Ubudlelwane bubuthakathaka njenge-crystal vase. Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi baqala ukuqonda oku kuphela xa kwakukho ukuphuka ubudlelwane, xa eshiya, mhlawumbi nakwezinye. Kwada kweli nqanaba, nangona abafazi bebona ngokugqibeleleyo, baziva kwaye baqonda ukufuphika kokuwa, abakwenzi nto, bahlala behlala kwaye benze njengokuba ngaphambili kwithemba lomlindi oza kuguqula yonke into ibe bhetele, eya kubuya yonke into kwimihla yakudala kwaye akuyi kubakho ubomi, kodwa iindaba zobomi ... Kodwa lo bubomi! Uyazicabisa ... Ulahlekelwa ixesha xa usenokwenza okuthile.
Kwaye kwenzeka kakhulu-washiya. Oku kutshitshiswa kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umfazi. Kucacile ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe ngoku. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi kule meko bayeke ukucinga, abakwazi ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo ukuthatha amanyathelo athile.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqale ucingisise kwaye uze ufumane iindlela zokusombulula le meko. Ukuba uyayidinga, hamba kumhlobo okanye umbingeleli (isazi sezengqondo, njl njl.), Baya kuqonda kwaye bakucabise, bahlalise kwaye banike ingqiqo encinci ukuze ukwazi ukwenza ngokuthe ngqo. Makufumene amandla ngaphakathi kwakho kwaye ulungele ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha amanyathelo alungileyo ukuze ukwazi ukuziqonda kwaye uphephe iimpazamo ozenzileyo, unokufumana intsingiselo yobomi, ufumene intsingiselo entsha. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuyibuyisela, kufuneka uqale uzinqamle uze uqale ukhangele iindlela ezakhayo zokuzibuyisela. Kwaye ukuba ngoku sele uzinzile kwaye uzimisele ukwenza konke ukuzama (ukuzama nje ukuzama ukuwufumana ukuze ufumane intsingiselo yobomi, ufunde njalo.Okwesibini, kufuneka uqonde ukuba awukwazi ukubuyela emva kokudlulileyo okanye ukulungisa into ebudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ixesha elidlulileyo lihambile ngonaphakade, elidlulileyo liyimpofu, emva koko akusiziphulo ukuxosha ... Ungakhohlwa nje yonke into eyenzeka ngaphambili, nokwakha ngokuthe ngqo, ubudlelwane obutsha, ngokungafaniyo nalawo ngaphambili. Ungaqala kuphela ukususela ekuqaleni, qalisa i-romance entsha ukususela ekuqaleni. Kwaye kuye kungumntu oyintloko. Awukwazi ukubuthela i-vase ephukile ... Unokwenza i-vase entsha kuphela. Kwaye kuya kuxhomekeka kuphela kuwe nokuba kuya kuba bhetele kunaphambili, kodwa nangona kunjalo, kuya kuba sesinye esinye isilwanyana, ubuhlobo. Kwaye oku kuluhlu olutsha lumele lube luhluke, luhluke kumdala kule nto yonke, kwiinkcukacha ezincinci (khumbula oko wayefuna ukukubona, kwaye wachasa). Ngaphandle koko, amaqhinga akho amandulo awayi kusebenza, angayi kukuvumela ukuba uphile ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye nangona ulawula ukuwubuyisela, yonke into iya kubuya ejwayelekile. Kwaye uya kucinga ukuba ungayilahla njani ...
Ngoko ke, okokuqala, kufuneka uziqonde ngokwakho, kwiimpazamo zakho. Emva koko kufuneka uhlolisise oko, ingaba kunokwenzeka kangakanani ukwenza into ebalulekileyo kunye naye kwaye ujabule.
