Ukuba indoda nomfazi bayamzondana, mhlawumbi kwakukho uthando phakathi kwabo, kuba akukho ntlonipho ngaphandle kothando kunye nangoko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uthando lunokuthatha ngaphandle kwendawo - ekuqalekeni, ngoko nenzondo akufani noko. Ngendlela, ngokukhawuleza ndifuna ukuphawula ukuba uthando nothando aluchasani, okuchasene nale miva emibini kukungakhathaleli. Okokuthi, xa singakhange sikhathalele ukuba umntu uhamba njani, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakhe. Ibhinqa elithile umntu ongenomdla kuyo akayi kumthiya, kwaye kuyafana nendoda engathandi intombazana ethile.
Abantu bangokwemvelo "baqulunqwe" ukuphatha abo abagulayo, novelwano novelwano, kodwa kwabo banento yonke kakuhle, abanalo into esingenakuyifumana - inzondo nomona. Ukuba indoda kunye nomfazi bayamzondana, isizathu sokuba le nto ingaba nomona, ukuhlukana, kufutshane, kubangelwa uthando abachaphazelekayo. Kodwa nangona iimvakalelo esizizama ukuzibulala zona, zisisondeza ngaphakathi, singakwazi ukusuka entliziyweni. Ngoku khawucinge ngemeko apho intombazana ithandana nomfana, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ayikwazi ukuyivuma, kwaye umfana uyayithanda intombazana efanayo, kodwa, kwakhona, ngesizathu esithile akakwazi ukwenza isinyathelo phambili. Kwaye xa besethetha esidlangalaleni, njengabahlobo okanye abaqhelana nabo. Kodwa ngoku kuza ixesha apho omnye kwesi sibini eshathele ukulinda, kwaye uqala inveli. Masithi ukuba kwimeko yethu loo mfana wathola enye intombazana. Kwaye lowo uyamthandayo, uqala ukuzonda into entsha, ngokwemvelo, inzondelelo kunye nomntu omncinane. Umfana uvakalelwa ngolo hlobo ngenxa yokuba intombazana, ixolisa, "inqabileyo," kwaye ngoku imphatha njengotshaba olufungelweyo.
"Ukuba ubani ucinga ukuba into ayithandayo unomntu olwalamano olufanayo okanye olusondeleyo lobuhlobo, abenabo bodwa, ngoko uyabanjelwa inzondo ngenxa yento abayithandayo kunye nomona ngale ndlela ..." - wabhala xa I-Spinoza. Ukuba kucacile, ndiya kuzisa imeko: udibana nomfana, kodwa uyingxenye, kwaye uhamba kwenye. Ucinga ukuba enye, enye, ngoku kumanga aze ammbambe, njengokuba uke wamkela. Ngokwemvelo, awukhathazi ngeemvakalelo ezinjalo, kwaye entliziyweni yakho, inzondo yowokuqala nomona - intombi yakhe yangempela. Kwaye inamandla ngakumbi le nzondo, unamandla ngakumbi kumthandayo lo mntu. Le mvakalelo yendalo kwaye ilungile, ngoko ungaba neentloni ngabo, ukuba, uThixo akwenzanga, le nto yenzeke kuwe. Umoya olunjalo lukhuni, kodwa ubomi buyaqhubeka, kwaye inzondo kunye nomona kuya kudlulayo, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, musa ukuxhoxiswa kubo kwaye ucasule ababenecala, kodwa zama ukudala ubudlelwane obutsha nomntu oya kuba ngumfanelekile ngokwenene. Kuba yonke into embi, ekugqibeleni, iyabuyela kuthi.
Kukho iimeko ozithandayo, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ucinga ukuba umntu uyakuzonda. Ngaba uyazi ukuba uya kuziva ntoni? Okumangalisa kukuba, ngoko uya kumthanda kwaye uyamthiya ngexesha elifanayo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka udibanise nomthandi kwaye ufumane ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyakuvavanya. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba neentloni kuwe, kodwa ukholwe kum, kulunge ngakumbi kwaye kunqabile kunokuba kunqabile, xa uvakalelwa uthando kunye nomsindo.
Siyayithiya ngakumbi xa sithandwa, kwaye sinyangwa ngothando. Xa, ukuba umntu uyamthiya umfazi kwaye umfazi uyazi malunga nalo, ngoko uqala ukumcaphukisa nangakumbi, kwaye ngokufanayo. Kodwa, njengoko kuyaziwa, ukususela ekuthandweni kuya kwenzondo inye, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abade bexineke bebengakwazi, bemezela bonke ngomtshato wabo. Yaye olu hlobo luthando, oluvela kwintlondi, kwimeko ezininzi lunamandla ngakumbi kunokuba kungekho nto ingathandabuzekiyo. Kwiintlobo ezinjalo, isithandwa sivame ukuxhalaba, azinakulinganiswa, kodwa eqaqambileyo, ngokumangalisa nokuba nomona kwabanye.
Uyazi, uthando nokuzonda zivakalelwa kakhulu, kodwa unokuzijonga kuphela. Ukunyaniseka, mna ngokwenene andithandi igama elithi "thiyile", kuba ndidibene nokubi, okanye into. Kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumntu ongu-altruist kunye nomntu, nangona ukuba kunzima kunethuba lethu. Mhlawumbi uya kuhleka, kodwa ndivuma - ndiyakholelwa kwi karma kunye nehlabathi lokuba kubalulekile ukwenza okulungileyo, kuphela ukuthanda wonke umntu kunye nayo yonke into. Emva koko kuphila lula, kwaye kukho iingxaki ezimbalwa. Ngokukodwa, ngo-2012 usempumleni, awukwazi ukuba kwenzekani. Ewe, ukuba uziva unenzondelelo kumntu, ke uzame ukutshintsha, unike ukukhululwa kwemvakalelo embi-ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, ukuthenga, ukwenza imisebenzi yokutya, okanye ngaphezulu koko. Ngokuqinisekileyo kunenzuzo kuwe kunokuba uhlale ekhaya uze utyhafile. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa ufika nesicwangciso sokuphindezela nokukhubekisa, ungaboni nantoni na ejikelezayo, emva kokuvela kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini, kwaye awuyi kubona?
Imvakalelo engalunganga, okokuqala, iyonakalisa ubomi bethu, ingasivumeli ukuba sixoxe ngokucacileyo kwaye siyibone into eyenzekayo ngaphandle kwethu. Ngoko-ke hlakani, thandani abantu, kodwa musa ukuzonda, kwaye baya kufikelela kuwe.