Umhla wokuqala, uvelwano, inzondelelo, uthando, olu luchungechunge lolwalamano olwenzeka kancinane, okanye luhlala ixesha elide. Uzaphaphazela ngamaphiko othando, uphaphaza ngovuyo lwakhe, unikeza iintyatyambo, zikhokelela kwimidlalo yemidlalo, i-cinema. Uqala ukwenza izicwangciso ngekamva. Umtshato uza kuba nini? Kuya kuba njani? Bangaphi abantwana oya kuba nabo? Uya kuhlala njani? Ngenye imini, uqala ukungaqiniseki ngeemvakalelo zakho. Akukho nto embi ngaphezu kokungathandabuzeki, kodwa nokuba kwakunothando okanye nje ukuthanda. Uqala ukukhangela impendulo kwimibandela yakho.
- Ukukhangela kuyo yonke imihla yakho esetyenzisene kunye, uyaqonda ukuba akayena iqhawe leveli yakho, akayonto efanelekileyo, akahlali njalo. Kwaye, akunakucinga ukuba uhlala naye kwindlu efanayo.
Kwaye umbuzo olandelayo uvela: ukuba uthando luye lwadlula, yintoni oyenzayo? Kungathi izolo zonke izinto zilungile, uqhutywe ngamaphiko othando, awukwazanga ukulinda umnxeba wakhe, uvela kwelinye lamaso akhe ujonge. Kwaye ngoku, kwenzekani emva koko konke? Ewe, unokuphendula kuphela le mibuzo ngokwakho, phulaphula intliziyo yakho uze ufumene oko ufuna ukwazi. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe naziphi izigqibo, cingisisa kakuhle, mhlawumbi ukwesaba nje. Mhlawumbi uloyiko lokuba ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha, ukuba uya kulahlwa inkululeko yakho. Unokuphula yonke into ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kunzima ukwakha ubudlelwane. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba le yinto enye, cinga ngomzuzwana ukuba uya kushiya. Uya kudibana nomnye kwaye amnike ukufudumala nokuthandana kwakhe, kwaye unokudibana nomnye ochasene ngokupheleleyo nesoka lakho langaphambili. Kwaye isithandwa esitsha asinakukunika uvuyo lobomi obunikwe ngaphambili. Utshintsho luhlala lusabisa, luloyiko lokwenza iphutha ekukhetheni.
Kodwa, ukuba, emva koko, akusikho enye i-whim, kwaye uthando luphelile. Ukuba uthando ludlulile, yintoni oyenzayo? Ngexesha elizayo ukungaphindaphindi iimpazamo zobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Simele sihlalutye ngokupheleleyo ukususela ngowokuqala ukuya kusuku lokugqibela, kwenzekani, kutheni uthando luye lwadlula. Mhlawumbi insizwa, iyakunakekela kakubi. Okanye awunayo into enomdla, ngaphandle kwebhedi. Kwaye mhlawumbi ebhedini, wayengenakulungile njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Ubudlelwane obuqinileyo bakhelwe ngokuhlonipha kunye nokwethenjwa. Ukuba umfana wakho waqala ukulala ukususela ekuqaleni, kwanamanga amancinci, sele esinike isibonakaliso, ukuze acinge, nokuba ufanele uhlale nomntu oxokayo. Ubundlobongela bubandakanya enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo kulwalamano, ukuba ukususela ekuqaleni usenomdla, emva koko ubulili bexesha elizayo lungaba yimpumelelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unako ukwenza izinto ezintsha kwiindawo zakho zobuhlobo obusondeleyo, kodwa uya kudinwa ngokudlala i-solos lonke ixesha. Enye into ebudlelwaneni, zizinto zokuzilibazisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, into ephambili kukuba nithanda nje. Ukuba ubuncinci kwimiba engentla ungenayo, ngoko kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba kulungile ukuqhubeka lo buhlobo. Kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu ukucinga ngayo xa ukhetha isithandwa esilandelayo, ukuze ungaphinde uphinde uphendule iimpazamo zangaphambili.
Unqume ukuba uthando luphelile. Ungayichazela njani lo mthandi wakho wangaphambili? Into ephambili, kulo mzekelo, ukuba ungamcaphukisi umntu, akenzanga nto ephosakeleyo. Ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, ngaphandle kokukrokraza, vele ucoxe kwingxoxo enzulu kwaye uthe ngokucacileyo ukuba phakathi kwakho konke kuphelile. Musa nje ukuqala ingxoxo kunye nokuba ungumntu ontle, omhle, kwaye ungcono uhlale ungumhlobo. Yonke le nto ibonal kwaye ayiyi kumnceda nantoni na. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ingxoxo, lungiselela ngengqondo, thatha amagama alungileyo, uyazi kakuhle. Kuhlala kuyimfuneko ukusabalalisa kakuhle, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza kunye neentlekisa, ebomini into enokwenzeka, mhlawumbi uya kuhlala kunye kunye nokuzonwabisa.