Kodwa oku kufuneka kube yinveli nakweyiphi na imeko. Yintoni oyifunayo ukuqala le inoveli entsha? Ubuhle bakho kunye nekhontrakthi, okumele kube phezulu !!! Ungalinqoba okokugqibela, kwaye ngaphandle koko, ngoku uyazi ubuthakathaka bawo kunye nezilutha kunye nokuba unesimo kwaye ubonisa umdla, unokwenza kwakhona. Ngoko ngoku udinga into ebaluleke kakhulu - kufuneka ufumane uxolo lwengqondo ukuba lube phezulu kwakhona.
Kuqala kuphi? Ndiye, ntanda wam! Jonga ngokwakho. Bajonge njani kuwe? Umele uqaphele kwaye uzive ukuba amadoda angqongileyo ekuthuthweni, esitrato nasesitokweni ayeka ukunikela ingqalelo kuwe, nangona ngoku kutshanje uye wahlala ebamba ezi zibukeka. Ngoko into ishintshile kuwe, kwaye ayitshintshi ukuba ibe ngcono. Kutheni kutheni umfazi omhle onjengawe ngokukhawuleza waba ngumntu ongathandabuzekiyo? Kutheni amadoda ayeke ukukubona? Isizathu esilula - ulahlekelwe ukukhangwa, oko kukuthi, ukuzithemba kwakho kwanyamalala kwaye ukuzithemba kuye kwawa kakhulu.
Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha into ethile, mbuyisela umntu okanye umkhohlwe kwaye uyifumane injabulo yakho kwenye, ngoko kufuneka siqale ngale nto, simele sibuyele ekukhangekeni size siwomeleze ikhulu! Ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka sizenzeke ngokubonakalayo. Awuseyona ntombazana kwaye uyayazi kakuhle kwaye uyayiqonda ukuba ukutsala indoda, ibaluleke kakhulu ayikho ubuhle, kodwa inqabileyo, isibheno sesondo, oko kukuthi, isimo sangaphakathi sengqondo. Yaye ukuba nayiphi na indoda (kubandakanye nabangaphambili) yakwenza ingqalelo kuwe, kufuneka uphinde ube mnandi, ukufumana ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kunye nokuzithemba. Ukuba ubona wena ngoku kulesi sikhundla, kuya kuphucula indawo yakho engenakukhutshwa. Ngako oko, de ube ukhululekile ukulahla eli gama elibi, gweba nayiphi na intlanganiso kunye naye.
Ukongezelela, ngoku uvuselela iimvakalelo eziphazamisekile ebusweni boluvo, okumele luphephe kwaye lulahleke. Ukufezekisa oku, kufuneka uqale ukulibala (kwinqanaba lokuqonda) ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, khupha intloko yakho kuyo, kwiimvakalelo zangaphambilini kunye neengcamango, kuba ixa ekhanda lakho (ngokuchanekileyo, ebusweni bentliziyo), iimvakalelo ezimbi kuphela. Ezi mvakalelo ezimbi aziyi kukuvumela ukuba wenze ngokuqhelekileyo, zichithe kwaye kufuneka uzilahle. Naluphina unxibelelwano naye ngoku luyandisa kakhulu imeko yakho, yimi kutheni uqale uvuselele amandla akho, ususe isimo sengqondo esibi kuye. Ngaphandle koko, ulwalamano lwakho luya kuphinda lwakhiwe izindonga, kungekho amabhuloho.
