Kwenzeka ukuba umhlobo osondeleyo unokukwazi ukuxelela iimfihlo ezininzi kunomfana okanye umama. Unako ukunika izihluthulelo kwindlu yakhe, unokucela ukuba ubukele iilwanyana ezifuywayo, uboleke imali efanelekileyo kwaye uze uze kumaphethelo esi sixeko ngehora lesithathu ekuseni. Ngamanye amaxesha sithandabuza ukuba ubuhlobo besifazane bukhona? Ungayiqonda njani injongo yakho umhlobo wakho kwaye ngaba ubuhlobo bakho buza kuzisa intlungu kunye nokukhungatheka kwixesha elizayo? Ungaziqonda njani iintshaba kumhlobo wakho?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka ikhunjulwe kukuba abahlobo abayaziwa nje ukuba bangena enkingeni, njengoko besithi kwelinye ilizwi elidumiweyo, kodwa kunye novuyo. Ukuba intombi isondele kuphela xa unenkinga, nangona iyancumo kwaye ixhala, ucinge - akunjalo oko akufunayo? Ngaba ingaba intombi ivuyayo xa uyaphula? Ukuba unomnqweno oqinileyo wokuxelela umhlobo malunga nokudumala, kodwa wena kwinqanaba le-intuition uvakalelwa kukuba akufanelekile ukuthetha ngeveli okanye kwithuba elitsha, kunokwenzeka ukuba intombi yakho ingumvampu onamandla.
"Abahlobo abayinyaniso" banokuchaphazela kakubi ukuzithemba, kuzo zonke iindlela ezinokuthintela ukukhula kobugcisa ("Ewe uyayifuna le ngesiNgesi!") Kwaye uhlale uqinisekisile ukuba awuyi kuwukhafulela. Injongo kuphela abayilandelayo kukuzifakazela ngeendleko zakho. Ngoko ungayiphulaphuli into abantu abakuthethayo kuwe.
Okwesibini - bukela indlela intombi yakho eziphatha ngayo phambi kwendoda, oko kuthetha ukuba kuninzi kuwe. Ingaba ngumyeni, okanye nje umfana wakho. Ukwazi ngohlobo luni lolwalamano oluphakathi kwakho, luya kuqala, alufihla ukudlala ngothando kunye nokukhuphaza. Ngaba uza kuza kutyelela kwengubo engcolileyo, kwaye nantoni na, ukuba udlala ngothando nomntu wakho, uthi ukuba ngenye indlela nje akwazi ukuziphatha. Uya kuzama ukwenza oko ungenziyo, umzekelo, ukugqoka ingubo, ukuba awukhenxanga ijee ixesha elide ukuzisa ii-pie endlwini, ukuba ukhohliwe indlela eya kwisitofu. Uya kuphulaphula ngenyameko kumthandi wakho. Nokuba uza kuziphatha njengentsimbi, nangona ungumfazi oyisibonelo. Ngomhlobo onjalo, awukwazi ukuphumla, ngakumbi ukuba umntu omncinci akalalanga ngesondo. Ungamshiyi kunye nomhlobo wakho yedwa ixesha elide kwaye unganikeli ekukhuseleni okukhusela umntu wakho, umzekelo - cela abanye ukuba basuse i-debris yokwakha emva kokulungiswa, kungekhona kuye.
Kule meko, awuyi kuqedela ngomyalezo. Ukuba uyanyamekela ukuba iyayeka ukubonakala ebomini bakho - awuyi kumema ukutyelela, uyeke ukubiza kuphela xa umntu osemtsha engekhoyo, ngoko ungasebenzisa olu hlobo lobuhlobo ekuphuculeni. Kwaye -kunjalo-kutheni ungaqalisi i-oven okanye utshintshe ikhabethe yakho?
Okwesithathu - ukuba ukhululekile kwaye ungagxinwa bubudlelwane, kodwa kwiinkampani zonke iingqwalasela zithandwa kwintombi yakho, nangona ihlala ifuna ukukubeka ekukhanyeni okubi, ingakuvumeli ukuba uphumule kwaye ube ngokwakho, ungaqiniseki ukuba awuyidingi loo nto buhlobo. Nangona ulungelelwano emva kokuhamba ngalunye, ebuza ukuba utyholwa ntoni. Ndixelele oko kukuchaphazela ngokuthe ngqo. Ukuba le meko iphinda iphinda iphinde ithethe naluphi na unxibelelwano kunye naye kwaye unakekele ubomi bakho ngokwakho. Ngomhlobo onjalo, awuyi kufika nantoni na. Ukuhlawula ingqalelo kwiimeko ezidlulileyo. Xa umhlobo wakho engakhuselekwanga yinkwenkwe yakho, oziphatha kakubi kwaye engenaye indoda. Umhlobo omhle uya kuhlala encedisa ingxaki, khumbula? Enyanisweni, kwakumnandi ukuba athathwe njengale.
Kwaye ke, unako ukubala intombi engathandeki emva kokuba uxoxe naye into ethile. Ukuba, emva kokuthetha kwakho, ulwazi luye lwafumaneka kwinqanaba elibanzi loluntu, olubandakanya abahlobo bakho nabaqhelana nabo, ngexesha elifanayo laba sisizathu sokuhlambalaza kunye nokuhleba, ngokukhawuleza uqhekeke bonke ubudlelwane obunezinye izizathu ezisekhona vassvyazyvayut.
Khumbula - izinto ezithandekayo kunye neemodeli zilungileyo kuphela kumaphepha eencwadi, ebomini kungcono ukuba ungabambisani nabo. Ukuba intombi yakho iyazi indlela yokwenza izinto kwaye yenza izilumko kubantu, musa ukucinga ukuba akayi kubonisa it talente yakhe nawe.