Namhlanje, umtshato womtshato uqheleke kakhulu phakathi kwezibini ezitshatileyo. Ngoko bahlola ubuhlobo babo ngaphambi kokutshata ngokusemthethweni. Ngeli xesha bazama ukukhokela indlu efanayo kunye nokwabelana ngobomi. Abaxhasayo ngokuqhelekileyo umtshato womtshato ngabantu. Abasetyhini bafuna intsapho eqhelekileyo, eyenziwe ngokusemthethweni, bafuna ukuqiniseka ngekamva. Emva koko, xa ubudlelwane obubi bengazi ukuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwesibini esitshatileyo luya kukhula emva kokuzalwa komntwana, kunokwenzeka ukuba umfazi angakwazi ukuhlala yedwa nomntwana wakhe kwaye kungekho ncediso lwezinto eziphathekayo. Nangona umtshato obhalisiweyo ukwanele ukubonisa isatifiketi somtshato kunye nabo abanomvuzo omncinci okanye abangazange basebenze baya kuba nelungelo lokuncedisa ukubonelela ukuba ngaba kukho abantwana okanye izizathu zempilo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqwalasela umtshato womtshato ukuba uzele? Kuxhomekeke kwicala eliya kujonga. Ukuba ukusuka kwicala lomthetho, yebo, oko kuthathwa njengolu hlobo. Njengokuba isibini sidibene, akukho propati yentsapho iya kwabelwana. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ngoku kutshanje, eRussia kukho inkonzo enjalo njengesivumelwano seentsapho. Kwiinkontrakthi zentsapho, ungacacisa ukuba zeziphi iimbopheleleko eziza kubelwa kulo mbhangqwana kwimeko yokuzalwa komntwana, ukuba zonke iipropati ziya kuhanjiswa xa isibini sitshiyayo, kunye nezinto ozifunayo. Inkontileka yentsapho iyaqala ukusebenza emva kokuphawulwa ngumbhali wencwadi. Olu hlobo lwenkontileka lwafika kumazwe aseNtshona Yurophu, kodwa eRashiya ayininzi kakhulu, kodwa sinokuthi nokuba ngababambalwa abambini abasebenzisa le nkonzo xa babesemtshatweni womtshato.
Ukuba ukhangele le meko kwiqondo lokuziphatha? Amadoda amaninzi acinga ukuba akhululekile kwezobuhlobo, kodwa ingatshintsha into xa itshintsha? Ngaphandle kokuba ubuhlobo bentsebenziswano engavumelekanga buya kunciphisa intlungu! Akunjalo! Uhlala kwindawo ephilileyo, ulala embhedeni omnye, wenze imisebenzi yasendlwini kunye nokunye okwenzayo njengentsapho eqhelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, ukusuka kulo macala umtshato unokuqalwa njengento epheleleyo.
Izibalo zibonisa ukuba abaninzi abantu abasemtshatweni womtshato bayazicingela bengatshatanga, kwaye abaninzi abafazi ngokuchaseneyo, bacinga ukuba batshatile. Kukholelwa ukuba abantu bacinga kakhulu malunga nokuzala ngaphandle kwabasetyhini, kodwa oku akunjalo. Ngobudlelwane baseburhulumenteni, indoda nayo inesimo sokushiya inzala. Kodwa emtshatweni womtshato, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, abacingi nakubantwana.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi kwimibandela yomtshato, imibhangqwana ixabana ngaphezu komtshato osemthethweni. Isizathu salo ngumfazi. Ekubeni ufuna ukuzinza, ufuna isiluleko esihle sesandla nentliziyo, ufuna iingubo ezimhlophe ezimhlophe kunye nomtshato. Yaye ngenxa yobume bakhe, ubangcangcazela ingxabano, behlala bexubusha ngezihloko. Ngoko yonke into efanayo, umtshato womtshato uthathwa njengento ephantsi?
Ukuhlala emtshatweni womtshato, unokufunda ezinye iingenelo: akudingeki ukuba uchithe imali kwimitshato yomtshato, iindandatho, utywala, ukugqoka. Kwaye "abafazi" beembopheleleko bangaphantsi komnye ngaphandle komtshato osemthethweni.
Ewe, xa isibini esithile, ngenxa yesizathu esithile asinakukwazi ukwenza ubuhlobo babo kunye nokufuna ukuhlala encinane ngaphandle kokupenda, jonga ngokwakho kwintsapho, zihlolisise, uhlalutye ubomi bakho bobulili. Ewe, ukuba uhlala emtshatweni womtshato kwaye lo mnqweno awuhlali, awuyi kuzisa nto ngaphandle kokunganeliseki, ukuxabana nokucaciswa ngonaphakade kobudlelwane.
Cinga kakuhle, ngaba ufuna le nto, ngaba ufuna "ukuhlola" okunjalo. Emva kwakho konke, ugogo nomkhulu njengoko kwakunjalo ngaphandle kwayo kwaye baphila bonke ngokuvisisanayo kunye novuyo.