Kabini ujoyine umlambo womtshato

Kwafuneka ndifike emlanjeni womtshato kabini, kuba umanyano ongunaphakade nomyeni wokuqala akazange asebenze? Akukho mntu uthi oku kwenzeka njalo, kodwa kwenzeka njalo. Umtshato wokuqala udlalwa ngokubanzi (enkulu kakhulu ehlabathini) uthando ngonaphakade. Othandekayo ubonakala ephelele ... kwaye ngokukhawuleza wehla ukusuka kulo mzila ukuya kumhlaba wangempela, kwaye ukusuka apho kudla ukuya kwiindawo eziphantsi. Emva kwexesha lokutywala izitya, ukubetha izandla, ukwabelana ngeepane kunye nokucinga okukrakra ngesihloko esithi "umntu uyisohlwayo esivela ngasentla," umzuzu wokukhanya ukhangela. Uyabona ukuba izityalo ezimnandi zijikeleza ngeenxa zonke, kwaye amadoda ayikayikrele njengoko ayenayo kwaye akhathalela wena ngenomdla omkhulu. Uziva ukuba ufuna ukuba umntu abe kufuphi kufuphi novuyo nosizi! Nangona kunjalo, kunye nomntu obonakala ecaleni, siziphatha ngokucophelela. Kakade ke, uthando. Ukutshata, okuhlala kulungile, kubiza. Kodwa ngandlela-thile ucinga: ngulo, kwakhona kuxhomekeka? Kuthetha - kwakhona ukuxabana? Okanye ulinde? Okanye mhlawumbi "ngandlela-thile"? Kodwa mhlawumbi kuyafaneleka ukuzama-nje ngandlela-thile ... ngenye indlela?

Qaphela kuphela
Ukungena kabini emlanjeni womtshato kuyinyathelo elinzima ukuba akulula ukwenza. Kule nkalo yomtshato wesibini - ukulinganisa okukhulu kwazo zonke izigqibo - zombini izinto ezilungileyo nezimbi ezivela kuyo.

Ezintle:
1. Ukuzama ukuphindaphinda iimpazamo zangaphambilini. Asisayi kwenza into yokuqala. IMedilim, sijonge kakhulu, sinokulinganisa ngaphambi kokuba sinqumle size sinqume.
2. Ukususela kumyeni wesibini akulindelekanga uthando olungunaphakade kunye nemibono kuyo yonke into. Kuza ukuqonda ukuba wonke umntu uneempazamo zakhe, kunye nokuzimisela kokuziphatha ukuhlala kunye nabo.
3. Usuke uziqonda kakuhle iimfuno zakho, unendawo yakho ecacileyo kuyo yonke indawo yobomi obuqhelekileyo, kwaye kungekhona nje into engacacile "ukuba yonke into ifanele ibe njengengqungquthela." Ngoko cwangcisa ubomi bunengqiqo kwaye buhle.

Ukungalungi:
1. Le ndoda enokuzikhumbuza inokuyilumkisa ngokubanda. Kwaye umfazi ngokwakhe kwindawo enzulu yentliziyo yakhe ufuna "ukutshisa" kwakhona, kwaye ke - luhlobo luni lokuqikelela kwimiba yeenhliziyo, ngokwenene!
2. Kuvela ngokukhawuleza ukuthelekiswa okungazibandakanyeki phakathi "komnye" kunye "nomnye". Ukuba intsha ayifuni kwixesha langaphambili, lihlambalaza. Yaye ukuba ufunda ngale nto, kuya kuba kubi nakakhulu kuye. Kwakhona, ukuvakalelwa kukuba "oku kungagqiba njengoko kuphelile oko kwakubonakala kungunaphakade, okanye ngokukhawuleza," akunako ukukhululeka.
3. Yena, ngokunokwenzeka, nayo yonke into isele yenziwe kakuhle kwaye yenziwe. Xa imigaqo iqina, kuba nzima ukuyilungisa ngokubhekiselele kwimeko kwaye ukulungelelanisa nomntu. Nangona ubuninzi bobuncinci bobudala, njengokuba, kunciphisa ubuncinane ...

Kwakhona okufanayo
Nangona-bekuya kuba lula ukululazela ukuba zonke izinto ngaphandle kokungena ngaphandle ziza kulwalamano olushushu kwaye luyinkimbinkimbi. Kule meko, umtshato wesibini uya kuba, njengommiselo, owokugqibela - ngandlela-thile, emva kwabo abaza kutshatyalaliswa kwakhona. Kwaye, ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha ayinamandla ngakumbi kuneyokuqala ... Yonke ngenxa yokuba "phakathi kwexesha lokuqala neyesibini" lokupholisa nokucinga "akubona bonke abafazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo iintombi ziphonswa emlilweni ziye emlilweni - ukulibala umoni, okanye ukumcaphukisa, okanye ukungabi yedwa. Ukuphindaphinda okunjalo kunokusona ngokuthe tye ngokuphinda iimeko ezifanayo. Kufunyaniswa ukuba elinye iqabane elitsha lifana nelokuba lidlulelwe ngenye indlela - xa lingekho ngomzimba, ngoko ngemikhwa, ngokuqinisekileyo! Yaye imeko, ngokubanzi, iyaqondakala. Xa utshintsho kwiimeko alitshintshi, iindlela ezifanayo kunye neengcamango ezifanayo zihlala ... Iingcali zengqondo zibiza le "gestalt engapheliyo". Ngokwenza oko, unokudlala naliphi inani lamaxesha. Enyanisweni, i-kink kwelinye icala lingahle libe ngcono: ukuhlalutya "ngokucokisekileyo" "into endiyiphutha ngayo ngelo xesha", intombazana ingabonisa ukunyaniseka nokuthobela kwakhe ngokoqobo ngokuzibophelela ezintanjeni ezinzima ... Uziphatha njani , ukuba ufuna ukufumana phakathi phakathi "ukuhlalutya nokuqwalasela into ongayifuni ukuphinda" kwaye "ucoce umbhobho weememori ukuze ungabi nantoni na into ehamba ngayo"? Lobu bugcisa obukhulu ukungena kabini emlanjeni womtshato, oko kukuthi, ngomtshato wesibini!

Iinkonzo zamahhala
Ukongezelela kwiintliziyo ezimbini ezithatha isigqibo esisodwa, izinto ezininzi kunye nabathathi-nxaxheba abatsha bavela emtshatweni wesibili:
1. Abantwana abasuka kwimitshato yangaphambili. Kwiimeko ezininzi, bayamkela utshintsho ebomini babomi babo kubazali babo ngamabhononti. Kodwa kaninzi oku akunjalo inzondo yangempela, kodwa ukuphendula okuqinisekisayo. Ukuze ube ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kwakho, kodwa kungabi yinto yokudlala, kufuneka umntu abe nesigxina. Ukungena kabini emlanjeni womtshato kuyinyathelo elijongene nawe kunye nabathandekayo bakho.
2. Isiqingatha sangaphambili sesiqingatha sakho esitsha. Kwangathi kungavela kunye nemibonakalo ("Uhlala usebenza kuyo, ndihlala ndihlamba izicathulo zakhe") okanye ngeengcebiso ("Musa ukupheka ukutya okunamafutha, ukhula ngokukhawuleza"). Kungcono ukunqanda ezo ngcebiso: uya kuziqonda ngokwakho.
3. Izihlobo ezinonwabileyo okanye ezingonwabi ngokuhlaziya. Behave ngoxolo baze bafunde.