Izizathu
Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi ushada nomntu omncinci kunabo, xa engekho nonke unomdla kwicala lobuhlobo. Njengomthetho, abafazi abanjalo babanjwe kumsebenzi, banikwe izindlu kunye neengqesho ezizinzile. Inkxaso kumfazi omncinci akabalulekanga.
Esinye isizathu esiqhelekileyo kukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Abasetyhini abanomdaka okhuselekileyo abanakho ukunakwa ngokwaneleyo koontanga babo, ufuna into engakumbi, ubusuku obuthandayo, njengobutsha bakhe. Akuyena wonke umntu oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala onokukwazi ukuhamba ngesondo, kodwa umfana osele. Kwaye oku kuqondakalayo - emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, abafazi baqala ukukhawuleza kwintsebenzo yesondo, ngelixa amadoda ehamba ngokwemali, ngokunjalo amaqabane amancinci atshaba oontanga abaninzi, njengoko banako ukwanelisa yonke imfuno yowesifazane olele embhedeni.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, indima ebalulekileyo idlalwe ngumbono wokuzithemba nokukhuseleko. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kulindelwe kumadoda, kodwa umtshato ongalinganiyo, apho umntu usemncinci, umbeka kwindawo yomntu ofuna ukukhuselwa kunokuba anike. Njengomthetho, abafazi abadala abadala abayidingi inkxaso, banako ukuphazamisa abo bathandekayo. Oku kubangelwe inxalenye kwimvelo yomama okhulelweyo.
Iindlela zokugcina ubudlelwane
Umtshato ongalinganiyo apho umfazi omdala ulawulwa ngumgwebo omkhulu kuluntu. Abantu abasandul 'ukutshata kufuneka babe namandla ukunqoba yonke imithintelo kwaye bangabi nxalenye.
Okokuqala, iimfuno ezihluke ngokupheleleyo ziyafakwa phambili kwindoda yowesifazane. Kumele ahlale enqanaba lokuncintisana namantombazana amancinci. Ngomtshato ongalinganiyo, abafazi bahlala benomona, ngoko bazama ukugcina ulutsha ngokukhawuleza, ngenxa yokuba ukubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthando olunamandla luba njani.
Okwesibini, akukho mzekelo unako ukubeka iqabane kumntu womntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungenalwazi kangakanani. Amadoda kunye neminyaka eyi-20 ubudala banomuva wokufuna ukuba yinkokeli, ngoko kubalulekile ukukhuthaza iimpawu zobunkokeli, kungekhona ukunyanzelisa i-infantilism. Ukuba ibhinqa lichithwa iqabane kunye negunya layo, ngokomqondo welizwi lithatha iinjongo zikaRhulumente ezandleni zakhe, kungekudala kamva umntu uya kufumana umthandi omncinane.
Okwesithathu, musa ukuphumla. Imibhangano ayiqinisekisi ubomi obude kunye, kwaye umtshato ongalingani unamathuba amaninzi okuwahlukana kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala yokuphila. Iintlobo zobudlelwane obunjalo zivakalelwa kwiimvakalelo zabo ezizinzile, ukungabikho koxinzelelo, iinkolelo kunye nokusola. Musa ukukhwele umlingane ngenxa yokuba uncinci kwaye unomantombazana oneminyaka engama-20 olungele ukwenza isicaphulo nantoni na. Ubudala bubeka uxanduva lokuba nobulumko.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, imali kunye nesondo. Ukuba umfazi omdala uyanciphisa intsingiselo yomtshato kuphela kwinto yokuba akayi kukhangela kwiindleko zomyeni omncinci, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo uya kulinda ngesondo, ngoko umntu uya kutshatyalaliswa okanye emva koko abe nexhala lokudlala. Umgangatho wesini ubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzinyameka kwezinto eziphathekayo kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthenjwa, ukunyaniseka nokuqonda, akukho buhlobo luya kuhlala ixesha elide.
Umtshato ongalinganiyo wenza abantu abaninzi banwabe, kodwa kunokukhokelela ekungabikhoyoyo. Abantu abagqibayo ukugunyaza ulwalamano olunjalo, musa ukunyamekela ingxowa eya kuvela. Kubalulekile ukuba ungavumeli nokuba ingcamango yokuba le nto ifikelela kwiingxaki zokuqala ezinzulu. Enyanisweni, kukho imizekelo ngokwaneleyo apho umtshato ongalingani uhlala ixesha elide kunexesha eliqhelekileyo kwaye wavuya. Abantu banabantwana, bakhe izicwangciso ezidibeneyo, balwela into ethile, kungakhathaliseki ubudala. Xa kukho uthando kunye nomnqweno woba kunye, akusayi kuba nesizathu sokutshatyalaliswa.