Imvakalelo emihle evela kuye nangayiphi na imeko iya kuhlala, iyanzulu kwi-subconscious, ukuze ukwazi ukuzola ngoku. Kungenxa yeemvakalelo ezingenangqondo ezikuphazamise ngoku kwaye azikuvumeli ukuba uphile ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye ngoku udinga ukuzithemba ngokwakho, kwiimpawu zakho kunye neentshukumo ngaphezu kwanini ngaphambili, kunye nenkqubo ecacileyo yokusebenza. Ngoko ke, ngelixa ufanele ugweme nayiphi na inxulumano naye. Ngoku ulungiswe ngoku kwaye le meko kufuneka ibhujiswe kuqala, ithathe indawo yendawo yokuqinisekisa, yokuvuya, yokuvuya kunye nokwakhayo. Kuphela ngoko unako ukufezekisa into ethile! Xa ufumana ukuzithemba kwangaphambili, kuphela ngoko (kungekudala!) Unokuthatha nawaphi na amanyathelo okudibanisa, ukudibanisa inombolo entsha. Okokuqala, kufuneka kube yintlanganiso edlulayo, ebonakalayo ehambelanayo, kwisitrato okanye apho kwenzeka khona, kwaye kufuneka akubone nje, kwaye akufanele ukhangele indlela yakhe, kufuneka aziphathe njengokungathi akazange ambone. Ngendlela awasabela ngayo, uya kuqonda ukuba ingaba yintando entsha. Ukuba akanandaba, akukho nto iya kwenzeka ... Ukuba ubonisa umdla, ngoko umntu unokunyanzela ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane kunye nokwakha endaweni entsha. Kodwa siya kuthetha ngale nto kwizahluko ezilandelayo ...
Ngoko, into yokuqala yokwenza ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuheha kumntu wangaphambili okanye ongcono kumgangatho ophakamileyo. Oku kuya kuthatha ixesha elithile. Omnye uya kuba neveki, umntu uya kulufuna inyanga, kunye nomnye umntu wesiqingatha sonyaka. Kwaye ngeli xesha kuyimfuneko ukukhuphela ngaphandle nawuphi na umnxibelelwano naye.
Njani ukwenza oku? Umzekeliso wesiRashiya uthi: i-wedge igqitywe ngumgqomo. Oko kukuthi, le ndawo ekhanda lakho (phezu komphefumlo owaziyo), ephethe iingcamango ezingalunganga, kufuneka uzaliswe ngento kunye nomnye umntu, kodwa ngeemvakalelo ezintle. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungazithethelela kwaye ufumane ukuzithemba ngokwakho ukuba wenze okunye. Kwizahluko ezilandelayo, uzakufumana ukuzilolonga, usebenze ngokuzikhandlayo oya kukwazi ukuhamba ngendlela elungileyo uze uphinde uzithembe.
Ukwandisa ukuzithemba
Ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwaye ufumane ukuzithemba njengeyinyathelo lokuqala, kufuneka uhlale wenza umzovo owaziwayo ukwandisa umtsalane, oku kubizwa kuthiwa kucamngca kumlingane ocinga.
Njengoko uyazi kakuhle, ukukhanga kuyinto yangaphakathi yesimo sakho sengqondo. Ngako oko, thabatha njengento nje yokuzilolonga, njengokuzibandakanya kwamanzi okanye ukuhlamba, njengokugqoka okanye ukuxubha amazinyo akho, njenge-gymnastics yengqondo. Mhlawumbi, okokuqala kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe xa ukwenza ngokwengeziwe, kuya kuba lula kuwe. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kuba lula ukuphawula utshintsho olulungileyo kuwe. Yenza nje kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyabona kwaye uzive umphumo.
Ngoko, isisiseko somsebenzi: ukulibala, umntu kufuneka ahlale ecinga ngomnye umntu, ngaphandle kwindoda. Kufuneka ukuba ukhethe phakathi kwamadoda ongaqhelekanga (mhlawumbi nje kwisihlwele) kwanoma yimuphi umntu othanda into ethile, ukhangela umdla wakho. Kwaye ekucingeni kwakho ukuqala ukwakha uthando kunye nazo zonke ezinye izicwangciso kunye naye, cinga indlela ohlala ngayo kunye. Zama ukwenza ezi ziqhamo zibe zikhazimulayo kunokwenzeka. Wonke umntu uthanda ukucinga. Ngethamsanqa, ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kwenza kakuhle, kuba imfesane kwaye, ngokukodwa, ithande imbali ebantwini kuphuhliswe kakuhle.
