Ngokuqhelekileyo, le meko iyamkeleka kuphela njengomdlalo odlala indima, ngokuqhelekileyo kwimeko yesondo. Enyanisweni, kukho imeko xa ulwalamano lhinta liyindodakazi, indoda ikhoboka. Kule meko, abafana abanasiphelo okanye abanothando kakhulu. Bayekezela, njengoko befuna, bakhala ngeentambo kwaye baphoqelelwe ukwenza konke intombazana efuna nje. Abasetyhini abaphendulela amadoda abo ekubeni ngamakhoboka baphangiweyo abangenakunqwenela abahlaziyileyo abasebenzisa ukuba inyaniso yonke into isoloko ihamba ngendlela abayifunayo ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, la ma ntombazana kuphela abantwana abasapho. Ngaphantsi kwefuthe leyiphi na into, abazali babo bachithe ubomi babo bevothula uthuli lwazo uthuli kubo, bathi bahamba phambili, bazalise zonke i-whims kwaye bangeke banqabe nantoni na. Oku kubangela ukuba into yokuba amantombazana aphendukela kubafazi abathandabuzayo abanokwazi ukuba kukho uluvo lwabo kunye nokungalunganga. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho bahlobo bokwenene abakuzungezile. Bahlanganisana nabo abakhonzi abakubongayo baze benze yonke imiyalelo ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Ukuba umntu uzama ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuhlambalaza kwaye lo mntu unamathele ngaphandle kwenkampani okanye ucinge ngesiluleko sokuziphatha kuye. Abafazi abanjalo bahlala bekhula kwiintsapho ezizityebi, kodwa kukho iimeko xa abafazi abanjalo behlala nabazali abanomvuzo othobekileyo.
Kunzima ukutsho ukuba kutheni amadoda ethanda yaye ngoko ubambelele kumantombazana enjalo. Bonke bayaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba bahamba nomntu onobuhlungu, kodwa baqhubeka beqhuba i-whims. Kungenzeka ukuba yinto enhle, kuba loo nto intombazana ihlala ibonakala kakuhle. Ukongezelela, ngenxa yokuba bonke abantu abasondeleyo bayabasebenzela, banokukwazi ukunyamekela ulusu lwabo kunye neenwele zabo, beya kuma-spa salons, ukuqina, ukuphumla ngaphandle, ukubeka iimpahla kunye neziqhumiso. Ukuba loo ntokazi ibesebenza, uhlala echitha yonke imali kuphela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, aba bafazi abanabantwana, kwaye ukuba ngaba umntwana, akaphantse akhathaze unina. Oku kuye kufana nekati okanye inja ongayidlala, kwaye xa uvalelwa, vula nje ngamadolo. Kwizi ntsapho, abantwana bavuswa nguyise. Ngokomgaqo, ujongana nezinye iingxaki zasekhaya. La madoda angabendlu yoqobo. Balungiselela ukutya, bahlambe izitya, isinyithi, bahlambuluke, bahlambuluke, bancede abantwana abanezifundo baze bazise isidlo sakusasa, isidlo kunye nezidlo kubafazi babo. Yaye le nkosikazi ixhomekeke kuyo, ihambisa amaphephancwadi okanye ibukela iTV. Xa abantwana bekhula kwaye baqala ukufuna ukuzaliseka kwezinto zabo. Yaye, ukuba umntwana uvukela, iingxabano ezibuhlungu kunye neentlanzi ziqala endlwini. Ngelishwa, loo ntokazi ayinakukwazi ukutshintsha kwaye ukuba umntu ukhetha intombazana efanayo, ubhalisa kwixesha elizayo lekhoboka.
Ewe, imeko echazwe ngasentla yinto engebi kakhulu kwaye ayiqhelekanga. Ulwalamano olunjalo luphutha kwaye luzisa ubunzima kuwo onke amalungu entsapho, ngaphandle kwenkosikazi. Siyabonga ngabafazi abanjalo, abantwana bakhulisa kakhulu (ngakumbi abafana). Bayamkela imodeli yentsapho yabo yodwa ekhoyo kwaye, ngoko ke, bayalilahlela ngokupheleleyo uthando, ukuze bangabi yinto efanayo noyise. Ukongezelela, kunzima ukuba baqonde uthando lwabesetyhini kunye nokunyamekela. Bayiqaphele kakhulu ngale nto kwaye ixesha elide nje bangathembi. Kuthatha ixesha elide kakhulu ukunceda loo mfana ukuba akholelwe ukuba kukho imizwa eqhelekileyo kwihlabathi kwaye abafazi bonke abasebenzisa amadoda abo. Enyanisweni, kukho abo abangengomphefumlo othandekayo kwaye balungele ukumnceda kuzo zonke iimeko zobomi.
Kodwa, ukuba awuwuthabathi imeko yobomi, ngoko umnqweno wokuba yintombi inokuvela kwintombazana kuphela kwinjongo esekelwe kumsebenzi. Maxa wambi intombazana ifuna nje ukulawula. Khokela wakho umfana. Kwaye akunjalo rhoqo nge-BDSM, nangona kunjalo, kunjalo. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abafazi abangabhatali ngokukodwa ngokweenkwenkwe ngenxa yeemeko ezithile, kunomnqweno wokugcina umntu esondele. Kukho iingcamango zokuba kulungile kangakanani ukumbamba ngeentambo zebhetri ukuze akwazi ukuhamba naphi kwaye wayehlala kufuphi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akayi kumcaphukisa, wayehlala esondla izitya ezithandekayo nezithandayo, wazinqumla iinwele zakhe, wazinya iinwele zakhe, wamgcoba kakuhle. Ngaba, mhlawumbi, vumela ikhompyutha yakho ethandekayo. Enyanisweni, kusengaphambili, bekuya kubangela ezinye iisayithi apho angaqhagamshelana nehlabathi langaphandle kwaye acele uncedo ekuphunyukeni. Inceku yakhe ethandekayo, wayengeke akhathazeke, akazange abulawe aze angacasuli. Ngaba unokuzalisekisa nayiphi na i-whims, ukuba nje wayekufutshane, wayehleli kufuphi nebhetri kwaye akazange amshiye yedwa.
Ewe, loo ngcamango ifana nobuhlungu, kodwa, ngokusemthethweni, akukho nto engavumelekanga kuyo ukuba intombazana ayifuni ukucinga ngayo ngokukrakra nokwakha izicwangciso zokubanjwa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iimeko sele zivakala ngokwenene ukuphosakeka kwengqondo kwaye le ntombazana kufuneka iqhube loo nto ingcinga okanye ihambe ugqirha.
Ibhinqa liyintombi, indoda ikhoboka, le yenye yezinto ezizithandayo zentombi ezenza umdlalo wesondo. Ngamanye amaxesha inenekazi ifuna ukuba namandla, ukulawula nokulawula. Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho umnqweno wokwenza umntu aphuke, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwimida ephantsi. Yiyo le minqweno ebonakaliswayo xa ibhinqa linikeza umntu onguBDSM. Napha, kwakhona, iifutha, iibhetri kunye nezinye izinto ezinxulumene ne-BDSM ziyahamba. Kodwa ke konke oku, kukuzonwabisa. Enyanisweni, intombazana enothando ayisoze yenze intombi yakhe ibuhlungu. Kodwa ufanisa isijeziso ngokuzonwabisa. Mhlawumbi ngale ndlela sinika umgaqo wethu wesilisa, ngokuthe ngandlela-thile siyaziqinisekisa kwaye sihlwaye amadoda ethu athandwayo ngokuncinci ngenxa yeempazamo zabo kunye nokungalindelekanga kuthi.