Siyakhetha, bayasikhetha
Ngubani "iigundane ezimpunga"? Lawa maantombazana angakhange aphume, aholele indlela ephilileyo kunye nokuqhelekileyo yobomi. Ngako oko, izicelo zabo ziphinde ziphephe ukulula kunye nokuqhelekileyo. Abayidingi umfana oza kucaphula i-Kant, ukugijimela kwiTibet kwaye ugxume i-sparachute. Ezi ntombazana zanele ukuba wayeqhelekileyo, wanceda intsapho kwaye akazange amcaphukise. Ngokwemvelo, amadoda aqhelekileyo, angenayo iitalente ezizodwa kunye neyona nto engabonakaliyo into engavamile ebomini bethu, zininzi. Kwaye yonke imidlalo ye-lady-beauty-extreme extreme once once ijongene ngqo nala madoda, kwaye yayibonisa umdla kuye. Kodwa yena wayenomsindo kakhulu ngendoda enjalo. Wayengazange abe nolwalamano oluthile lokomoya naye. Kwaye amantombazana afuna ukuphila ubomi obuqaqambileyo kwaye abe noxolo olujulile lwangaphakathi, bajonge kumaqabane abo kungekhona nje nje, ubaba kubantwana kunye nomntu onesondlo. Bafuna umphefumlo wabo, umntu okhethekileyo ongeke abe nexhala kunye naye. Intombazana enje ihamba yindoda ebomini yokulinganiswa kunye neyodwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, la majazana ahlelwa ngamadoda, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba azinqwenela ngobuhle okanye isimo. Hayi, umqathango oyintloko wokukhetha yinto "yokuba kufuneka ndibe nomdla kuye." Le nto yintokazi enzima ukufumana abafana kunye nabo abayi kuba nzima. Bahlala ixesha elide kwaye bonyamekela ukhetha iqabane, ukuze bangatshintshi ubuhlobo obungenanto. Ezi ntombazana zilungele ukuba zodwa kunezinye. Oko kukuthi, umntu othile ovela kwinqanaba elithi "ngubani owonakalisayo" ngabayeni kunye nooyise abalungileyo. Kodwa kuye ayinelanga ngokwanelisayo. Le ntombazana enomfana onjalo ayinanto yokuthetha ngayo. Kwaye aba bafazi bahlala befuna iingxoxo ezithakazelisayo. Ngaphandle kokuthetha ngemicimbi ephakamileyo, abasetyhini basasa. Abakwazi ukwaneliswa nokubukela kweTV evamile. Badinga okungakumbi, into eninzi abantu abanako ukuyenza. Kungenxa yoko bachitha ixesha elide lokukhetha abantu. Yiza, ukusuka kwicala kunokubonakala ngathi akukho mntu ubeka ingqalelo entombazana enjalo. Akunjalo nhlobo. Ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza "otshivayut" abantu abatsha abangenathandeki kubo, ukuba abantu abajikelezileyo abaziqaphele ukuba bazame ukuqhagamshelana nelo nkosikazi. Intombazana enjalo ingcono kwi-yoga, ifunda inombhalo ekhoyo, okanye ibhala inkondlo kunokuchitha ixesha layo kumntu ongenomdla naye.
