Ubudlelwane obude ngaphambi komtshato, bahlala becacile ngakumbi, banelisekile ngokuthandana. Ngethuba leempembelelo zeemvakalelo ezinjalo, isiqingatha kwisibini sibonisana kuphela ngezinto ezintle zobuntu babo, ngelixa zenza izinto ezinokubongwa ngamehlo omthandayo. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ungaboni iziphene, zombini udidi kunye nokuziphatha. Yaye ukuba kukho iziphoso eziye zaphawulwa, ngoko zizama ukulinganisa nesincinci esincinci. Kodwa, nantoni na into ongayithethayo, yile mpazamo ye-Ishsyan, kwixesha elizayo, emva komtshato, kuya kufuneka kuxolelane.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ngobudlelwane, kubalulekile ukugxininisa kuphela iingenelo kunye nokungahambi kakuhle, kodwa isimo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kuwe ngokubanzi, ukuhlonipha, ukuhlonipha, kuthathwa ngoluvo lwakho. Icala lokuphila ngecala, ecaleni, ukungaphumeleli kunye neempawu ezimbi zomlingani zicaca ngakumbi. Kwaye iindawo ezintle ziguquka ngokuthe ngqo kwinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ungaboni.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba abathandi abakucingi ngeentloko zabo, kodwa "ngentliziyo". Yaye yonke into yokuba iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zifihla ingqondo ngengubo, okwenza ukhange amehlo ehlabathini ahluke ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa, kufuneka kuphawulwe ukuba uthando lunemiba yalo emihle. Inyaniso kukuba ukuba enamandla ngokwaneleyo, iya kuba sisiseko sokuva komvakalelo omkhulu kunye oqinileyo, uthando lokwenene, ukubonga ukuba ungaphila kwaye unobunzima obomi.
Kukho ukungaqondi kakuhle ngokubanzi ukuba umntu, olungile, ufudumala kwaye unemihlali kuwe, uya kuba yindawo efanelekileyo ye-satellite. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba xa abantu babini bekhulisana, bajonga kwinqanaba elifanayo kwizinto, baneempawu ezithile zokuphila ezifanayo. Emva kwexesha elithile badlala umtshato, bayakha ubomi bentsapho edibeneyo, kodwa kuvela ukuba yonke into ayilula. Ngenxa yoko, kubonakala ukuba abantu bahluke ngokwenene, kwaye kunzima ukuhlala kunye. Ukuba kunjalo, akukho ndlela yokwakha intsapho eyoyolo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, inqanaba lokomoya kufuneka libe lifanayo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba nomgangatho onjenge "imiphefumlo enxulumene". Le binzana ibonakala ngesizathu. Kukho abantu abasakwazi ukuhamba kunye. Babenako ukukwabelana ngezinto ezixabisekileyo ngokomoya, imibono, kwaye ke bakwazi ukukwakha ubomi obusapho bentsapho. Ulwalamano olusondeleyo ngokomoya lunye lweengcamango eziphambili ezinokuthi zibe yimbambiso yentsapho eqinile kunye nesibini esonwabileyo.
Ekugqibeleni kwenzeka, usuku lomtshato wakho lufikile, uvuyo, amehlo akho akhanya ngovuyo, kwaye kubonakala ngathi ihlabathi lonke liyavuya nawe. Isihlandlo sokuqala, emva komcimbi womtshato, yonke into iya kuqhubeka kwinqanaba elifanayo, u-romance, uvuyo olungenammangaliso, ubomi obutsha kunye nomthandayo. Kodwa, emva kwexeshana, yonke into iqala ukutshintsha, sele usufihla imimandla engalunganga yomlingiswa wakho. Emva kwakho konke, umtshato usuphelile, kwaye awusayi kufuna umthandi wakho. Kodwa le yiphutha elikhulu, isiqingatha sesibini sesicatshulwa kufuneka sikwazi ukwamukelwa njengokuba yena.
Kwizinga elihluke ngokupheleleyo libonisa ubomi bentsapho edibeneyo yolwalamano lwabantu ngabanye. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngenxa yengqiqo ephezulu yobomi bemihla ngemihla, ayikho ixesha lokuthandana. Inqanaba elitsha lobudlelwane lithetha ukuba kukho ukuqonda, intlonelo komnye nomnye, ukukwazi ukuwamkela umntu njengokuba kunjalo ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, uthando luya kude, iimvakalelo ezinyanisekileyo zihlala ngonaphakade.