Umfazi kufuneka abe yingqiqo kwaye usemncinci

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangaphi na ukuphikisana ngokubhekiselele kwiminyaka yobudala, imeko yentlalo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kodwa into enye iyinyaniso: imibhangqwana ehlukeneyo kwiminyaka yobudala kunye nemfundo ayinandipha kakhulu. Enyanisweni, umanyano onjalo unakho ixesha elide. Kodwa kunjalo, ubulumko babantu - ukuba umfazi kufanele abe nobulumko kwaye usemncinci - usasebenza.

Enyanisweni, xa umehluko phakathi kwabatshatileyo kukhulu, ukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi kubonakala. Kodwa intsapho iyonke, ngoxa iingcinga zabafazi kunye neenjongo zabo zinye. Ngaphandle koko, imeko ebusweni bentsapho iyahluke, njenge-krylov's "swan, umdlavuza kunye ne-pike", awuyi kubonakalisa.

Eli lizwi elibi - yobudala ...

Amaqabane anomlinganiselo omkhulu kwiminyaka emininzi (kunye nexesha elide, ndimele ndithi) ixesha alikho nje elungileyo-kodwa likhulu kakhulu. Into enokuthi ngokungatshintshi iqabane elincinci (okanye iqabane) linomdla omkhulu wokunikezela kwaye uhlengahlengise. Umntu ophezulu, kungabalulekanga, ibhinqa okanye indoda-ukuba ilawulwe, isombulule imiba ephambili kwaye "khupha" "mncinci."

Kulo mbini kulula kakhulu ukuwela kumbonakalo wobudlelwane bomzali wabantwana. Kwaye baqhekeza zabo iinwele zabo kwiinwele zabo, bebonisa unyana wabo ukuba umfazi kufanele abe yingqiqo kwaye usemncinane - kodwa oku akuncedi. Emva koko, unyana wabo ufumana "umama" olandelayo, okhangeleka ebhedeni. Ngoku ngenxa yokuxhasa ubomi akukho mfuneko yokulwa - kwaye akukho mfuneko yokufumanisa ukuba ngubani oyinkosi yendlu. "

Isikratshi seMamkina

Akunzima kakhulu, okanye iimfuno zayo kulula ukuzenza. Akagcini nje ukujikeleza indlu - kaninzi akafuni uncedo. Umfazi oneminyaka yobudala sele esele "watshisa" amaxesha ambalwa, ngoko amehlo akhe avaliwe ulungele ukutshintshana "amehlo" okwenkqonkco kwaye othandekayo, othandekayo, othobileyo kwaye ococekileyo ... unyana omncinci.

Emva kwayo yonke into, umfazi kufanele abe yingqiqo kunye nentsha - ubuncinane ukuba angabuyiseli ubuhlobo "nomntwana wengane" kude kube ngumzuzwana wokuzala. Kwaye andinamandla kumntu kweli hlabathi, ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukufihla "i-skirt yeMamkina!"

Kodwa kwimeko echaseneyo - ukuba indoda ikhulile ngo-5-7 okanye iminyaka engaphezulu - kukho ithuba eliphakamileyo lokuba intombazana iya kufuna ukuba "yinduna". Ubomi obuhle obungenazo iingxaki, ubuninzi beentlonipho kunye nokunyamekela, ukuphucula impilo-kwaye ngenxa yoko, kwiminyaka engama-40 umfazi angaphantsi kwongamela umyeni onobuqili kwaye abekelele le nto engenakuphulukiswa. Yingakho umfazi kufanele abe neentlone, kungekhona nje encinane.

Impilo nokuzala

Ukongezelela, musa ukulibala ukuba ibhinqa lisasaza okanye kamva lizalelwe! Ngoko, ngexesha lethu, xa izibini ezinamazibulo zingekho, kwaye ukubaluleka kokuzala abantwana kuncitshiswe phantse kwinqanaba, umfazi kufuneka ahlale enempilo, enamandla, epheleleyo ngamandla. Ukongezelela, ukuzalwa kwamazibulo ngaphambi kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu kulungelelaniswa ne-physiologically. Kwaye kamva kuya kufuneka sinyamekele abazali bethu ...

Ngoko ke, kunikezelwa ukuba xa amadoda "aqolileyo" ngaphambi kobuntwaba, umfazi makangabikho mncinane kunokhethiweyo wakhe. Kwaye ukuba ngaba ezizimeleyo, ezizimeleyo kunye nempumelelo yale "mthwalo" - inxantanxantyo yobunina-iya kufuna?

Izinwele zide - ingqondo imfutshane?

Umahluko kwimfundo yinto enokubaluleka. Kodwa xa amadoda aya kuhlawuliswa ngokuba "iinwele ezinde", engaqapheli "ingqondo emfutshane" - ngokukhawuleza iyancwina. Ngoko ke, ezininzi izibini eziyimpumelelo ziyo kanye apho umntu, nangona yonke impumelelo yakhe yomsebenzi, "unengqondo" kunomfazi kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla.

Yintoni enokuba luncedo ngaphezu kokukhupha umlomo wakho ngexesha, okanye ukukhononda kumyeni wakho malunga nesilumko esiphukileyo? Kwaye indoda, ibulala iindile okanye ixhoma i-shelf, ivakalelwa kakhulu kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko, umfazi onobuqili kwisicwangciso sehlabathi ngumthombo wobutyebi. Kwaye ukuba naye ulungile - ngoko akanamahloni ukuxolela kakhulu, kakhulu ... Yingakho inkolelo yokuba umfazi kufanele abe nobulumko kwaye usemncinci.

Kodwa ke ingqondo iyahluke. Kwaye umfazi ngu-Ph.D., kwaye "unobungqina obukhulu kangaka ... i-thesis", ngoko-ke kufuneka ahlukanise phakathi kwebhanki yasekhaya, apho unomusa kwaye unomdla, kunye nomsebenzi wakhe, apho asebenza nabo (mhlawumbi) phantsi.

Usapho: siphila kwaye siphumelele!

Iinkolelo malunga nokuba yiyiphi ubudala kunye naluphi uhlobo lwezentlalo lokukhetha isibini, zisaphila. Kodwa, ngokukrakra ngokwaneleyo, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abaphathi bashade nabalobi, kunye nabafazi bezo shishino - kubangaphantsi kwabo, umzekelo, abaphathi bezentengiso. Sekunjalo, bambalwa abantu abahlala kwiimeko ezinjalo.

Kwaye kuyimfuneko yokubeka ingozi, ukuba uthando luhlala lukhulu konyaka, kwaye uthando (aluyi kudideka nothando oluvuthiweyo) - iminyaka emithathu. Kwanele ukuzala abantwana kunye nokusabalalisa ... Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuphulaphula kwakhona ukulandela ubulumko kwaye ungaphikisani nemvelo ...