Uthando kunye neSayensi
Kwiminyaka emininzi, izazinzulu zehlabathi ziye zazama ukuqonda oko kubangela ukuba abafazi bathandane namadoda kunye nangona kunjalo. Kukho izigqibo ezimbalwa, zifutshane kwaye sonke siyazi. Amadoda ngokwemvelo anqwenela ukuthanda ngamehlo abo, kunye nabasetyhini - ngeendlebe zabo. Akunamagama nje - aqinisekiswa ngokwenene ngesayensi. Sekunjalo, izazinzulu zithi sithandana kungekho ngaphantsi kwefuthe lefuthe elikhawulezayo, kodwa ngenxa yokufuneka. Siyaqonda ngokugqithisileyo umntu oza kunceda kakhulu ukuqhubeka kohlobo lwethu. Kodwa kwakutshanje iindinyana ezintsha ezandisayo. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zabonisa ukuba uthando lukhona!
Iingcali zeengqondo zaseMerika zibangelwa uphando ziye zafakazelwa ukuba ubuchopho bethu buqulethe indawo ehlukeneyo ejongene namava othando. Yaye xa umntu omthandayo ecinga ngathi, usibona, uxoxisana, le mimandla iyasebenza kakhulu. Ngaphezu koko, le mimandla "igqithise" umsebenzi wezinye iindawo ezibalulekileyo. Umzekelo, ummandla ojongene nokuqonda okubalulekileyo kwenyaniso, ukuhlola uluntu kunye nomsindo. Ngoko ke, ukuba wakho umthandayo uhamba ngokumomotheka ebusweni bakhe, ngoko akayi kuhlenga, uyakuthanda. Kuphela apha?
Uthando kunye ne sidima
Akukho mntu ufuna ukukholelwa ukuba sithandwa kuphela ngenxa yezenzo zeepheromones. Kodwa oku kukhulu ngokwenene. Ezi zinto ziveliswa kunye nokukhululwa kwesithukuthezi kunye nezinga elingaphantsi komtsalane. I-Pheromones yenza ngokungakhethiyo, asikwazi ukuchaza rhoqo "umsebenzi" wabo. Yingakho amantombazana "amnandi" ngamanye amaxesha akhetha abantu "ababi", okanye abangathandekiyo ngaphandle bawa thandane kunye nobuhle, kwaye ngelo xesha bavakalelwa. Sivame ukuchaza oku kufakelwa kwabantu ngokungafaniyo ngendlela yabo: ukuchasana kukutsala. Oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo, kodwa isiphumo sifana ne nyaniso. Abantu ababini banjengengqondo banokuphefumlelwa ngokukhawuleza kunye. Kulo mhlaba, iingxabano zivame ukuphakama. Kodwa ke, ukuba abantu ababini abanesimo esifanayo, akulula ukuhlala nabo kwintsapho. Ukuba bobabini abahambelani, ngoko ke akukho bani ukwenza izigqibo, izinto zihlala zingaphendululwa, iingxaki ziqokelela njengebhola lebhola. Ukuba zombini amaqabane azinkokheli, ngoko imeko ayilula. Wonke umntu uya kulwa nobukhokeli, akayi kunika ingxaki ekuxazululeni imiba, akayi kukunyamezela ukungathobeli.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokukrazula le mibuzo, uze uze ubuze umhlobo wakho ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni uyakuthanda. Kodwa impendulo ayinelanga ngokwaneleyo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, iqabane liza kuqala ukuluhlu iimpawu ezithile zangaphandle okanye iimpawu zobuntu. Umzekelo, inkwenkwe yakho inokuthi: "Uhle kakhulu, ujabule, ungafani nabanye abantu, njl.". Indoda endala, ukuba kukho into ecinga ukuba yithetha, yinto efana nale: "Unomdla, unomtsalane, unothando, uqobo, njl.". Qaphela ukuba oku kuya kuba ngumgangatho "oqhelekileyo" weempawu eziheha amadoda kumabhinqa, kunye nabasetyhini kumadoda.