Ngendlela, ungakhohlwa ukuba amadoda amaninzi ayesaba abafazi abanjalo. Ukujonga ubuninzi babo beminqweno, iiminqweno namaphupha, abafana ngokwabo baqala ukukhubeka phambi kwala mabhinqa. Bayesaba ukuba baya kukhwela nje ulwalamano olunjalo, kuba loo ntokazi isoloko ifuna ukuba yingqiqo, ukudala, ukufunda kakuhle, umthombo kunye neengcamango ezithile kwaye ungacineki. Ngoko ke, abafana banquma ukuba kubo ubomi obunjalo bunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye baye kwicala. Nangona kubunzulu bomphefumlo abaninzi banjengabantombazana abakhethekileyo nabangabonakaliyo. Kodwa endaweni yokukhetha umntu othanda kakhulu, abafana banquma ukudibanisa ubomi babo kunye ne "grey grey". Ewe, loo nto intombazana ilula. Zifuna kakhulu kakhulu, zikhokelela ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nobunzima. Ngabo, unokuhlala phambi kweTV ngeeyure kwaye udlala imidlalo yekhompyutheni, ngaphandle kokuxhatshaza i-gyrus yakho okanye i-fantasy. Ngamantombazana anjalo kukhululekile kakhulu ukwakha intsapho. Kwaye amadoda amaninzi adinga uku thuthuzelwa. Ziyabonakala ziqondakala, nangona ngokwenene aba bantu bavame ukuvaliwe. Abayithandi ukuthetha okukhulu kunye nokulwa. Kulula ukuba bahlale bathule kunokuqala ukucacisa ubuhlobo. Bathi, njengamanye amantombazana, bacinga ukuba umntu uyaziqonda ngaphandle kwamagama, kodwa akasoze athetha kwaye uya kuthula ekuphumeni kunokuba enze imeko engqubanayo.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kungenakubuhlungu ukuvuma, amadoda amaninzi akwazi ukwesaba. Bayika ubunzima obunokuvela kubasetyhini abanengcamango yabo kwaye bajonga ngayo yonke imeko. Ukususela kwingcamango yokuba inkokheli inokugxeka iimbono zabo, musa ukuvuma ukuzithatha, kwaye njalo njalo, abafana baxhamla nje. Bafuna ukuzibhokoxa ngokweziqingatha zabo, kwaye bahlale behlalutya kwaye baziphucule ngokwabo ukuba bakwazi ukuthetha ngokulingana ngokulinganayo. Akunjalo, abafana banamhlanje banokuzilungiselela ukuhamba. Kulula ukuba baxelele ubomi kumntu oya kuhlala ethule okanye avumelane nayo yonke into. Lezi "iigundane ezimpunga". Akunakwenzeka ukuba bangene endleleni yophuhliso lwangaphakathi, banomdla kwinto engavamile kwaye njalo. Ngaphezu koko, aba ntombazana abanakubizwa ngokuba kubi. Zikulungele, zinobubele, ezoqoqosho. Ewe, kunye nobomi obuhlala ngabahlakaniphileyo, abasetyhini abangqongqo, abafazi abanjalo abayinto emangalisayo. Yingakho amadoda athathwe kakhulu. Emva kokukhangela intombazana enokuthobekileyo neyithobekileyo, lo mfana uhlala enethemba lokuba akayi kwenza into enqabileyo, akayi kunikwenza into ephosakeleyo kwaye akayi kuba nomdla kumntu onobuqili, onokudala kwaye onomdla kunokhethiweyo wakhe. Ngamantombazana anjalo, amadoda akasoze afune ukuhlanganisa. Bahlala kwimeko ekhululekile, ubomi obuqhelekileyo be-millionaire bavuya. Bavuyiswa ngokuthanda kwabo, kuba batshata bazala abantwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo, la ma ntombazana ayifuni. Ngoko wonke umntu ubonwabile kwaye unwabile, yinto nje yobomi obungafanelanga abafazi abafuna ukuthatha yonke into, kunokuba banelisekile ngamanani.
Ukuba awuthuli
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kutheni abantu abathulile bashada ngokukhawuleza, kwaye awukho, kwaye uzama ukufumanisa uhlobo oluthile lokunciphisa - awukwazi ukwenza. Wonke umntu uphila ubomi bakhe. Awuyi kuhlala nje "njengegundane elimnyama". Ngoko ke, ungazithobeli ngokwakho amehlo. Oku akusiyo izicelo zakho ezilukhunileyo, aba bantu abalula banesilumko kwaye abafuni ukwenza nantoni na. Kwaye awudingi ukuba ulingane nesininzi, ngenxa yokuba ungakaze ube yimpunga, ngoko ungabi yinto ngoku. Hlala ubomi obumnandi, nandipha ubomi bakho, kwaye undikholelwe, ngelinye ilanga uya kudibana nendoda eya kubelana nawe kunye nokufuna ukuphila ubomi obusondeleyo. Kwaye nangona kungenjalo, yenza oko uphuphayo kwaye ungakhathazeki. Ukuhlala njengeninzi, akuthethi ukuba uphile ngokufanelekileyo.