Ngaba ulungele ukuyeka yonke into ngothando?

Ngaba ulungele ukuyeka yonke into ngenxa yokuziva? Ngangaphi na esiyicinga malunga nokuba sikulungele ukuyeka ngenxa yolwalamano olutsha, ngenxa yemvakalelo yonke into esake sinayo. Enyanisweni, ukuphosa ngenxa yothando lwethu oludlulileyo ubomi luyingozi ngakumbi kwaye lunzima kunokuba sicinga. Yintoni enokuyenza kwaye nokuba uya kufumanisa ukuba ukulungele ukuyeka yonke into ngenxa yothando.

Enyanisweni, kunzima ukuqonda ukuba ukulungele ukuyeka yonke into ngenxa yothando. Oku kuya kuzaliswa kuphela xa sibeka phambi kokukhethwa ngenxa yothando.

Abaninzi bazinikela ingoma kunye nothando. Kodwa a baninzi abakulungele ukwenza nantoni na le mvakalelo. Senza izinto ezahlukeneyo ngenxa yobuhlobo bethu. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi siya kuyo yonke into ngenxa yothando, kodwa, ngokwenene, yenza izinto ezincinci. Ngothando, zizinto ezimbalwa ezibonakala zikhulu. Umzekelo, omnye umntu ucinga ukuba ukuyeka ukutshaya umntu othandayo ngumdlalo. Enyanisweni, ulungele ukufumana isiqhelo esivamile. Oku akuthethi nantoni kunothando lokwenene. Ewe, uya kuyifumana, kodwa, ngomqondo wehlabathi jikelele, yinto encinci kakhulu.

Omnye waqala iimfazwe ngenxa yomntu othandekayo. Lo msebenzi oqingqiweyo njenge "Iliad" kukuqinisekisile. Kodwa, ngakwelinye icala, kunjalo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubiza ukuba isenzo esinzulu kwaye siphumelele? Abaninzi bazama ukwenza into engavamile kwaye inzima kumantombazana, shiya konke kwaye utshintshe kakhulu. Kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, awuqondi kakuhle ukuba kutheni amantombazana angayithandi? Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha abemi abanakukwazi ukuhlula isenzo esinobuqhetseba esingaqhelekanga, esinokubangela ukuba kubekho kwimiphumo emibi.

Kodwa masicinge kwakhona ukuba sinokuyeka ngenxa yothando. Into yokuqala efika engqondweni, yinyani, intsapho. Ngokwemvelo, yintoni ongacinga ngayo, ngaphandle kwezinto ezikufutshane kunye nothando. Kule meko, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kungafanelekile ukuba wenze isenzo esinjalo ngenxa yentsapho. Kukho imeko ezahluke kakhulu. Umzekelo, xa intsapho iyonwabile kwaye intombazana, umzekelo, iyakuthanda nomfana osemzini okanye kwiphondo, apho kufuneka ashiye intsapho, ngoko ekusebenzeni kwakhe, enyanisweni, akukho nto iyingozi. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba intshontsho enye imini kufuneka ibaleke kude nesidleke. Kuya kuqondwa ngabazali abaqhelekileyo. Ngako oko, kwimeko enjalo, ukushiya intsapho kumntu onthandayo kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe. Enye imeko, xa intsapho ingaphumeleli kwaye ifuna uncedo. Kwiimeko ezifanayo, umbuzo wokushiya nokushiya yonke into uyinto engathandekiyo. Kungenzeka ukuba, kule meko, umntu oshiywe kuyo yonke into, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokubeka intombazana yakho intombazana kwiimeko ezinjalo. Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuhlala apho ehlala khona, kwaye uzame ukunceda. Emva koko, xa sithandayo, akunandaba nokuba singaphi. Mfuneko nje ukuba ufumane indlela yokuqina ngakumbi kule ndawo kwaye ungaziva ukhululekile. Sekunjalo, ukuphosa abantu abasidinga kakhulu kuninzi kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo kwaye kufuneka sicinge ngamakhulu amawaka ngaphambi kokuba samkele.

Yintoni enye ebizwa ngokuba yimeko apho siphosa yonke into yothando? Mhlawumbi, le meko yileyo xa sifuna ukukhetha phakathi kwothando oludlulileyo kunye nelikhoyo. Kule meko kufuneka senze izigqibo ezigqibeleleyo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo kuyimfuneko, okokuqala, ukugqiba ukuba ngubani na oyintanda kakhulu kwaye uyabiza. Emva koko, kukho iimeko xa thina, ngokwenene, sikhokelwa yintando kuphela. Xa kwenzeka oko, abaninzi abantu bahlala behlushwa zizigqibo ezithathiweyo. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ukhethe umntu, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ngaba lo mntu ngokwenene unayo yonke impawu efunekayo ukuze aphile ngokuvuya ngononophelo. Ukuba ibhinqa ibona ukuba ngandlela-thile umfana akahambisani naye, akudingeki uvale amehlo akho uze uphumelele echibini ngentloko yakho. Ngenxa yothando, unokwenza izinto zobuqili. Kodwa ungazami ukulungelelanisa ukuziphatha komnye umntu kwaye ufumane isizathu sokuxolela. Nangona umntu ecela yonke into ayimenzele yona, akudingeki ukuba unakekele kuphela amagama. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba abantu kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba bathetha ntoni ngezenzo zabo. Ukuba asiyikuboni oku, kuyimfuneko ukucinga malunga nokunyaniseka kweemfuno zale ncinane. Enyanisweni, nangona kubonakala ngathi usebenza kude nawona wonke obaluleke kakhulu kumntu, kungase kuvele ukuba yile migudu ekhokelela ekubeni awuzange ufeze into ethile okanye ungafumani nto oyifunayo.

Enyanisweni, ukuzama ukuyeka nokuyenza yonke into kumntu othandekayo kunconywa kakhulu. Kodwa, okokuqala, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba oku kuyimfuneko kumntu kwaye ufanelwe utshintsho olunjalo ebomini. Abaninzi abafazi banako ukugijimela echibini kunye neentloko zabo, kodwa abaninzi abakwaziyo ukusinda kwimiphumo xa umsebenzi wabo wawungadingekile kwaye akukho mntu uyawuxabisa.

Ngoko ke, ukuphosa yonke into kwaye ulungele nayiphi na utshintsho ebomini kuyimfuneko kuphela ngenxa yomntu ofanelekileyo. Ngokwemvelo, ezi mfanelo zizinqunywe ngamaxabiso enzuzo. Kalula, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umntu akaze ashiye kwaye ahambe kwiimeko ezinzima. Kwaye, ke, kufuneka ukwazi oko akuthandayo ngokwenene.

Abaninzi bethu baphosa yonke into ngenxa yothando. Shiya abahlobo, umsebenzi, intsapho. Kwaye abantu badla ngokuzisola kakhulu ngezenzo zabo. Oku kukhokelela ekudumeni, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inzondo yobulili obuhlukile. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbula ukuba ngaphambi kokuba utshintshe ubomi bakho, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba kuyimfuneko. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akufanele nanko ikhokelwe kuphela yimvakalelo. Kungcono ukuphulaphula ilizwi lesibongo kunye nabantu abathembekileyo abaya kuthetha inyaniso kuphela. Ukuba wenza oku, zonke izigqibo ziya kulungile kwaye awusoze wazisola ngezinto ozenzile ngenxa yothando. Zigqithise ngokupheleleyo kwaye zitshintshe ubomi bethu. Into ephambili kukuba ukuba utshintsho lungcono kuphela.