Kuthekani ukuba ulwalamano lwam nomntu othandekayo luphukile?

Kutheni uthando luyalala? Kutheni ufuna ukuhamba? Yintoni enokuyenza xa ulwalamano nomntu othandekayo luphukile? Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba sele ichithekile? Ungasinda njani le ntlekele?

Le mibuzo ixhala ininzi, amawaka okanye izigidi zamantombazana, amantombazana, amabhinqa kuwo wonke umhlaba.

Wayengomnye wabo. Yonke yaqala njengomntu wonke, ngokubhekiselele kwiskripthi somdabu wendalo: Okokuqala kwakukho uthando ... Akunjalo nje ukuthanda, kodwa "THANDA" ngencwadi enkulu. Omnye abhala ngawo iivesi kwaye ubhale kwiincwadi. Uvakalelo olukhulu, oluhle olungakhange lubonakale luphela. Ivakalelo ezinika imiphefumlo yemizwa kunye namava amnandi. Kwaye kwakubonakala ngathi nguye oyingqayizivele kwaye oyingqayizivele, intanda ethandekayo, owayekade ekhangela ixesha elide kwaye ekugqibeleni wafumana. Kwaye ngoku ubomi obunzima, bemihla ngemihla bufanele bube yinto yefilosofi ...

Kodwa, ngelanga, yonke into ayilula. Xa kudlula ixesha, yonke into yayitshintshile. Le ngqimba yaphela ukuba yimibalabala, imifanekiso yaphela, kwaye imbono yavela ukuba isiphelo esonwabileyo asiyi kuba ...

Ngenye imini, ngelixa ehleli ngaphandle kwefestile ngobusuku obusika obubusika, waphupha emakhasini akhe adlulileyo kwaye wakhumbula ngezinyembezi emehlweni akhe ukuba konke kwaqala njani: Wayebukeka ngothando oluncinane kwinkwenkwe waza wamphulaphula ngento yonke. Wamncoma ngamanconywa, kwaye kwakungekho ukuphosa ngamazwi akhe. Wayemjonga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba nguyena mhle, unona mhle kunabo bonke kwaye unomdla kakhulu. Yaye yonke iminithi eyayichithwa nomntu owayithandayo yayibonakala ingunaphakade, kwaye ndandinqwenela ukuba olu dlelwane aluzange lugwebe. Kwaye lo mthando wawungekho linye. Yaye yonke into, ncinane kakhulu, ayizange iphendulwe. Umfana wakhe oyintandokazi wamthoba.

Kuphi konke oku kuphelile khona? Yaye yintoni e seleyo? Akukho ziqhagamshelwano ezide, ezixhamlayo, akukho ukuqonda kunye kunye nokuthembela. Ayikho into emangalisayo engamangalisa, iimpawu ezingabonakaliyo kunye nekhaya liye laphulwa yinduduzo efanayo. Ubomi bakhe bonke beyimfihlelo kuye, isisombululo esiphezu kwesikrini sokungakhathaleli.

Ulwalamano lwakho nothando lwakho lwahlukana. Kwaye kwakungeke kwenzeke ukulinda, kungenjalo bekuza kukhawuleza ukulungisa into kamva. Imibuzo emininzi yamphazamisa, kwaye kwakukho ixesha elincinane lokwenza izigqibo ...

Kufuneka ujongane nayo yonke imiba ngokulandelelana. Kwaye ke, ubudlelwane behlile, kwaye ezinyangeni zokugqibela zobomi zaza zaza zafika kwi-tartaras. Kodwa kutheni yonke into yahlangana kunye? Yintoni eyenziwe engalunganga ngaphambili? Mhlawumbi, iimvakalelo ziye zacima, uthando luye lwadlula, kwaye luthando kwaye akunjalo? Ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umntu ongeyombono ephikisiwe ngamanye amaqhinga, kwaye ngoku, ekufumaneni ukuba uyinyani, ufuna ukubaleka, mhlawumbi akufanele ummbambe? Emva koko, akukho mntu ufanelekile iinyembezi zeentombazana kwaye zonke iintombazana zidinga umntu othembekileyo, onokwethenjelwa, kungekhona umgxeki. Masibe nesigqibo: mhlawumbi, ubudlelwane nomfana othandekayo bahlukana ngenxa yokuba wayengathandanga ngokwaneleyo, okanye akwanele ukuthanda. Musa ukudibanisa uthando ngothando kwaye kufuneka uzenzele isigqibo sakho kanye kunye, nokuba ngaba umntu ufanelekile ukubandezeleka kwakho nokuba ufuna ukubuyisela yonke into.

