Ukuvuma ngothando kuyamnandi ukuva bonke abafazi. Kodwa amadoda amaninzi athi kubo kuphela ngenxa yokuba okhethiweyo ulinda. Iimvakalelo zinyaniso kunye neenjongo ziya kuba zizenzo ezininzi. Ngexesha elifanayo, iintshukumo azibhekiseli nje ukutshatisa izinto ezintle ngendlela yokutyelela ngothando, izimbali zeentyatyambo, njl njl. Inkcazo kufuneka ihlawulwe kwizinto ezincinci, kuzo zihlandlo ngamanye amaxesha zinobuhlobo bokwenene.
Ukuqala kobudlelwane: indlela yokuqonda ukuba indoda ithandana
Ukuqala kobudlelwane ngethuba lokuthandana. Kodwa ekuqaleni abafazi bahlala bengathandabuzeki, nokuba ngaba iimvakalelo ziyahlukana. Qinisekisa oku ngokulula ngokungekho myalezo:
- isibonakaliso sombuso (ukumomotheka, ukuphakamisa amaconsi, ukujonga ngqo);
- impawu (ukuthintela ngokungaqhelekanga, indoda engaguquki unwele kunye neengubo zakhe, ihlenga amahlombe akhe).
Ngokuqhelekileyo ezi zibonakaliso ezifanayo zididekile kunye neempawu zokukhangwa kwezesondo. Ukuba umntu uqhutyelwa kuphela ngumoya, amehlo akhe aya kukuxabisa, ahlasele umfazi. Ukuthintela - ukuzithemba nokunyaniseka. Uphawu olunye luthando lubonakaliso lwenzala kwiminqweno yowesifazane, ukuthanda nokukhethwa. Le ndoda iya kuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza kumnxibelelwano, ukugcina i-"open" posture (izandla azifihliwe, umzimba uqhubekele phambili). Ngokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane, uqala ukutshintshela izivakalisi "wena" kunye "Ndi" kunye negama elinye - "thina". Ubunzulu beenjongo luboniswa ngumnqweno wokuzisa ibhinqa kubahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakhe.
Indlela indoda enothando iziphatha ngayo ubudlelwane obungapheliyo
Ngaba lo mntu uyamthanda ngokwenene? Umbuzo onjalo uvela ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kowesifazane, kumntu okanye kwikamva ngokubanzi. Ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakhe kuboniswa yimpawu ezimbini ezibalulekileyo:
- Indlela yokuziphatha (isimo sengqondo kumfazi wayo yedwa kunye noluntu, uhlobo lwonyango)
- Izinto eziphambili (impendulo ebubudlelwaneni, ixesha elingakanani uzimisele ukuchitha kunye nomfazi wakhe, ingabe ulungele inkunkuma yenyama).
Ubomi bemihla ngemihla, uthando lomntu lubonakaliswa ngononophelo, inkxaso, impendulo kumfazi wesifazane, ukulungelelanisa. Akayi kucatshukiswa yimimoya, akayi kugculela iimfuno kunye neemfuno zekhethiweyo. Umntu othanda umfazi wakhe akayi kuzama ukutshintsha aze aguqule "ngokwakhe." Akayi kubuyiselwa kwiingxaki zokuqala, kodwa uya kunika ingxaki yokulungisa iingxaki kunye. Ukuqatshelwa kwetyala ngumnye uphawu olungenakuthenjwa obonisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu. Kodwa umona akufanele uthathwe njengomboniso wothando. Ininzi idla ngokufihla ukungaqiniseki komngcipheko kunye nomnqweno wokuzibhokoxa ngexabiso lomlingane.