Ngoko, amava amaninzi amathandabuzo, iimpawu zokunakwa, ukuthanda, ukulala ngesondo, kunye neenkcukacha zobudlelwane obusondeleyo, iimfuno eziqhelekileyo, ubomi bentsapho obumbileyo, ngokubanzi, ukucinga okungakumbi kunye nemifanekiso emininzi ebomini kunye nelo mntu ongaqhelekanga. Ukuba ngeli xesha unento ephumelele kakhulu, ngexesha elizayo kufuneka uhlakulele umxholo ofanayo, ingcamango efanayo. Buyela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwizinto eziye zaphumelela kakhulu kwixesha elidlulileyo. Nawaphi na amava anokufunda lula. Eyona nto ibonayo kwaye iyanelisekile imingcamango, isondeza isiphumo esinqwenelekayo. Ukuba lo mncinane unolwazi kuwe (ngomsebenzi, kwimisebenzi edibeneyo, kwimisebenzi yendlu, njl.), Ngoko ke le ngcamango yokucinga iyakuxhaswa yizenzo ezijoliswe kuyo, ngokumomotheka, ukuthabatha yakhe nayiphi na imiqondiso yokuqwalasela, ncokola ngakumbi kunye naye kwaye ujonge indlela asabela ngayo. Ukongeza, qalisa ngomdla ukujonga ngapha nangaphandle. Yenza yonke ixesha, kuyo yonke indawo - kwisitrato, kwintengiso, kwiivenkile, emsebenzini ... Xa uphuma, qwa lasela amadoda angqongileyo. Xa usenza ixesha elide, kuya kuba lula ukuba utshintshe. Ixesha elincinci lokugqiba lo msebenzi liveki enye, nangona kunokuba kuyimfuneko kumntu kunye nangaphezulu. Ukuzivocavoca kufuneka kwenziwe rhoqo, xa unemizuzu yamahhala, yokutya, kwisithuthi, esitrato, kwisitoreli ... Xa uninzi kwaye unzulu ukucinga, ukukhawuleza utshintsho luya kuba.
Ukuba yena, owokuqala, wabiza ngokukhawuleza, ngoko kukuqala koyiso lwakho. NJE! Ngoxa uhamba naye unqande kwaye ungamniki izithembiso. Akukho ntlanganiso! Akukho caciso. Kwaye ukuba unengqondo yokuziphindisela, uze ubalekele ngabo. Ngoku, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, cinga nje wena, isimo sakho sengqondo, amandla akho angaphakathi. Ngoku uqale ufanele uqonde ulwalamano lwakho kwaye unqume ukuba ungaqhubeka njani.
Yintoni ozoyilungisa?
Kuhle ukuba uqeqesho lokuqala lukunceda ukuba udibanise umncinci, uncedise ukulibala, ukulikhupha endaweni yesikhashana. Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu, kwandisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Ukuqhubela phambili ukuququzelela ingqondo yakho lo msebenzi, kufuneka wenze enye-yesibini isenzo. Ngokufanayo, ukubethelwa kwelinye indoda, ukuba ungabandakanyi owake wavela kwiluhlu lwabaqeqeshi bakhe abanakho. Kukho nawuphi na, ubuhlobo bakho buyahluka kwaye kuya kwahluka, ngoko oku kusebenza kwi-100% kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani na oza kuphila ngayo. Oku kunceda ukwandisa uluhlu lweemvakalelo zakho ezintle, kukukwenza ube ngumfazi ozimeleyo ngaphakathi. Ngenxa yoko, konke oku akuncedayo kuphela ukusukela nasiphi na isiphumo, kodwa nokujonga ubomi ngokuxhomekeka kwaye, nangayiphi na imeko, kufanelekile ukulungiselela ubomi bakho kwixesha elizayo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukufumana uvuyo lwakho.
Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukucinga kwakhona isizathu sokuba nithande. Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana kweli lizwe akholelwa ukuba akakwazi ukuthanda omnye umntu. Akunjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubonakala ngoku kwaye xa ungenzi imizamo okanye ukuzivocavoca ngokwakho, le meko yongxowankulu inokuhlala ixesha elide, ngamanye amaxesha nangakumbi kwiminyaka emininzi ... Abo bazana amantombazana athembekileyo kwaye alindele ukulunga, abakholelwa ukuba nguye lo - Nabani na oya kubuyela kuye. Le yona mpazamo enkulu eyenziwa ngabasetyhini. Inyaniso kukuba lowo owawuhlala ukhona, akayi kubuya! Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyikuyidinga loo nto, into efunekayo yinto enye oye wafumana amava, waziqonda wena, waqonda iimpazamo kwaye wafunda ukuwaphepha, owaziyo into enokuyenza kwaye kufuneka ayenze idini ngenxa yolonwabo. Kodwa lo ngumfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo ... Nalolu hlobo, owesifazane ozilumkileyo, kufuneka ube.
Ngoko, ngoku usuxhomekeka kunokwakheka kwengqondo kuye, onokuthelekiswa nokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi. Ngamanye amazwi, ngoku uthathe i dose kwaye waqalisa ukuphuka. Kulo rhu lumente, umntu uyakhalaza intlungu kwaye akakhathaleli indlela yokufumana umthamo (buyela othandekayo). Yingakho kufuneka ulahlekise ukuxhomekeka kokuqala - kukuvimbela ukuba wenze ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaba ezi zivoti kunye nekhefu ziya kudlula, uya kuba nako "ukunyanga" ngokupheleleyo. Emva koko unokuphefumula ngokukhululekile kwaye uhlole ubunzima beetyathanga ozigxothayo. Ngenxa yokuba kuxhomekeke ekubeni kuxhomekeke ekuxhomekeke kuyo. Ukutshintshela kwindlela elungileyo kufuneka ubale kwaye ulungelelanise ukuba akasoze abuyele, ukuba ukususela ngoku uya kuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe. Ekugqibeleni, oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ukhululeke ngokupheleleyo ekuxhaseni kwawo kwaye sele uqale olunye ubomi kunye okanye ngaphandle kwalo, njengoko ufuna. Njani ukwenza oku? Yenza umsebenzi wesibini.
Ingundoqo yolu luvo kukuhlala ufumana iimvakalelo ezintle. Baye basebenzisa umthombo wabo, ngoku kufuneka kube yinto enye, kufumaneke lula kuwe. Ukufezekisa oku, zihlale uzikhuthazela ukuba ngoku umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuba ujongele ebomini kuzo zonke izinto zayo ezincinci-ekutya, kwiingubo, kwiinkcubeko, kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa, njl njl. Zithenge izidlo zokudla ezizithandayo, izinto ezintle, ziya kuphumla apho uphupha ixesha elide, uye kumdlalo wakho ozithandayo okanye ubukele ifilimu kwi-movie owawufuna ukuyibona. Ngokuqhelekileyo, gcwalisa ubomi bakho ngovuyo, uzithobele ngokwakho kwiminwe yakho encinane kwaye wenze yonke imihla! Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu akafanele aphile ngokulindela ukubuya kwakhe, kodwa aphile ubomi bakhe, ujabulele ubomi ebomini. Fumana uvuyo kunye nolonwabo kwizinto ezikujikelezayo, gcwalisa yonke imihla yobomi bakho kunye nale mihlali encinci kunye enkulu. Konke oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uqinise ngakumbi ukukhanga kwakho, ekugqibeleni uza kukhupha umbane, oya kutsalela ingqalelo kumadoda azungezile. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyibona, uyiva kwaye uyayiqaphela. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba wenze le sifundo ngokupheleleyo.
Indlela yokuziphatha?
Ngoku ke makhe sibone indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, ukuba unokubuya ngokukhawuleza? Ziziphi iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo ezenziwa ngabasetyhini ekuqaleni kolwalamano olutsha kunye naye?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo kwaye uqonde ukuba ngoku unemvakalelo ephilileyo efanayo - ukunyamezela, ukungafuni okanye ukunyaniseka. Nangona ngoku uncoko, eneneni, akayi kukuphulaphula, ukusila kweendlebe zakho. Ngoku uye wavelisa iingcamango ezingapheliyo ezinjengenja kaPavlov, ezi ngcamango zisebenza ngokucacileyo kuyo yonke into oye waxhuma ngayo. Ngako oko, akukho nto imele imkhumbuze ngolwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili.