Ukuba ulwalamano lubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ufuna ukuwagcina, siya kuhlangabezana nomnye umbuzo: Kuthekani ukuba ubuhlobo nomntu othandekayo buphukile?

Ingxaki yakhe yayikuthi: wayefuna ukugcina ubudlelwane kunye nomfana, abuyisele yonke indawo kwindawo yaso yokuqala, kwaye wenza konke okulungileyo:

Okokuqala, wayefuna ukuzola, uphumule. Ngexesha elinjalo kunzima ukuhlala yedwa, ngoko kukulungele ukubuyela kumhlobo, isazi sengqondo, umbingeleli ... Ewe kunoma ubani! Kuphela ukubiza okanye ukukhala konke okubuhlungu. Ngoku ukuba ufumene uxolo, lixesha lokuzicoca, ukuhlalutya imeko, ukufumana iimpazamo. Simele siqonde ukuba idlulileyo ayikwazi ukutshintshwa. Umele uyilibale (nangona kunzima), shiya kwiingcamango ezidlulileyo malunga nendlela esandul 'ulwalamano kunye nomfana ayemthanda kakhulu kangaka, sele uphendule iphepha uze uqale kwakhona.

Kwaye, into entsha, ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ibe bhetele kunaphambili ...

Okokuqala, wayezifundele ngokucophelela waza waqonda oko kwatshintshile kuye. Ukuzithemba kuye kwaphela, okanye izinga layo liye lahla kakhulu. Emva koko waqala ukucinga kwakhona isizathu sokuba uyamthanda kakhulu. (Mhlawumbi izenzo ezinjalo zibonakala ziyi-flagellation nje, kodwa ziqinisekisiwe ukuba abafana bafuna uthando nabo baziyo ukuziqonda, baqonde iimpazamo zabo nokuzilawula ngokufanelekileyo.) Injongo yile ilandelayo: ukuguqula kwaye ube ngumntu onokuzithemba kunye nentombazana elawulayo. Ukuze yonke into isebenze njengoko yayinjongo, yayidinga umthombo ontle. Ngaphambili, babengumfana, kodwa ngoku banokuba into elula kwaye ifikelelekayo (ukutya, izimonyo, iimpahla, ukuzizonwabisa), okuvuyisa kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwakufuneka azalise ubomi bakhe ngokukhanya kunye novuyo, funyanwa kuyo yonke into ejikelezileyo.

Kwaye ngomzuzwana xa wayexakeke kunye nolonwabo lobomi kunye nolonwabo lobomi, ubuhlobo obudlulileyo bubuyile. Umfana oyintandokazi waqonda ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene. Uyamthanda ukuhleka kwakhe xa ehlala entle, uthanda iinyembezi, ukuba uyavuya, kwaye uyayika ukuba uya kumnika umntu ovakalelwa. Wayeqonda ukuba kwakunzima kangakanani ukuba yedwa kwaye ulahlekelwe uthando. Ukuze uyisindise, kufuneka uhlambe into ethile, wenze into ethile, wenze izigqibo ezinzima, uthathe ingozi. Emva koko, njengoko omnye wathi:

"Nayiphi na ubudlelwane obunzima njengeglasi, kodwa siqala ukuyiqonda kuphela xa silahlekelwa lo buhlobo. Kuze kube ngolu nqanaba, sibona kwaye sinomuva ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuba nzima kwaye ukuwa kwabo kusondele. Kodwa ngokusoloko siqhubeka singenzi nto. "Kodwa ngeze! Kuyinto engekho nto ekhokelela ekuphumeleleni.