Emva kwenani elithile leminyaka yokuhlala, akukho nto ilula ukuyigcina intsholongwane enothando, kunye nokuhlaziywa kokubona phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Emva kokuba ulwalamano olusondeleyo ubudlelwane luqala ukudlula, uthando ngokwalo ludlulayo. Emva koko, kungekho qhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqali baqala ukugcina kuphela okuhle, kodwa ubuhlobo obunobungane. Abazali bezingane ezikhoyo zihlala kwimigxina kuphela kuba zijongene nabantwana kuphela, ngokunjalo nokukhuliswa kwazo okanye nokugcinwa kwazo. Indlela yokuba, emva kokuphefumula ubomi bemihla ngemihla akukho mandla okunyamekela omnye nomnye, kwaye kwenzeka njani ukuba ubuyisele imvakalelo yoluvuyo kwintetho kunye nomntu othandekayo?
Izinto ezithandwayo. Ukuthandana nomyeni wakhe ukuzisa ulwalamano kuya kunceda nayiphi na inxaxheba, okanye izinto zokuzilibazisa zomlingane othandekayo. Akukho mkhulu, izipho ezilula, ezifana ne-CD ethandekayo, okanye incwadi, okanye mhlawumbi amabhikithi amabini kwindawo ethile, kumdlalo okanye mhlawumbi kumdlalo wezemidlalo. Esi sipho ngokuqinisekileyo siyakukholisa indoda ngaphandle kwesizathu kwaye siya kubangela ukuphendula. Akukho mfuneko yokulibala ngeminikelo yokuzalwa, okanye iholide, kunye neentlokoma okanye iintsuku ezifanelekileyo. Maye maxesha amancinci amancinci ancede ukuzisa ulwalamano lwentsapho imfihlelo eyokwazi ukuvusa umdla womyeni wakhe.
Ukuzihlaziya okuthabisayo. Ukuxilisa okumangalisayo kunye nokuphumayo kwimilenze yakho okanye emagxeni, okanye mhlawumbi umzimba wonke ukuhlalisa ekupheleni komsebenzi kuya kukhululeka, kuya kuba nomdla kwisiqingatha sesibini. Ukongezelela, ukusetyenziswa kwamanye athile ococekileyo kuya kuphelisa uxinzelelo kunye nokukhathala, kukhululwe kwaye ungabuyi mva. Kuphela ngoku akudingeki ukuba uzijabulise ngethemba lokuba uya kufumana umvuzo wezenzo zakho. Ukutshintshwa kweziganeko ezinjalo akuyi kuzisa ulwalamano olusenyongweni, kwaye kwixesha elizayo xa uthi ukuxilwa, indoda iya kuqala ukukhangela iinjongo zobuqili. Kodwa awudingi.
Izipho ezintle. Amakhadi okanye iileta ezahlukeneyo ziya kuxela lakho iqabane malunga neentlonelo zentsikelelo, ezifudumeleyo kunye nokunyanisekileyo. Emva koko, baye bahlala behamba phambili ngokuthandana. I-imeyile okanye imilayezo yefowuni ayinalo ithuba lokudlulisela konke ukufudumala, ukunyamekela, ukuthanda umyeni wakhe. Kwiminyaka yethu, iileta ezibhalwe ngesandla ezithunyelwa ngeposi ziba yinto enkulu. Nangona bethandana kakhulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zokuthumela iileta, okanye imiyalezo. Baya kuba yikhala lexilongo.
Imizuzu yokuqwalasela. Ukubuyisela i-romance ayithethi ukuba kufanelekile ukuxelela umyeni othandekayo malunga neentsilelo zakhe zonke, ezithintelayo. Ukuze ungacingi malunga nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni, umntu kufuneka azame ukufumana ithuba lokufumana iifom ekhoyo esitshatileyo. Ukwamkela ngokubanga okuncinci kuya kunceda ekunciphiseni ubudlelwane obushushu. Amagama athobileyo akakwazi ukuphazamisa, ngoko kukulungele ukuvuma omnye nomnye kwiminqweno, uvelwano.
