"Kodwa sinabantwana!" - uyayiphikisa. Qonda, abantwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bancinci kangakanani, baqonde kakuhle ukuba luhlobo luni lobuhlobo phakathi kwabazali. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba abantwana banomdla ngakumbi ngomzali omnye kunentsapho apho uyise nonina bengathandanga ixesha elide. Ukuphulaphulwa rhoqo kwiingxabano zabazali akunayo impembelelo engcono kwi-psyche yengqondo.
"Yintoni endiyayenza ngaphandle kwakhe?" - oku kungacelwa kuphela yiklabhu yasekhaya, eyachithwa ngokupheleleyo kumyeni wayo. Umfazi onelisekile akayi kuvela nombuzo onjalo. Ewe, ukuba, undixolele, ngaphandle kwendoda kungekho ndawo, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo. Isihlandlo sokuqala siya kuba nzima, kodwa akukho nto, sinamandla kuneemeko kwaye uya kuhlangabezana nazo zonke iingxaki.
Ewe, ukuba emva kokucamngca ixesha elide uzimisele ukubuyisela uthando kunye nentlonipho yendoda yakho, kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni ulahlekelwe yile thando kunye nenhlonipho. Kukho iindlela ezimbini: enoba unkosikazi, okanye unenkathazo eneminyaka ephakathi.
Masiqale ngeenketho ezimbini. Inkathazo. Kuye sele ebhaliwe ezininzi zeencwadi zeengqondo ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba ngokucacileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka xa "ibali lobomi" sele sele "libhalwa" (funda "lihlala"), enye ingacingi ukucinga. Mhlawumbi nje abantwana abadala kwaye indlu yayingenanto. Mhlawumbi wayethatha umhlalaphantsi kwaye akanakho ukuzibandakanya. Ngamafutshane, lobu bukho bubuhlungu, kodwa akwazi ukuqala entsha. Mncede. Qala ukumnceda! Ulibale ukuba usele ... iminyaka engamashumi amabini. Khawucinge ukuba uselula kwakhona, ukuba ubomi sele iqalile!
Thatha iholide uze uye kwindawo ethile kude nekhaya. Kungcono ukuba ayilona uhlobo oluthile lolwandle, kodwa iintaba, ngokomzekelo, okanye ukurhweba emlanjeni. I-adrenaline kufuneka ikhutshwe kwigazi. Ukuyisa ezi ngxaki kunye! Kuya kugubha nje umyeni, kodwa wena, amehlo aya kukhanya njengobutsha. Umyeni uya kukukhumbula ukuba uyakuthanda kakhulu, kwaye uya kuphinda aqale ukuhlonela ukuba ungeyiki ubunzima.
Kwaye awukwazi ukuya naphi na. Iingxaki zinokulinda ekhaya: ukuhamba, ukulungisa okanye (pah-pah) ukugula komntu. Into ephambili kukuba ibe kunye. Ndikholelwe, uya kukuxabisa imizamo yakho.
Kodwa ukuba waqala inkosikazi, yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi. Umyeni wakhe akafuni ukuqhawula umtshato, kodwa ulala naye. Ubonakala unomhawu, kodwa awukwazi ukuba wenzeni.
Emva koko kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho. Okokuqala, yima phambi kwesibuko. Ngaba udala? Konke kwenzeka. Liliphi ixesha lokugqibela owawuse-salon? 2 edlulileyo? Ongenakuthethelelwa! Masinyane ugijime apho, kwaye ukususela kwangoko ukuya kwiivenkile, ngezinto ezintsha.
Ngoko ... bazisa ubuhle. Kwaye ngoku ucinga: umyeni wakho unomdla kuwe? Mhlawumbi wakuthanda, kodwa into eguqukile, akukho nto yokuthetha nawe malunga. Ngoko khawuleza ufumane umsebenzi omtsha. Kungaba ngumsebenzi ukuba ube ngumfazi wendlu, okanye i-theater yeshashalazi. Nantoni na. Yibhinqa elimnandi. Yiba ngcono kunelo mnkosikazi omncinci. Makhe umyeni azi ukuba uyalahlekelwa. Mxelele ukuba ulahlekelwe yintando yakhe kwaye ayihloneli nto.
Ngoko, inhlanhla kuwe, ntanda wam, kule ngxaki enzima yokubuyela kwothando kunye nentlonipho kumyeni wakhe. Zithande kwaye uthande.