Abaninzi kuthi ngelizwi elithi "ukuphumla" baqonda kuphela ukungabikho komsebenzi. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ngexesha lokuphumla siyaphumula nomphefumlo wethu nomzimba.
Yintoni evimbela abanye?
Yintoni "ukuphumla okukhutheleyo"? Gym kunye nokuhamba. Ngethuba nje ufikelele kumgca wokugqibela, uza kufumana ukujuluka okukhulu. Mhlawumbi, kuya kuba luncedo kwimpilo, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba emva koko uya kuziva uphumle? Njengoko bethetha, ukuphumla okukhutheleyo, yinto engumtsalane.
Indawo yokuqala "yokuphumla" igcinwa yiikhomputha. Kwanele nje ukuya kwi-Skype okanye kwi-ICQ. Abanye abahlobo bam bahleli apho iintsuku, abayisebenzanga khona iintsuku. Baxhomekeke kwiiwebhsayithi, imidlalo yokuzonwabisa yenethiwekhi, intetho. Bavele balayishe ubuchopho babo ngolwazi. Kwaye, ngenxa yoko, iingqondo zabo aziphumli.
Abanye bathanda ithelevishini. Ngenye imini ndafika kumhlobo, wayenomtshini weTV wakhwela yonke imini, kwaye ngexesha elide wayatshintsha iziteshi, wayekhangela into enomdla apho. I-TV nayo ikwaziswa. Kwaye kukho amacebo amaninzi.
Iincwadi? Ewe, indlela enhle yokuphumla, uxoxe ngeencwadi ezandleni zakho, ufunda kwaye kwakhona ubuchopho bulayishiwe.
Masithi umenywe njengeendwendwe njengeeholide. Okanye bona bavakatye. Yaye ucinge ukuba usetyenziswe kangakanani amandla kumnxibelelwano? Umntu onqabile ufuna ukwenza njengomnikeli womzwelo, kunoko, yena ngokwakhe ufuna ukunyusa amandla. Ngoko lungela ukuba inxaxheba ekuphenduleni kwakho, intombi yakho iya kukhononda ngezinye zeengxaki zabo. Okanye uya kuqala ukukufundisa. Ngoko awukwazi ukuphumla kwaye uphumule.
Kwaye ukuba unomntu kunye nomntu, ngoko lonke ixesha kufuneka uhlale uqaphile kwaye ulawule onke amagama kunye nanyathelo ukuba ungathethi kwaye wenze into engalunganga.
Ubundlobongela buyinto yokuzonwabisa, kodwa akusikho ukuphumla. Nantoni na into ayithethayo, ininzi yethu emva kwesondo ivakalelwa njenge-lemon, nangona kunjalo. Ngoko ke, oku akunjalo.
Ngokufanayo, akukho khetho iya kuba yindawo yokuphumla kunye nokunyuka kwimeko ethile yokuzonwabisa, ukudansa, kwi-theater. Okanye, zithi, kwi-casino okanye kwi-bowling. Kufuneka udibanise lonke ixesha, zilawule, landela isenzo, hambisa. Unokufumana iimvakalelo ezintle kuzo zonke ezi zihlandlo, kodwa awuyi kuziva ukhululekile.
Abantu abaninzi bazama ukuphumla ngokuncedisa utywala. Kodwa oku kuyingcamango nje. Kungekudala yonke into iya kubuya kwindawo yayo, kwaye uya kufumana uninzi lweengxaki ezingaphendululwayo, kunye ne-hangover.
Iholide - ayinayo inketho. Xa ushiywe ngaphandle kwemisebenzi eqhelekileyo, uya kuziva ungakhululekile. Abanye ngethuba leeholide bamba imibhede kwilizwe okanye baqale ukulungiswa kwindlu. Ngaba unako ukuphumla emva koko?
Yaye ukuba ukhetha "imithi yesundu, ilanga nesanti"? Mhlawumbi uthenge ithikiti uze uye kwindawo ethile kwiindawo zokubhenela? Kuya kubonakala kukulungele ukuphumla! Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela iza kuba neeninzi ekujongeni. Ekuqaleni, kuya kubakho iindleko zendlela, ngoko kwindlela, ukujwayelana nommelwane, isixhobo kwindawo entsha. Uza kuhlala uhamba ngeentendo, ulungise into ethile, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kunqula elwandle njalonjalo. Mhlawumbi uya kuba nephupha okanye ukutya okubi. Ngoko ungalindelanga ukuphumla okulungileyo.
Yintoni enceda ukuphumula?
Zininzi izinto ezinjalo. Umzekelo, umculo. Khetha okuthandayo, vula, uhlale esihlalweni okanye ulala phantsi kwesofa. Ya phu laphula.
Ukucamngca kungenziwa nangomculo. Ngoku kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphumula. Kucebise ukuba ukhethe uhlobo olunjalo lokuba uvuselele umzimba kwaye unqamle ukuqonda. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqeqeshe kakhulu okanye ubhalise kwiikhosi, kodwa oku kulungile.
Isiphumo esihle siya kunikwa ukuhamba kwimvelo - epakini, kwintsimi, ehlathini. Yedwa yedwa, ngaphandle kwenja, ngaphandle kweqabane lomntu okanye intombi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwindawo ephephile, apho kukho indlela okanye indlela efanelekileyo, apho kungcolile. Apho akudingeki uloyike ukuba umntu uya kuhlasela okanye athabathe. Ewe, sonke siyabantu bonke. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu, ukuze uphumule, kufuneka uhambe kwikonti yerwala elinzima okanye kwi-disco. Ngaba uthatha inxaxheba ekuhlolweni, indlela onokuphila ngayo kwiimeko ezinzima.
Ngoku siyazi oko kunceda ngokwenene kwaye kuthintela ukuphumla kwethu. Into ephambili kukuba ekupheleni kweeholide uziva ukuba ufumene i-vivacity kwaye ukhululekile ngokwenene. Yaye uvakalelwa kukuba awuyi kudibanisa nayiphi na enye.