Iimpawu ezisixhenxe ezingasithandi

Ngaba ukhathazekile ngekamva lakho lamano? Ngaba unakho ukungathandabuzeki? Enyanisweni, kunzima ukudibanisa kunye noshintsho kwisenzo sakho sothando, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngokuthe ngqo malunga nethuba lobudlelwane obusondeleyo, hlaziya olu luhlu kwaye ngokuhlalutya imiqondiso kunye neengcinga zeRoom yakho epholile yenza uluvo olucacileyo malunga nekamva langempela lokuphila kwakho.
1. Akukho mvume kunye neentlawulo
Ukuba umhlobo wakho akasayi kubonisa umfanekiso wesimo esinamandla ebuhlotsheni bakho kwaye uthatha unomlingani olinganayo, awunikanga unyango oluluncedo kakhulu, ukujonga kwangaphambili kwindoda enamandla ngenxa yabuthathaka kuye kwanyamalala, oko kuthetha ukuba awusayi kukhwaza. Akasacingi kuwe njengowona nto ibaluleke kakhulu "incinane" ebomini bakhe. Eyona nto, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba yintsebenziswano yezoshishino, apho kungekho ndawo yokuthanda khona.

2. Eminye yemikhwa yakho ayiphinde imcasule.
Kukho indlela enkulu yokuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liye lenza unomdla kuwe. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba nemikhwa yakho enomsindo ngoku "iya kwi-bulb", ke oku kuluphawu olucacileyo lokuba ubuhlobo bakho obuhle abuyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Ukungabi nomdla omnye komnye ngenye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu ezonakalisa ubomi obudibeneyo.

3. Unomdla kakhulu malunga nokubonakala kwakhe
Ukuba umhlobo wakho waphosa umdlalo wakhe owuthandayo ngeli xesha, kwaye ngoku waqala ukuya kwidlovini kwaye wayekhathalele ngokubonakala kwakhe, oku kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukumnceda umntu. Kubuhlungu ukuvuma ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luye lwavalwa.

4. Amazwi amnene ayanyamalala kwiintetho zefoni
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyeka ukubiza, "alixhomeki" nawe iiyure kwifowuni, kwiintetho ngefowuni, amazwi amnandi njengam "othandekayo wam" okanye nento encinane "othandekayo wam" aphelile, oku kungumqondiso wokulumkisa ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ezinzulu kwindawo ethile, ngoko kwenye inombolo yefowuni, kodwa kungekhona kwinombolo yakho yefowuni. Njengoko abafana besithi, "uthando aluhlali apha".

5. Udibana nabahlobo ngaphandle kwakho
Abafana abalahlekelwa ngumdla kumantombazana abo, ngokuya kucwangcisa nayiphi na imisebenzi kunye nabahlobo. Ukusebenzisa ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe, ubukho bakho kwimibutho kunye nabahlobo bubunzima kakhulu - oku kuluphawu olucacileyo lokuba iimvakalelo sele zikhulile, ukuba uyamkhathaza, kwaye unqwenela ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha. Umele uthethe ngokuthe ngqo okanye uzame ukuphefumula ubomi ekudlelaneni kwakho.

6. Akasencwadini evulekile
Umhlobo wakho waqala ukulibala ukuthetha malunga nosuku lwakhe oludlulileyo, wayeka ukuxelela amabali amnandi kwizinto ezenzeka kuye namhlanje. Eneneni yeyona impawu ayifuni ukuba yincwadi evulelekileyo kuwe. Mhlawumbi unento yokubamba, kukho into yokufihla okanye ukhathele ukuthetha nawe. Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko unokwenza lula ukuba utshintsho olunjalo kwihambo yakhe. Hlaziya ngokugqithisileyo ngakumbi, yenza izigqibo kuwe.

7. Wayexakeke kakhulu ukuphendula iimfowuni zakho
Amadoda aya kuhlala efumana izizathu eziliwaka zokuguqula ukungathandeki kwabo. Esinye sazo sisitatimende malunga nokugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo, ngenxa yokuba akukho naliphi ixesha lokuphendula yakho umnxeba okanye umyalezo wombhalo. Ukuba oku kwenzeka njalo kwaye ibe yinkqubo, kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuhamba ingxoxo engqinileyo ukuze ucacise ukuba ngaba unako ixesha elingenamntu kwaye ufuna uncedo lwakho okanye uqinisekise ukuba akasenalo inxaxheba kulwalamano lwakho.