Izizathu ezikhethekileyo zokwahlukana zingaba zigidi, ezithathu kuphela. Lezo zihlobo apho zonke izinto zaqalwa ngayo, ziphelile ngokwazo: ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwesini, ngokwazo, kubangela-kunye-nentsingiselo. Uqale ukudibana, ngenxa yokuba wathandana nokuzimela kwakho, kwaye nawe-ngobubele bakhe.
Kwiminyaka emithathu kamva kwafumanisa ukuba ubuya kuphuma emsebenzini ngokuzonwabisa, utshintshe iseshishini soshishino ukuze ugqoke iingubo ezizenzekelayo, kwaye esikhundleni seengxelo zeveki, i-salmon elungiselelwe kwi-batter. Kodwa ngomntu onobubele awukwazi ukuhlala ekhaya - wayehlala apho ngokwakhe, aze alala phantsi, aze aphekwe i-saumon. Oko ukhetha komnye nomnye, waxutywa ngesanti ngeminwe yakho kwaye qhubeka noku - akukho mfuneko. Enye inketho - enye yenzakalisa kakhulu umlingane, kwaye akayi kuxolela. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngathi "utshintshile, ndimkhwelisa, andinakumxolela kwaye andifuni, ubuhlobo buphelile. Ikhetho, xa eguqukile, engaphantsi kweklasi, kodwa ebuhlungu. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuqhubeka uhlala kwindawo yokungathembeki ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukungaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi kukunyamezela. Inketho yesithathu - iimeko zenziwe ngokumelene nolwalamano lwakho. Ngokomzekelo, uye wasebenza ngokusisigxina eMoscow, kwaye unikwe umsebenzi eBerlin - kunye nawe ongenakukukhanyela! Ayikwazi, ayibekezeleleki, akukho sizathu ... ngoku. Kungenxa yokuba isizathu esisodwa sokusebenzisa ngokugqithiseleyo igama elithi "akalokothi" libhekiselele kwibinzana elithi "ungayeki".
Emva kwekhefu
Kwenzeka ntoni emva kokuhlukana? Umntu ngamnye uhlala ebomini bakhe: udibana nabantu abatsha, uqala olunye ulwalamano, uhambelana kwiimeko ezintsha kunye neemeko ... Unokuvuyisa kwaye ujabule, kunye naye, kwindawo ethile apho, kude. Kuze kubekho ixesha elaneleyo elidlulayo (unyaka, amabini, amahlanu ...), kwaye iimeko aziyi kutshintsha, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - awuyi kutshintsha. Kwaye, utshintsho olunjalo, - ungadibana. Kwaye xa udibana, kuvela ukuba i-chemistry phakathi kwakho iyafana, inqabileyo ayikho ndawo; ixesha elide lidlula ukuba intlungu kunye nezikhalazo ezithandanayo zikhohliwe; Iimeko zatshintshile kwakhona, kodwa ngeli xesha kuphela ekuthandeni kwakho; Nonke nivuthiwe ngokwaneleyo kwaye nifumane amava ukuze niqonde izizathu zeengxaki ngoko kwaye ningaziphinda ngoku. Ekugqibeleni, njengoko kuthethwa kwinto enye endala: ubomi bude. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ngoku, ngoku kuphela, kwaye siza kubona!
Inyathelo 1: Thatha ikhefu
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda izizathu zokuba kutheni unqhekeke. Ukuba oku kungenziwa, ngoko nayiphi na inzame yokubuyisela unxibelelwano uza kuba neengxaki ezifanayo, kuphela kwizinga elikhulu. Thatha nje ukuba ulwalamano lwakho - ubuncinane kule fomu nakweli nqanaba - liphelile. Uze uthathe inxaxheba ekuzihlaleni! Sebenzisa "ixesha-I" ukubuyela kwiiklasi kunye nezenzo zokuzonwabisa eziye zashiywa ngenxa yothandekayo. Gxila kwimpilo: yidla, ulale, uhambe-kwaye uqale, ekugqibeleni, uye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca rhoqo!
Inyathelo 2: qonda ukuba kutheni uqhekeza
Sebenzisa "ixesha-I" ukwenzela ukuqonda ingxaki eyonakalise ulwalamano lwakho. Ukufika nje entliziyweni yalo, unokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle kwixesha elizayo. Ukucinga ngako, ungakulibali ukuvavanya izenzo zakho kwimbali: ngaba unengxaki yokuthembela kunye nokunyaniseka, kunye nokuzithemba komntu ngamnye kwaye ucinge ukuba zinokuchaphazela njani i-gap. Qondisisa oko kwaye ufuna, kwaye uvume ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba iminqweno yakho ihambelana kangakanani.
Inyathelo 3: Buyisela ubuhlobo
Emva kwekhefu kufuneka kudlule ubuncinane iinyanga ezimbini. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, akukho nxibelelwano! Gxininisa kumanyathelo 1 no-2: ixesha liza kudlula ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye emva kweenyanga ezimbini (ukuba awuzange uqalise ulwalamano olutsha), unokwenza, umzekelo, thumela incwadi yangaphambili okanye i-CMC okanye uzibizele kwaye uzibuze ngokuzimeleyo ukuba izinto ziphi. Ngexesha le ncoko, fumana ithuba kwaye unikele ngandlela-thile ukusela ikhofi. Xa ekugqibeleni udibana ... khumbula isinyathelo 2 uze wenze!