Umyeni, ebuyela ekhaya, uqala ukuqaphela umonakalo kwindlu kwaye engekho indoda ehlambulukileyo-ngaphandle kokwenza, ukukhathazeka, kwiingubo ezigugu kwaye zihlanjwe. Nangona kunjalo, umfazi emva komtshato usoloko eziva ethanda kakhulu. Kakade, iintyatyambo kunye neesekese zinikezelwa ngomhla we-8 kuMatshi nangosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, ukuba umntu akayikulibala. Ngokuphathelele amakhonsathi asePhilharmonic nakwiindawo zokudlala, umyeni uyakhumbula kaninzi: "Ngoko ukhatywe!" Uze ubeke indawo yokuzonwabisa ngokutya okulula: ithelevishini, ibhola, ubhiya.
Abaqabane baqala ukucinga ukuba uthando ... luphelile. Kwaye ndonwabile kakhulu ngcamango yokuba ngoku ubomi bam bonke ndiza kuhlala kunye nabangathandwayo. Ewe, zidibanise kakhulu: indlu eqhelekileyo, imoto eqhelekileyo, abantwana abaqhelekileyo. Njengomthetho, abantwana abangaqhelekanga abaqhelekileyo. Emva koko, bazali-abacebileyo, kwaye bengaboni ukuba ulwalamano oluhle lo mbini luqulethe izizathu ezininzi kunye nomsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu. Kwaye emva nje komtshato, abaninzi abayiqondi kakuhle ukuba ubomi bentsapho buyakhiwa njani. Nangona kunjalo, ngokumalunga nomtshato emva komtshato, kulula ukuqonda ukuba lo mtshato uya kuvuya. Ngokomzekelo, kukho izibini ezizikhutheleyo ukuze zenze uvuyo lwentsapho. Baxubana nomnye nomonde kunye nokuqonda, kwaye ukuba akulula ukudibanisana - uye kwi-psychoanalyst. Ingcali iza kunika iingcebiso ezihambelana nesimo esithile esinzima kwintsapho ethile. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imigaqo jikelele ekufuneka ilandelwe.
- Zama ukuqonda ulwimi lomntu osondele kuwe. Yaye ukuba kukho into engacacile - cacisa . Ngokomzekelo, unqwenela ukufumanisa isitifiketi esitsha esihle sezemidlalo nje ngobukhulu bakho, owakubonayo kutshanje kwisitolo esiseduze. Unqume ukusebenzisa inkohliso yezobupolisi, kwaye bathi: "Ukudada, uyazi, kubonakala ngathi ndifumene ncinane ..." Le ngcaciso yomsindo ingaxutywa kunye nalesi sihloko. Ngokomzekelo, faka ikhadi lomthi weKrisimesi kwiziko lezempilo. Yaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba uphelele, kodwa ngenxa yokuba udidekile ngamacentimitha akho.
- Cinga ngendlela umtshato wakho oza kusakhiwa ngaphambi komtshato . Abaninzi abatshatileyo abacinga ukuba baya kuhlala njani kunye. Ewe, ekuthandeni - yonke into ibonakala ngepinki. Awuyikucinga ngento leyo, kodwa into enjani - ubomi bentsapho. Umtshato ubonakala umda wamaphupha. Kwaye kubonakala ukuba kukho ubomi emva komtshato. Kwaye kufuneka isibini sisebenze kanzima ukuqinisekisa ukuba olu bomi luvuyayo kwaye luvisisana.
- Musa ukudibanisa uthando nothando . Ekuqaleni wacinga ukuba nalo mntu ulungele ukuhlala ubomi bakho bonke. Ukuba uyabulumko kwaye uyabumnandi, kwaye usebenza nzima, kwaye uhlakaniphile kakhulu. Kwasa kusasa emva komtshato, isigqubuthelo sothando sasilala kwaye ufumene ukuba wavuswa ngasemva kwendoda ekhulile, ekhulile, ekhulile-ephakamileyo-efundiswayo, yena, kwisikolo sokufundela, wayesele ekhutshiwe ngenxa yobunxila. Yaye akukho msebenzi onzima-uhlala ebusika, kunokuba utshintshe ubomi bentsapho. Ngaba bekufanele uvuyo lwemali ebekelwe imali emtshatweni, ixesha kunye neentsholongwane ongasayichitha ngokuqhawula umtshato.
- Qaphela abantwana . Abantwana bafanele baphile ngokuvisisana. Ngoko ke, ukukhulelwa ngokwawo, ngaphandle kwemvakalelo ejulile kunye nengqiqo-akuyiyo yonke into yomtshato. Mhlawumbi kunyanisekileyo ukuvuma ukuba uyise womntwana uyamqonda emva kokuzalwa kwaye uya kukunyamekela aze akhokhe i-alimony? Kwaye ke umonakalo womlingane obophelelwe ngentsapho entolongweni ayiyi kubonakalisa kuphela ekuthembekeni kwakho, kodwa nakuwe nakumntwana wakho. Umntwana ke ngoko, akukho nto ityala. Kuyafana kumtshato. Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba ujabule omnye nomnye, thandana? Omkhulu. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bafanele baphile ngothando, kwintsapho evuya kwaye epheleleyo.