu nangaphezulu, akunjalo?
Inyathelo ezimbini.
Khawucinge ngomfanekiso womhlobo uze uyilinganise nawe-ngaba wena ngokwakho ube ngumhlobo olungileyo kunye nomhlobo othembekileyo? Ukuba akunjalo, qalisa ukusebenza ngokwakho, lawula izenzo zakho nezenzo, jonga ukuphuhliswa. Oku akuthethi ukuba ude ufezekise kakuhle, akufanele uqale ubuhlobo. Kwenziwe ngokwenza iimfuno kwabanye, cinga ngendlela ongayenza ngayo le mfuneko. Ncedisa umntu ngokuzimela, yenza okulungileyo ngoko, gcina isandla somntu kumzuzwana onzima, yiba ngumphulaphuli othobelekileyo, unike umntu ithuba lakho lokukhulula. Isiphumo siya kuba.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekhona bonke abantu abaza kuba ngabahlobo bakho, umntu uya kuvulela uncedo lwakho, umntu unokuncedisa. Kodwa ngoku kwesihlunu esincinci sabantu abangaziwayo, ubuncinane ubuncwane bobubele, ohlwayelwe nguwe, kunokulibazisa. Khumbula, ngamanye amaxesha inkolelo enamandla yenziwa ngumntu onobubele, ongenabugovu. Loo mntu ubonakala ngokuqinileyo kwaye ekhangayo emehlweni abantu.
Isinyathelo esithathu.
Khangela. Akunjalo ngumntu ongaziwayo ongafihlayo ovela kwintlaka kwi-autumn yedwa ekwindla eya kuba ngumhlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha asiqapheli, sithintela, ukuba kuthi phakathi kwethu baninzi banesizungu, banqwenela abantu abanokuvuyela ukwabelana nomntu imizuzu yobomi babo. Omnye unokuba nje ngumhlobo oza kumthabatha ixesha lokuthetha ngentliziyo ngentliziyo okanye indebe yetiyi; Umhlobo omdala, ongathandabuzekiyo kwizinto ezingento; ummelwane kwivaranda, apho uya kunceda ukulungisa imoto okanye uhlale nomntwana. Kukho iindlela ezininzi kunye nobomi obudla ngokusiphosa ixesha elibalulekileyo, into ephambili ukuwasebenzisa.
Isinyathelo sesine.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba isiphumo sesivele sibonakala, musa ukugijimela echibini lobuhlobo nentloko yakho. Njengoko u-Omar Khayyam wathi: "Kungcono ukuba yedwa kunokuba ube ngumhlobo nabani na. "Ukuba umntu akayithandeki kuwe, ukuba unamahloni ngemilinganiselo yakhe yokuziphatha, ukuba" uyasula "iinyawo zakho kwaye uyisebenzise ngokunyanisekileyo, buyele kuye. Kwintlalo enomntu onjalo, uya kuhlala uziva ungakhululekile kwaye ungakhathazeki, okanye unokufumana ingxaki.
Isinyathelo esithandathu.
Ngakumbi ithemba! Nangona utyhafile, ungazami ukucinezela umhlobo wakho ngentlungu. Thatha ubomi kungekhona njengentlekele, fumana ixesha elifanelekileyo uze uhlale uhlala entloko yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha sifuna nje ilizwi elivuyayo, lithethwa kumzuzu onzima.
Isinyathelo Sithandathu.
Ukufumana kwihlabathi labahlobo bokwenene kuyisinye isiqingatha salo mba. Musa ukulibala malunga nabo, banike ixesha, baxabise. Khumbula ukuba abaxhasi nje kuphela ubunzima, kodwa banokunika ithuba lokwenza imisebenzi emihle kwaye ube ngcono.