Ngoko, iphutha elikhulu liza kuba ukuzama nokuhlaziya ubudlelwane naye njengokuba kwakuqala ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baqala ukuhle kangakanani. Ngoku yonke ubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo, kunye nezona zihlandlo ezimnandi, zidibaniswa neemvakalelo ezimbi, ngoko kufuneka uzincede ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye kuya kuba yiphutha elikhulu xa umkhumbuza ezinye zexesha lakho langaphambili nangona zihlandlo ezimnandi kakhulu! Konke oku kuya kumcasula kwaye kwandise imeko ...
Ngoko, umgaqo wokuqala: kufuneka uzame ukulibala lonke elakho ngaphambili kwaye ugweme naziphi na iziganeko kwixesha elidlulileyo oye wahlangana kunye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bevuya kangakanani !!! Kufuneka uphephe iindawo ezindala zeentlanganiso, indawo apho uhamba khona. Kuya kuba yimpazamo enkulu xa uvuma ukudibana kwenye yeendawo zakho zangaphambili ezizithandayo, nokuba yena ngokwakhe unika yona! Kuya kuba yiphutha elibulalayo xa uhamba kwindawo yokudlala yefilimu oyintandokazi, ithala okanye ihholo lekhonsathi. Ngokubanzi, yonke into eyayibophayo kufuneka ilityelwe! Kuze kube ngoku, kuya kumcaphukisa kuphela kwinqanaba elincinci, ngokungazi kakuhle iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Okwesibini, umntu kufuneka afunde ukujamelana neengcamango zakhe ezingalunganga ezisebenza kuwe, ezingenakukuphumelela ebunzini. Kufuneka ukuba wenze ngendlela encane, ufanele utshintshe ngaphakathi kwakho (kulungile ukuba utshintshe umfanekiso wakho, ukwakheka, isitifiketi seenwele, isimbolo seengubo, njl.) Encinci, ukuze angaboni kuwe into ayenzisayo ukuze ukhohlise izinto zakhe zangaphambili kuwe. Xa unakho ukukhohlisa into yakhe engqondweni, kuphela ke uya kuba nethuba lokuphinda ubuye ulwalamano lwangaphambili, nangona abayi kuba kunye kwaye akufanele babe ngabangaphambili - kufuneka ukuba babe ngabanye!
Ngaphambi kokuba nantoni na eyenziwe, kuyimfuneko ukucinga ukuba ngaba oku kusikhumbuza ubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ekuqaleni kuya kuba nzima, kuya kufuneka ulawule kunye noxinzelelo, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umkhwa uza kuphuhliswa kwaye konke oku kuya kuvela ngokuzenzekelayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kucinga ngako. Kwaye oko kuya kuba yinto entsha kunye nomntu wangaphambili. Le yindlela kuphela yokuvuselela ubudlelwane naye kwinqanaba elidlulileyo okanye eliphakamileyo. Usuvele uyamazi kakuhle, khumbula iimpazamo zakho, ngoku kufuneka zikhunjulwe ngokufanelekileyo ekusebenzelaneni naye.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngoku ulwalamano naye konke kufuneka kuhluke, zonke iinkcukacha (ngokuchanekileyo, ngokukodwa kwizinto ezincinci)! Enyanisweni, kuye kufuneka kube yintando entsha kunye nomnye umfazi. Yonke into ixhomekeke kwindlela oyithandayo ngayo lo mntu kunye noko ulungele ukuya khona ngenjongo yakho. Kuya kuba nzima, ngenxa yale nto kufuneka uphumelele ngaphezu kwekratshi lakho. Ewe, ukuba awukulungele konke oku, kukulungele ukulibala ngokukhawuleza kwaye ukhangela omnye umntu, ukuze wakhe ulwalamano olutsha kwindawo entsha, ngokuqwalasela iimpazamo zangaphambili.