Amazwi amnandi. Amazwi amnandi njengamanconyiso kunye nodumo oludlulileyo ngokupheleleyo wonke umntu, ungazami ukulibala ngexesha lokuphila kwakho kunye. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuzo zonke iintlobo zezizathu, ngenxa yobunzima kunye nolwazi oluqhelekileyo lobomi bemihla ngemihla yasekhaya, abafazi bayeka ukuhlonipha konke okulungileyo kunye nokuhle, okwakunomdla kumyeni othandekayo. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ngeentlanganiso kunye nabahlobo bakhe okanye izalamane bazama ukuthetha ngeempawu ezilungileyo zesinye isiqingatha. Oku kunokwenziwa ngethuba lentetho kwifowuni, ngelixa umthandayo, njengokungathi ngengozi, wakwazi ukuva konke oku. Wonke umntu uya kuvuya ukufunda ukuba uthanda kakhulu kwaye uyakwazisa.
Ezimbini. Bonke abafazi abancinci banqwenela ukufumana iintyatyambo ezimnandi, okanye ibhokisi yeekeseti ezinomdla. Kuphela xa isigaba sokuphila se-candy-bouquet sidlula, xa siphumelele intliziyo yintombazana ethandekayo, indoda iyayeka, iyancipha ngexesha elifanayo. Ukuzisa ulwalamano phakathi kobuhlobo lunokwenzeka ngoncedo lomhla. Umqalisi apha unokuba ngumntu, nangona kaninzi izi ngcamango zihanjelwa ngabasetyhini. Ukulibala, kungekhona ixesha elide, malunga neengxaki, ukwenza ukuhamba okuthakazelisayo kwindawo apho kwakunomhla wokuqala, ngoko unokuhamba ngeendlela apho bekunye kunye. Ngaba ukulungelelanisa ikhaya akusilo isidlo esinyanzelisiweyo sokutya ezimbini, kunye nobukho beebhandlela, ezihamba nomculo ozithandayo. Ukuthandana kwexesha elidlulileyo kunakho konke, ukuqokelela, ukubuyisela iimvakalelo ezindala, mhlawumbi ungeze ezinye ezongezelelweyo.
Uhambo oluhlangeneyo. Ukuzisa i-romance endala kunye nemfudumalo yeemvakalelo inokwenzeka kwaye kwimicimbi eqhelekileyo, kuyimfuneko nje ukuba uyiqonde apho ukuyifumana kwaye ibe ngexesha elichanekileyo kwindawo echanekileyo. Olunye uhlobo lwesimo esinjengesimo sengqondo lunokuzama ukubuyisela isizathu esiqhelekileyo esikhoyo, kodwa ungakudibanisi nomsebenzi. Makube bhetele kwindlela yokuzonwabisa ngokuqhelekileyo. Kunokwenzeka nakwiyiphi na impelasonto ukuba ungabi naluhambo olukhulu ukuya kwiidolophu ezikude, okanye ipikinikini kweli lizwe kwindawo enhle kwaye ekhangayo. Ukucinga malunga nesiganeko esinjalo kwangaphambili, uhambo lokuya kwendalo lunokubakho ngothusa umdla. Ngokwemvelo, kufanelekile ukunyathela umyeni wakhe ukuba akacwangcisi iziganeko ezibaluleke kakhulu ngeveki. Emva koko akukho nto iya kukumisa ukuba ujongane nomnye.
Izinto ezintandokazi. Xelela ngobuninzi beemvakalelo, kunye nezihlandlo ezimnandi, ziza kunceda iifoto ezityebileyo. Emva kwakho konke, unokushiya umfanekiso wesithandwa sakho eofisini yakho okanye etafileni ebusuku. Umculo othabisayo ungabangela ukuba nomoya onothando. Amaxesha amaninzi abathandi bathanda iculo elithile elithatha lona. Yena, kunye neendleko ezibizayo kwisithombe, unokubonisa izinto ezimnandi, ezingenakulibaleka zobomi obuchitha kunye kunye.
Ukuba ngaba loo ngcebiso ayikuncedi, ngokucacileyo, ngaphandle kohanahanisi, xelela umthandayo wakho. Umyeni onothando uya kukuphulaphula, aqonde, achaze uluvo lwakhe kulo lonke. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi ukuba iimpawu ezinjalo zibonakala ngathi.
Indlela yokubuyisa umyeni wakhe?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubomi obukhulu bunokukhula njani kunye nomyeni, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kubalulekile nakwezinye izithandabuzo zokuthandana nomhla wokuqala. Kodwa indlela yokubuyisa umyeni womyeni wakhe kwaye ingenzeka na?