Ngoko kutheni amadoda angamaqhinga njengamadoda? Okokuqala, umcimbi usemfanekisweni wabo. Ezi ntombi, ngokuqhelekileyo, zikhangeleka kwaye zikhuseleka. Bajonge abafana abanamehlo amakhulu, bawabethe i-eyelashes yabo kunye nokubonakala kwazo kubonisa indlela abafuna ngayo ukukhuselwa kunye noncedo lomntu omkhulu, onamandla nesibindi. Ewe, abafana njengamantombazana, apho bonke abantu banokuziva ngathi iinjenge. Kwakhona, amadoda onke azama ukubonisa ukuba bayaqonda yonke into engcono kunamantombazana. Ngoko ke, ukuba kufuphi nabo bantombazana abangakwazi ukujamelana nokudibanisa nokukhupha, amadoda azive Bathanda abo bakulungele ukuphulaphula konke abakuthethayo, kwaye bakholwe onke amagama. Amantombazana angama-silly abaviwa abafanelekileyo kakhulu kule nxaxheba. Ngamantombazana anjalo, kwanamadoda anokwakhiwa kwezikolo zoqeqesho angenza ngathi babe ngabafundi. La ma ntombazana afana nawo onke amabali abo, kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, akholelwa yonke into. Abasetyhini abasetyhini banako ukwenza njalo umfana uzive njengendoda yesafa.
Kodwa, kwenzeka ntoni xa umntu eyanelisayo? Yilapho uqala ukuzonwabisa. Ukuba umntu ungumntu okhalilileyo, akayi kuphila kunye nentombazana enjalo ixesha elide. Enyanisweni, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva umzuzwana ozayo xa ufuna ukuthetha ngento ebalulekileyo kwaye ibalulekile kwaye uyazi ukuba intanda yakho ikuqonda. Kwaye, akuyikuqonda kuphela, kodwa iyakwazi ukuvakalisa uluvo lwabo, xubusha kwaye uphikisane. Kwimeko apho ininzi intombazana engakwaziyo ukucinga ngayo, ingxoxo ayisebenzi, kwaye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi iqala ukuthukuthela. Oko kuthobeka, ubuyatha nobuncwane bobubele, obuqala ukuthintela, baqala ukucaphukisa baze bazidibanise. Umntu akayiqondi indlela umntu onokungazi ngayo izinto eziphambili, utyhafile kwaye unentloni. Ngaloo nto, le ntombazana ayayazi indlela yokuzolalisa, kuba abantwana abancinci bayisilumko kuyo yonke into. Zisetyenziselwa ukuba kubakho abachasayo abaza kulungisa iingxaki zabo. Kwaye xa ufanele uthwale uxanduva lwakho, aba bafazi ngokuqhelekileyo abazi ukuba benzani, kuba lo mfana ungumkhonto wakhe, kungekhona wakhe. Esi sizathu sezizathu zokuba ubudlelwane kunye nezilumko zikhawuleza.
Kwakhona, amadoda kufuneka abone uhlobo lwenkxaso kumlingane wobomi. Akunakho ukuhlakanipha, kodwa umfazi ohlakaniphileyo noqondayo owaziyo ukuphazamisa nokumnceda wakhe umntu othandekayo kumzuzu onzima. Oomama abancinci abasazi ukuba benzani, nangona ingxaki encinci ivela. Ekuqaleni, kuthinta abafana. Bathanda ukugcina onke amantombazana enkingeni kunye nokubanceda kuzo zonke izinto kwaye rhoqo. Kodwa, ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha, kunzima. Indoda iphuma ngaphandle xa intombi ingenakwenza nto yedwa. Akafuni ukufunda nantoni na, uhlala ethemba ukuba uza kuza kwaye agcinwe, nangona xa umsindisi nje akanalo ixesha lokujongana neengxaki zakhe ezingabalulekanga. Ukuba umfana ucela into enokuyenza kuye, uyayifaka nje into yokuba uyintombazana, kufuneka ahlambuluke aze ahlonishwe kwaye anganikezwa. Yaye, ukuba intombazana eyisiqhwala ithatha umsebenzi, ngoko ayisebenzi. Umfana uya kufuneka abuyisele yonke into kwaye kuya kuthatha ixesha elide. Ngomfazi onjalo kulungile ukuchitha ixesha kwiinkampani ezinomsindo kwaye uzibonise kubahlobo, kodwa ukuhlala ubomi bentsapho akunakwenzeka. Nangona abafazi bashada abafazi abanjalo, bahlala befumana iingcebiso ezilungileyo kwaye abanesipho esinokunika iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo kwaye abanako ukukhetha iipilisi zesikhonkwane kuphela, kodwa banokutshintsha iivili kwiimoto baze babhale isicatshulwa.
Inyaniso kukuba xa ufika ekhaya, umntu ngamnye ufuna ukuzithemba kwaye ukhululekile. Kodwa, oku akukwenzeka xa kukho umfazi ekhaya, ongenakwenza nto kwaye akanako ukwenza nantoni na. Ufana nododo othethayo. Kwaye oku kwamkelekanga kumntu oqhelekileyo. Ngaloo ndlela unokuzonwabisa, kodwa ungakheli intsapho yokwenene. Esi sizathu sokuba iidenge, ngokwenene, ithande kakhulu kunabanye abafazi kubonakala. Bayaziqhayisa kwaye badlala, kwaye xa bengenangqondo beqala ukucaphukisa - bayayiphonsa ngaphandle. Kodwa amantombazana angenalwazi afundanga nantoni kwaye aqhubeke eziphatha kakuhle. Akunqwenela ukwazi ukuba ukhethe njani amadoda afanelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abanjalo, kaninzi, akunandaba nokuba yimuphi umntu, into ebalulekileyo kukuba wayekho, mhlawumbi iphela, kuba akukho namnye oza kulungisa iingxaki zakhe.
Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyazi ukuba ungaphili kakuhle, uza kuvelisa iziqhamo kunye nokuqinisa ubudlelwane. Ngoko ke, abafazi abahlakaniphile nabaqinileyo banesidingo sokuba banamaxesha angenangqondo kunye nobudenge. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba wenze njalo, kodwa kwiimeko ezithile. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho lithetha into kubahlobo, kwaye uyazi ukuba ulwazi luyinyani, ungayilungisi. Kungcono ukuzenza ngathi akukho nto kwaye uyayixhasa. Amadoda awayithandi xa esityholwa ukungakwazi kakuhle phakathi kwamanye abantu, kwaye, ingakumbi, xa intombazana yenza. Ngoko ke, ngamanye amaxesha, kunceda ukuzigcina uqobo. Kodwa, ke, akufuneki ukuba uqinisekise yonke igama layo, xa umfana ethetha uhlazo olucacileyo, awudingi ukuhlazola naye.
Kwakhona, ukuba umfana ekutshela into ethile, musa ukuyixhaphaza rhoqo kwaye uthi uyayazi yonke into. Mamela, bonise umdla. Nangona ulwazi sele selwaziwa kuwe, unokwenza nje ukuba awukwazi into awaziyo. Kubantu, oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye ke, vumela uhlale usengozini kwaye ubuthathaka. Makukukhusele. Ubuyathavu ngokumodareyitha kukukhohlisa kweentombi ezihlakaniphile.