Ngamanye amaxesha impendulo enjalo iya kubonakala ifana neemplate enye kunokholo. Kodwa emva koko, kwinqanaba elincinane, sithandwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, intombazana ngokukhawuleza yathandana nendoda ngokuphindwe kabini. Kutheni kwenzeka oku? Unokuba nayiphi na into efanelekileyo, kodwa yonke loo nto yayingenxa yokuba intombazana yayakhula ngaphandle koyise kwaye ingacingi ukuba ifuna umntu onokukwazi ukuyixhasa, inokuzikhusela eya kumkhupha ngenxa yokuphila kwayo. Kwesinye, mhlawumbi ukuba uyise ka-ntombazana wayekho, kodwa ubuhlobo naye abuzange bongeze. Oku kuchaphazela kwixesha elizayo ukhetho lomlingani omdala kunabo.
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu ekuqaleni uthabatheke ukukhathazeka aze abe nesihe kuye. Ukhetha umlingane okhohlakeleyo oya kuhlala emthobela aze amcinezele. Yingakho iintlobo ezithile zabasetyhini zinokunyamezela ukubetha kunye nokukhohliswa kwendoda egxilile, okanye umntu angakhetha abafazi abanamandla kunye nokuzingca, ngokulandelayo "phantsi kwezithende zabo". Ngelo xesha, bonke bathandana ngokunyanisekileyo.
Uthando kunye "nesiphakamiso sokuzenzekelayo"
Njengomntwana, sonke sasifanekisela ngomfuziselo wethu wesibini. Ngaphezu koko, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuvala amehlo ethu, sele sibone ngokucacileyo indlela abasithandayo ngayo, indlela abasikhathalelayo ngayo, sibone ngokucacileyo umtshato wabo omhle, siphupha ngokuzalwa kwabantwana. Kukholelwa ukuba ngaba abo bafazi abaye bakwazi ukususela ebuntwaneni ukuba benze imodeli ecacileyo (ngokuqinisekileyo enobomi) yobomi babo abadala, ngelixesha elizayo lulo hlobo lobomi abafumanayo. Kubonakala ukuba uthando lunokucingelwa. Siyazivuselela kakhulu ngekamva lethu elifanelekileyo lokuba lidityaniswe nathi ngokweminyaka. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha iinkcukacha azihambelani, kodwa isitshixo asihlali singatshintshi. Abafazi abanjalo bahlala bevuya emtshatweni, kwiintsapho ezinjalo, amaqabane amthandana ngokuzimela.
Kwenzeka kwaye ngoko, umzekelo, xa intombazana ebomini bakhe iphupha ukudibana nendoda ecebileyo, eyayiza kuhlamba izipho ezixabisekileyo, iingubo ezifake imfashini, zihambe kunye nohambo lwakhe lwehlabathi. Xa ekhula, udibana nomntu onjalo endleleni. Ufanelekile, usomashishini kwaye akayikukratshi. Ngoko, uya kuthandana. Sekucacile kakade oko kuza kuba yinzuzo enkulu yintombazana leyo. Nangona kunjalo, akudingeki ukuba umgwebe ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yemali. Njengomntu uya kumthanda ngokukrakra, ngokwenene. Ngenxa yokuba loo mandla okuzimela kwakhe. Enyanisweni, ukuba kungengenxa yeemeko zakhe zezemali, wayengafuni ukuza kuye "umgangatho wabantwana." Indoda enjalo yayingayi kuba yingqiqo, ilukhuni kwaye imthobele, kuba engayi kuba nomgangatho oyisiseko.
Sisoloko sithi: "Uthando lubi ...". Nangona kunjalo, uthando aluyinto engenangqiqo njengoko kubonakala ngathi - abantu bathandana ngesizathu. Yonke into inokuthi, ukuba ifunwa, yifumane ingcaciso yayo. Enyanisweni, kutheni? Kungcono ukuthanda ngaphandle kokujonga emva nangenhliziyo evulekile.