Ukuba kuyinkcubeko yokudibanisa ubuhlobo bamadoda kunye nento ehloniphekileyo, ethembekileyo neyomeleleyo, ubuhlobo besifazane njengolu hlobo aluvunyelwa ngabaninzi. Ngaphezu koko, amanye amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abakholelwa kwimeko enokwenzeka.
Nangona kunjalo, kusekho, nangona oku akude kube yinto esazijwayele ukubonisa ubungane. Nabani na oya kuthi umhlobo akafani nomhlobo, kwaye uya kulungile. Emva koko, umzekelo, amagama athi "ukwenza abahlobo" kunye "nokwenza abahlobo" nawo anentsingiselo eyahlukileyo: owokuqala ungowesigxina, kwaye okwesibini unesigxina. Ngoko umhlobo - ngokuqhelekileyo okwesikhashana, kunye nomhlobo-ubomi.
Kodwa umntu oqinisekileyo ukuba intombazana, umfazi akakwazi ukuba ngumhlobo, uphinde uphoswe. Mhlawumbi u kwenene. Nangona kunjalo, kungekhona wonke umntu, ihlabathi elikujikelezayo lincinci kwaye liyinkimbinkimbi, zikhona izilingo ezininzi, ezinokungaqiniseki kunye neengqondo zabasetyhini uhlobo. Yintoni engamthintiyo, yintoni engatshintshi isimo sengqondo, isimo sengqondo! Kodwa ingakumbi impembelelo enamandla kwangoko kwinto yonke kwaye wonke umntu unikwa ngemali. Ihlabathi lonke liyakhathazwa ngumsebenzi wokuhlala uphuhliso lwezemali, imeko efanelekileyo yemali. Kwaye oku kunokwakheka kunamandla, okunokukunqoba kuphela ezimbalwa. Ukunqwenela izinto eziphathekayo eziqhawule umtshato ngaphandle kweentsapho eziliwaka, ukutshabalalisa ukungathandanga kweentlobo ezilishumi. Ziziphi iindlela ezizimeleyo ngabahlobo besifazane kunye neemeko zemali?
Ingakanani umfazi ozimeleyo angaba? Enyanisweni, ngokwenene nantoni na ngaphandle komntu ozimeleyo? Kwinqanaba elithile, ewe, unako, ukuba unomsebenzi ohlawule kakhulu, imoto yakhe, indlu yakhe okanye indlu. Kodwa ezi zinto zizinto ezingayi kuthetha, abayi kuzinza, abayi kucebisa. Kwaye ubomi bungaqinisekanga kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo buba buhlungu, ukufaka indawo kunye nokunyameka, kubeka phambi kokhetho olungalinganiyo. Kwaye ke kuyimfuneko ukuba kukho umntu osondeleyo oya kuphulaphula aze aqonde, azwele kwaye akhuthaze, ancede aze ahambe! Umyeni? Akayi kuhlala eqonda kwaye aqonde amava amabhinqa , useyindoda. Umama? Awuyi kumxelela yonke into, awuyi kufuna ukumcaphukisa, kwaye unokuhlala kude kakhulu ukuze aphume kwaye akhale ehlombe lakhe. Apha kwezi zihlandlo kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ubuhlobo besetyhini - nje into oyifunayo.
Unamandla kunene, mhlawumbi, xa intombazana abahlobo bekhulile kunye, baye bazana ngokususela ebuntwaneni. Ubuhlobo obunjalo, njengomthetho, akukho nto inesabisayo-akukho mmahluko kwimeko yezemali, okanye ukwahlukana kwemida. Kuhle kakhulu, ukuba ubomi bunike umhlobo wokwenene owaziyo, njengaye! Umhlobo onokuthetha, engesabi nto, engacokanga amagama, ekhala, ekwabelaneni, eyazi ukuba baya kukuphulaphula, ukuqonda kakuhle, unike iingcebiso kunye nenkxaso. Kubuhlungu kukuba bonke abantu abanenhlanhla ...
Emva kwakho konke, kaninzi kangakanani ukukhusekisa nokuncinci ngakumbi: ulonwabo lubonakalisa ubudlelwane, izinto eziphathekayo zizisa phezulu, apho ongenakukwazi ukubona umngane ongaphumelelanga wobuntwaneni. Okanye ngandlela-thile - umhlobo wezolo usalibale ngawe, imali, uhambo olude, izinto ezibizayo zanyusa intloko yakhe, zamthabatha zaza zavalwa kwinqanaba legolide. Kwaye nangona imeko yongxamiseko, kungekhona wonke umntu oya kucela uncedo lwezezimali kumhlobo. Nje ngokuba akusiyo wonke umntu olungele ukukunceda.
Ukongezelela, ukuba isithuba sokuqhawula intombi kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuchuma, kwavela ukuvavanya kwenzalo kunye nokuzithiba, kwakhona, akunakunqanda konke. Esinye isiqheno asivumeli ukuba sixolelane, ukuba intombi iphumelele kwaye inokukwazi ukufumana yonke into, kwaye ngelo xesha ayifanelekanga kumvuzo. Omnye, ngokuchaseneyo, uthanda ukuba ngumhlobo onokuxhamla kunye nabahlobo bokuhlamba izipho, kwaye kulungile ukuba aba bahlobo bangabonakali.
Kodwa umfanekiso ogqithisileyo udlalwa ngumtshato wesinye intombi kunye nesimo somama omnye omnye. Ubunene kangakanani, uthando nothando, inyaniso yokwenene imfuneko yokuba owesifazane angabi nomona, kungekhona ukuthelekisa ubuchule bakhe kunye nokusilela kwintombi enentloni! Njengoko ubomi bubonakalisa, kungekhona imeko yezemali, kodwa lo mmahluko ngowona mnye wecala lokuqhekeka kobudlelwano bobuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini. Yonke into onokuyixolela umhlobo, nayo yonke into eyamkelekileyo, ngaphandle kwentsapho yakhe yolonwabo.
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