"Ayikwazi ukufana nale!" - enye yeempendulo zokuqala kwiindaba zokufa komntu othandekayo, kweli lizwe ulwazi lwethu wenqwenela ukwamkela inyaniso. Ngoko ke, umntu osiliweyo ekuqaleni, kwenzeka, enyanzelekile, kungekho ntlungu, kukho ukuvakalelwa kukuba into eyenzekayo ngenye indlela. Leli nqanaba lokuqala lokungonwabi - "tshatyelwa." Ngokukhawuleza kufakwe indawo "yosesho" isigaba. Iqiniso liyabonwa njengesihenqo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo kukho umqondo wobungqina bomntu ofileyo. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo zingokwemvelo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ziyesabisa, kwaye indoda iyazibuza umbuzo-ngaba ndiyaduka?
Emva koko kuza isigaba sosizi olunzima-eli lixesha elinzima kakhulu, elihlala kwiiveki ezintandathu ukuya kwezixhenxe. Ukubandezeleka kungekuphela kwinqanaba lomphefumlo, kodwa nangokwenyama: ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ubuthathaka kwiimisipha, ukulahlekelwa kwamandla, ubunzima bezinto zonke, ukuxinzelelo esifubeni, ukugubha okunzulu kunye nokugqithisa okukhulu, ukunciphisa okungavamile okanye ukunyanzeliswa kokutya, ukuphazamiseka kokulala. Inani elikhulu leengcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu ziphumelelana: ukuphelelwa lithemba, uvakalelo lokungancedi, ukungabi nantoni ebomini, amava enzono zabo kwinto eyenzekayo.
Kuxhomekeke kumfanekiso womfi, into nganye ngesizathu esithile idibene nayo: inkomishi - wayithanda le patheni, ibhokisi leposi - kuphela eyathatha amaphephandaba, umlindo isipho sakhe. Umntu uqala ukuzisola ngokuba abazange bakwazi ukwenza into kunye ebomini.
Ekugqibeleni, ubomi buya kungena, ubuhlungu obubi buyeka ukuba yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini bomntu. Nangona kunjalo, ngezihlandlo umntu uvakalelwa "ukugubha kwenkunkuma" - kungekudala, kodwa ukuhlaselwa kabuhlungu kwentlungu. Phantse omnye umva kamva, isigaba sokugqibela 'sokugqiba' siza. Indlela yokusinda esi sizini esibuhlungu? Umntu unokujamelana njani neengxaki?
- Ekuqaleni kufuneka uzame ukuchitha ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka kulo mntu. Musa ukujonga nawaphi na amagama aduduzayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu kule meko ubukho bakho, ukulungele ukuphulaphula nayiphi na into engafanelekanga, ithuba lokuhlamba izitya nokuphendula umnxeba.
- musa ukususa umntu osiliweyo kwizenzo kunye nemisebenzi ehambelana nomngcwabo. Musa ukuwudlulela nge-valerian, kwaye nangakumbi nangama-agent agulisayo anokuchaphazela umzimba. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuthintela umntu ukuba enze izigqibo zobomi ezibalulekileyo ngeli xesha.
- umsebenzi oyintloko kwisigaba sosizi olunzima kukudala isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, apho kuya kwenzeka ukuba ukhumbule umfi, zonke iintlobo zeepisodes ebomini bakhe. Ukuthetha kwakho kuya kubakho kwaye kuyimfuneko. Okokuqala kunokubangela ukuba iimvakalelo ziqhutywe kumntu, kodwa makangabonakalisi ngokubanzi njengoko kunokwenzeka, ngaphandle kokumkhahla okanye ukumgxeka.
- Ukuba emva kweveki ezi-6 ukuya kumntu umntu abuyele kwimisebenzi yakhe yemihla ngemihla kunye nezobugcisa, kubalulekile ukunyanzelisa kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo kumbandakanye naye kwisangqa sabo.
- Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ngunyaka wokuqala emva kokulahlekelwa, iholide zokuzalwa kunye neentsuku ezikhunjulwayo zihlandlo xa iimvakalelo zentlungu ziba nzima. Ukutyelela okanye ubuncinane ubize umntu kule mihla uze uqiniseke ukuba uyamtyelela umkhosi wokufa. Kulo xesha lokugqibela, ukubonakala kwesilingo (ngokukodwa kungenalwazi) kunokude kwandiswe, njengokungathi uhlala kuyo. Kungakhathaliseki isizathu-nokuba uloyiko lobomi obutsha, ingcamango yokuba uyalila ngenxa yomntu oshonile - ubungqina bendlela owamthandayo ngayo, kuyimfuneko ukunceda ukugqiba ukulila. Ukugquma kukuphela - kukho imemori.
UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekileyo kwisiza